Why am I so open and free and talkative online when if I hang out with a guy in real life I get all shy..even if he knows everything about me and we've been talking for a while?

I feel like I'm living two lives and I dislike it because the hyper-active sort of person that I am online is who I really am and I show my true self to my friends but I guess I just have a hard time opening up to guys?

Perhaps its the fact that I have been hurt and my trust in mankind has withered over the years =/ but I wish I didn't feel like I was lying to people.

I think your "problem" is that you are........Human

Always be yourself! No matter how hard it feels!
Everyone gets hurt but don't let that change who you really are
And let the world see you..the real you!!!

I'm not the only one then? =/

Part of the problem could be that I pretty much grew up on the internet..I think I was about 10 yrs old when I first learned all about it so I'm just more comfortable typing than talking in person?

-le sigh-

But I've grown less shy over time also =)

It's easy to be talkative and extrovert online because nobody on an internet site knows you nor ever will. Opinions of internet people don't really matter and therefore you don't have to be accountable for what you say, so you feel more relaxed and say what's on your mind. In fact, it's almost as if you're just talking to yourself, thinking out loud, or writing in a diary.

Ah.. that is quite true. But usually I end up meeting the people I talk to online.. but it's been a while since I've dared to step outside my house.

And when you meet them, do you talk much?

I think when you are online its quite easy to be open. Typed words and pics are very different then voices and faces. Just be yourself and be open like you are.

I know I'm gonna get jacked for this...but I'm also old enough to not give a rat's ass about it... Sweetheart...you are 19yrs old...way too young to be so jaded... Live your life a lil bit more...then come back & see how you feel...

Signed, Been there, done that, Phuque...

I concur, 19 is WAY too young to be jaded and Phuque you're not much older!

Ahhh .....yer a babe yerself Phuque!

True! I'm only old enough to be her...waaaaaaaaaaay older sister! hahahaha!

Trying to compliment here.......lol

You're NEVER too young to be jaded -- trust me!

Firstly, if ur shy, then that is who u really r too....if ur distrustful, thats different imo.

Ur 19, and will prob experience heartache more than once in ur life, like the rest of us, thats life unfortunately. At 19, u have only just begun to experience life as an adult, so im guessing u dont have too much experience just yet.

Also, where do lies connect to this? wat lies r u telling?

I'm not really telling lies.. but by being so open and what not on here.. I feel like I am not being truthful in person.
Like my ex for example.. even though I actually met him in real life.. I was much more talkative online than I was when we hung out =/

But I guess everyone is right.. I am 19 but I feel older.. and I don't have a whole lot of experience to be worrying =/

Maybe u were more talkative online cos u werent happy or comfortable with ur ex?

So, am i allowed to ask what ur s/n means?

Oh boy : D
Are you really sure you want to know how much of a nerd I am?
lol

Well.. like I said I started using the Internet when I was around 10 years old and a few years after that I got into Anime and such which is Japanese Animation.

I frequented Anime sites but never really had a good user name.. until I asked a friend to give me a good one and he recommended Rei, from Neon Genesis Evangelion which is som Sci-Fi ish Anime. I never really watched it, but she had blue hair so I thought that was B.A.

So the name Rei stuck and now I use that for pretty much all of my names.. but not being the only human on the planet to know/and like the name Rei I decided that I needed to change up my username.. so I was going to use IAmRei .. but I figured... normal English is boring.. so I made it IAreRei which is totally incorrect grammar.. BUT! It can also be thought of as the IRA lol.

So yep.. I use IAreRei for pretty much every chat site : D cuz I'm a total nerd..and now everyone knows.