Im a gentleman and I have found that some of the younger women dont want that.They feel offended a lil when I try and get the door.Like I can get that myself.So sometimes Im wonderin if I should or not lol.Ive had some that liked the thought of a gentleman and some didnt.

I think sometimes that it's a matter of not wanting to look "weak". It takes time and maturity to understand that allowing a man to open a door doesn't make you any less of a woman, and respecting chivalry in a man doesn't mean that you lose any of your independence.

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In my area, men usually do open the doors to buildings for me. They also open the doors for my child. We both smile and thank them. It's nice when someone does that for us.

I want to THANK all the true gentlemen of the world......IT's by the standers you have set for me that i measure what a man should be...

another gentleman overlooked here again

i do that sort of thing.


but in general, why would we men act like gentlemen when women more and more seem to like the guys that treat them like garbage. gentlemanly behavior is practically looked at as weekness. we nice guys are getting tired of the jerks getting the girls and we're starting to catch on. some of us are learning to not be so nice.

if women want a guy to open doors for them and throw their coats over puddles and such, they need to start appreciating those men a little bit more and not leave those guys in the friend zone while they're off banging the headboard against the wall with the bad boy.
IMO


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I, for one, WANT a gentleman. A man who knows how to treat a lady. One who is respectful; kind; hardworking; takes pride in himself; talks to say something - not just hear the sound of his own voice.

The only time I don't want a gentleman is behind our closed bedroom door. That is when I want him to be dominant, take charge and tell me what he wants - hold the manners, please

i can understand this. it's been my experience though that guys with manners are considered to be boring and women want a guy who's exciting. for some reason, it's thought that if a man is considered boring in one aspect that it will carry through in all aspects.

have we ever heard the saying "It's always the quiet ones."?
just because a man is proper and well mannered in public doesn't mean he's not gonna set the bedroom on fire.


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Drew,

I wouldn't even consider being with a man that doesn't have manners. I deserve no less.

I don't have the answer to that Drew.

Maybe it has to do with the woman's self esteem.

I LIKE men with manners, jmo.

and i agree. i won't be with a girl who is rude to people.
being well mannered is synnonomous with being a nice guy. and women are notorious for bypassing the nice guy.


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I don't look at it as being synonymous with being a nice guy. I look at no manners as a lack of class - no upbringing and a lack of respect for women.

Not all women, doll.

you can't be a nice guy and have any of those things. IMO


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Maybe I worded it wrong. It's late for me. There are men with some class and men with no class. There are men with a good upbringing and men with a bad upbringing.

Btw, "bad boys" may have had a good upbringing and have manners. They trick the ladies with them. lol