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Topic: How long should person wait ?
Jimmy59's photo
Tue 04/14/09 11:55 PM
How many years after ones souse gos to heaven should they wait to start dating ? what
(We all know every one grieves different)

TheCaptain's photo
Tue 04/14/09 11:56 PM
Wait until you don't need to anymore.

no photo
Tue 04/14/09 11:59 PM
It took my best friend 10 years.......she was so sad!!brokenheart and it was really hard for me to watch her pining for her dead husband......ohwell

But now she has found the love of her life and living with him soooooooo I guess there is life after death???bigsmile

FearandLoathing's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:00 AM

Wait until you don't need to anymore.


Aye.smokin

Neurofriction's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:01 AM
When you feel ready. Would they want you to be alone? No reason to wait unless you just can't move on yet. Doesn't matter what anyone thinks but you in that situation.

Jill298's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:02 AM
As long as it takes. If you try dating before you're ready it will be a disaster. There's no real right or wrong answer to this.

no photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:03 AM
huh How longs it been jimmy???

Jill298's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:03 AM
Some people never date again... take my grandparents for example. she never dated or married again because she was so in love with her husband that she felt if she married again, she wouldn't "join him on the other side"

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:04 AM

Wait until you don't need to anymore.
Thanks sometimes it feels like it never ends.
Then when I feel I'm ready the dreams start again and I'm back at the beging.
Almost four years now not trying to wine I just have to get the sh....t out in order to stay ahead of the pain sorry to you all.

Engraven_Image's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:05 AM
Me, I wouldn't remarry after having found the woman that Honestly has loved me and Blessed me with sharing our lives together until G-d calls us home. Alot of people do not beleive in marriage existing in Heaven, but I do. I'd wait my whole life to see her again and to be reunited with her.

However, neither G-d nor the spouse would want to see you hurt being lonely. When you're ready, you will know. Just don't bring the grief into a relationship, so that the relationship you go into will flourish and you both will be happy. The next spouse will have deserved that just as much as the first.

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:06 AM

It took my best friend 10 years.......she was so sad!!brokenheart and it was really hard for me to watch her pining for her dead husband......ohwell

But now she has found the love of her life and living with him soooooooo I guess there is life after death???bigsmile
Thanks your a sweet heart

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:06 AM

When you feel ready. Would they want you to be alone? No reason to wait unless you just can't move on yet. Doesn't matter what anyone thinks but you in that situation.
Thanks

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:07 AM

Some people never date again... take my grandparents for example. she never dated or married again because she was so in love with her husband that she felt if she married again, she wouldn't "join him on the other side"
I loved her with all my being she told me to move on

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:11 AM

Me, I wouldn't remarry after having found the woman that Honestly has loved me and Blessed me with sharing our lives together until G-d calls us home. Alot of people do not beleive in marriage existing in Heaven, but I do. I'd wait my whole life to see her again and to be reunited with her.

However, neither G-d nor the spouse would want to see you hurt being lonely. When you're ready, you will know. Just don't bring the grief into a relationship, so that the relationship you go into will flourish and you both will be happy. The next spouse will have deserved that just as much as the first.

I found this to be true. As soon as I started to talk about my feeling it seemed to send me pulling back. The reason I'm asking I had found someone and I'm pulling back again because of the dreams about my wife.

TheCaptain's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:12 AM
My wife would want me to be happy. I can imagine that she smiles when she thinks about me, and the love I have found.

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:18 AM
Edited by Jimmy59 on Wed 04/15/09 12:19 AM

My wife would want me to be happy. I can imagine that she smiles when she thinks about me, and the love I have found.
I do believe this also thanks I needed this you guys help me and others so much.flowerforyou :smile: :smile:

Gams's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:18 AM
Depends on ones definition of dating!
In all fairness to yourself and another? When ones heart can once again be open to allow another in.

Engraven_Image's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:19 AM


Me, I wouldn't remarry after having found the woman that Honestly has loved me and Blessed me with sharing our lives together until G-d calls us home. Alot of people do not beleive in marriage existing in Heaven, but I do. I'd wait my whole life to see her again and to be reunited with her.

However, neither G-d nor the spouse would want to see you hurt being lonely. When you're ready, you will know. Just don't bring the grief into a relationship, so that the relationship you go into will flourish and you both will be happy. The next spouse will have deserved that just as much as the first.

I found this to be true. As soon as I started to talk about my feeling it seemed to send me pulling back. The reason I'm asking I had found someone and I'm pulling back again because of the dreams about my wife.
Well, then the ball is in your court, but I would say this... if you have already found someone, don't let her down. She may be what G-d is trying to Bless you with and she may be part of G-d's plan for your life.

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:20 AM

Depends on ones definition of dating!
In all fairness to yourself and another? When ones heart can once again be open to allow another in.
Good way to look at this thankshappy

Jimmy59's photo
Wed 04/15/09 12:21 AM
Edited by Jimmy59 on Wed 04/15/09 12:22 AM

This is helping

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