I'm breaking all records here, going on 10 years. I feel like the relationship has dried up. My man is no fun anymore. The sex life is down the drain. We are in our late 30's. Please offer your best advice!

Orgy

recognize it

talk about it

fix it


or lose it

Nawww...that's not breaking all the records IMO, lol. My parents have been together for 50 years. I was in a relationship for 12 years in my late 30's.

People get in their ruts. There are ways to spice things up.

Talk about it. Good advice.

Having an intimate encounter isn't going to make it better, IMO.

Start picking your partner's brain about things they want to do, you may already know them, and plan those things out.
Each of you do something with the other that they really find interesting and have not done.
It is kind of like dating all over again...

My parents did a lot of this sort of thing before my Mother took ill.

They have been together 34 years this year.

i have to agree sex don't solve everthing but talking is the key if both people know there is a problem and want to fix it it can be fixed...remember why you are together in the first place and think about why you are still together for so long..

I am not married but I have been in a long term relationship. I am simply giving my thoughts...If your husband loves you, which i am sure he does, then you two should sit down and talk about it. Then once you have acknowledged what the issues are, for both of you, not just him, then, try to come up with a solution...if theres something he can tell you to work on yourself to improve the relationship then make that note, then discuss what he can improve. Once all that is out and in the open you guys can set up a plan on making it work.

Might I also suggest that you guys should set up a date night on the weekend, or whenever. Pretend you don't know each other, I know it sounds funny and might feel akward, but trust me it will work. You two will start to re-learn things about each other, and learn new things about each other. I know it's a long response but I feel that you two have been together too long to let your relationship desolve. I wish you the best of luck, and hope you and husband work everything out.

Just remember why you feel in love him in the first place, and love is powerful if both of you work on it.

Get urself a copy of the book "Love Dare" follow it, u'll thank urself when ur finished.

Well your on the right track...being on a date site will either screw it up or screw it up! besides your one step in the right direction for starting up a new one.

Nice first post.

Welcome to Mingle.

Just like everyone else is saying...communication, communication, communication. Without it nothing works...and yes someone has to make that first step in that direction, it doesn't matter you or him as long as it starts.

Thanks! Winx!!