I'd say the situation is likely not as bad as it seems. Or, if it is,
and I were truly concerned, oh, I'd push the issue, all right. I'd hound
some sense into her head. I'd certainly not walk away from it...not
until I exhausted a fair amount of energy trying to help remove her from
the situation.

People who are going through tough times need emotional support; they
don't need people who care about them to abandon them.

If, after you've done "everything" you can to help and she still refuses
to leave, then at that point, I'd just sit by the sidelines and let her
know you'll be there for her if she needs emotional (or other) help.

I agree with jean, you can show you care and offer your support but
ultimately the person(s) involved have to make their own decisions
regarding the situation.

That reminds me of a joke I heard once:

How many shrinks does it take to change a lightbulb?
Only one, but it has to really want to change.

SheNerd :)

911 WILL HELP,TRUST MEEEE IT WORKS.

Ask the lady to read this..Annie said it helped her decide to leave..
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Woman's Fate (Sweet Red Rose)
By Bobby7


Annie, come sit here with me.
Let's talk about what's yet to be.
You're still confused about this world,
and how men treat a decent girl.
So let me set your mind at rest;
Annie, you deserve the very best.

You must be allowed to smile,
or just sit back and think awhile...
Of all the years that you have missed,
through being hurt instead of kissed.
I really just don't understand,
what kind of monster, beast or man,

Could do to you the things he's done.
What hollow victory has he won?
He took a child, that's what you were,
then beat you as he would a cur.
He bent your mind and warped your soul.
.He left you bitter, hurt, and cold.

He bruised your body, broke your heart,
and ripped your hopes and dreams apart.
You should never feel ashamed,
for he alone must bear the blame.
Though you may hurt a little longer,
his hate will serve to make you stronger.

I can't atone for what he's done,
but you deserve to see the sun.
And if I could only find a way,
you'd bask in sunshine every day.
And all your sorrow, and your pain,
would fade away, like April's rain.

Listen girl, you hold the power
to grow and blossom like a flower.
And when you spread your petals wide,
you'll taste the love so long denied.

And when you've bloomed, well, this man knows...

You'll put to shame

- The Sweet Red Rose –





©Bobby7/2006

Shadow,
I do have to reply to this, I have been beaten,had all my teeth knocked
out, busted ribs, broken fingers and a great deal of mental and
emotional abuse. Thats been over for 2 almost 3 years now. I (just I)
had to help myself first no one could do it for me , it only made things
worse. I was put in a battered womens shelter for almost 6 months. It
isnt that easy to get help either. I still to this am terrified of men
and relationships. Mine might be extreme but I am learning to deal with
it. There is nothing you can do first off. She has to do it all for
herself. My abusive relationship lasted 13 years.
I wanted out and never had the courage until almost 3 years ago.
All you can do is support her until she is ready to get out and she
makes the first move.

Sorry for rambling but this is the first time for me to even have the
courage to post my thoughts on this.

I only replied because it hits close to home
sorry guys

you cant help someone who doesnt want to help them selves,unfortunateley
thats the way it is...its sad but thats how it is

Oparh had a wonderful show on this today
she is suppose to have one (I think on the 24th) interviewing the kids
in the family.

Thanks joyce I didnt know about it

Fallen, thanks for posting, I understand totally where you are coming
from. I was in the same boat, dislocated jaw, broken teeth,
concussions, guns, etc. It takes courage to leave a relationship like
that. He swore he would kill me if I left. For whatever reason she is
staying, she will have to make her own decision, and eventually will, in
her own time.

I am so glad you got out. I worked in the prison system for 17 years and
typed and read criminal history summaries about women who were murdered
by their spouses/boyfriends, I am really glad you are safe now. Take
care.

Thank you Marie
Somedays are good and somedays arent so good.
I know I couldve been one of them on those summaries
but I had to find the strength through my daughters

I do still have alot of problems but getting better anout them now
It just takes time.

Same here, had to get my daughter out of there and protect her from him.
He was a drunk and in a rage a lot of the time, she was what kept me
going and gave me the strength to get out too.

It takes time, but you will make it. Take care. You have already taken
the hardest step, getting out.