So..I've been thinking about this a lot lately and it was brought to my attention again yesterday..

I am not the skinniest girl in the bunch.. but my weight is pretty much natural. I haven't gained or lost any weight in the past couple of years and it just frustrates me when a guy brings up my weight =/ like yesterday:

A guy pretty much called me fat.. to my face and seemingly felt no remorse for what he had said. And I told him "Well I am sorry I am not not a tall flawless skeleton"
Everyone has flaws and it is unfair to judge people based off the beautiful and glamorous people they see on the television.

What happened to guys judging you for your personality and not your weight?

And I'm not even all that hefty really =/
I'm 5 ft 1 and 135 pounds. So I have a bit of a curvaceous body but I am not going to go out of my way to go anorexic for picky men.

So.. either love me the way I am or don't bother wasting insults on me. I will not change to fit in with society.

So is this some random guy that's just spewing trash or someone you know?

You're right, if you're comfortable with YOU - then screw everyone else.

Does he wonder why he is single?

I looked at your pics, they look ok to me.

I am 5'4...and have a small muffin belly...

Do not worry about what he said, there's 2 more, that think your perfect,to his one opinion.


I do not worry about being "a few extra pounds" anymore,I feel sexy,the way I am.

Keep a positive attitude...

Aww honey, I think you're a doll.

Laugh at those men. They will end up with those skinny, superficial biotches who are dramatic, nagging, greedy golddiggers and making love to them is like F-ing a warm glass of water.

Hold your head up and wait for a decent man.

My daughters explained to me what 'Muffin tops' are.

What type of guys are you going for?

lolol.....


I got a small one...not to bad...after 2 c-sections...and alot of beer. .lol...

But, I do not try to hide it either got pics.. on profile...

this isn't the way guys work.
don't get me wrong, we take personality into consideration, but it can't be 100% personality and 0% looks. for guys it's usually got to be at least 50/50.
i admit that i can be pretty superficial when it comes to the women i'm attracted to, but that doesn't mean that i'm only attracted to barbies.
IMO i think that you are an attractive girl. yes you have curves. no you're not barbie doll. i'd still consider dating you if you were in my age range.
younger guys are usually more wrapped up in looks. you may have to deal with that for a few years or date older guys. or maybe just find a guy who likes you for the great girl you are.


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Most people who have read my posts know. That I am very adamant about "weight issues" and women. so before I said anything at all on this post I did go look at your profile. and this is what I found in my opinion.



Honesty... you didn't claim to be a barbie as a matter of fact just the opposite. you did sate a "few extra pounds" and that is who you are. And as Drew said, I also tend to want to date "barbies" if you must use that term. But the point is I also would date you if we were in the right age group. There is nothing wrong with your apprearence or your body.. But I will say this your 19 and as you grow older you will also grow in weight. It is up to you how you want to look and not anyone else (includes me)... tell the butthead to take a hike .

Duck, I'll give you ten million dollars if our OP here grows one centimeter.

I've been 5'8" since I was ELEVEN. Girls grow in puberty and not after. Once a girl is finished with puberty, she's done. Boys can can have spurts several times and up until they are 18-21, but not so with girls, unless that is when they finish puberty.

FYI

You are fine Rei, do not get caught in a vicious circle of doubting yourself because of a few extra pounds, that will kill your self-confidence and make you unattractive more so than any weight issue. You are fine the way you are. As they say: the bigger the cushion, the better the pushing; the wider the waistband the deeper the quicksand; the .... well you get the idea.

I'm pretty fly for a fat guy

Hope you are right I would like to be wrong. BUT. some do grow in weight. It is also proven that your more then likely to stay with in 15 lbs of your weight when you reach 25. And you are forgetting other factors. Like health issues? eating habits all can change over the years... I have been the same weight for years at least the last 25 years . Till recently I gained 10 lbs .. It happens. All I am saying is she is an attractive young lady hope she stays that way.

Duck are you talking about the college weight?

That comes from sitting and studying.... and drinking, and fourthmeal. There is no real indication people overall gain weight until they have kids, get married, or encounter hormonal or health problems. (Ok unless they just pig out)

OK, just so you know, I don't make a habit of looking at other women's profile, but I looked at yours. You are SO cute, and he was shallow, blind or both to only see a fat person. You're not fat. I wish I looked as good as you do. Don't let the ba*#a&ds get you down. (I wish I could remember that phrase in Latin.)

Mmmmpwua! You are, and you've been kissed! ( on the cheek. anywhere else might not be appropriate.)

There are guys who will go for personality and not just looks. You just have to be patient and one will show up . You are cute, though, so I doubt you'll have any problems!

You are a sensual and beautiful woman, as for me I am happy that there is so many stuck up men who only thinks skinny is beautiful because it leaves all the gorgeous curvy and rounded woman (the way a woman should be)for me and me alone .

So just forget those narrow minded jerks and stay the beauty you are and one day a man with intelligence will see the real you inside and see that it matches the beauty you are outside.

YOU LOOK CUTE AND SEXY TO ME......