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how many men feel truly comfortable being "taken care of" by their wife and girlfriend? and how many women feel truly comfortable over a long period of time doing so?  There are so many ways to be "taken care of".. Financially which alot of times is the easiest. Emotionally which can be draining Sexually hope you are compatible. I think that no one should be taken care of on a long term basis without giving back. Everything is a balance nothing should be expected of another person because of their sex. For Example My sister has been the breadwinner in her family for over 10 years my brother in law couldn't return to the job he was trained to do, my sister always wanted to be a special Ed teacher. The slowly slipped into evolving the roles. My brother in law and Sister would be highly offended if someone ever told them that He was a kept man because she was the bread winner. Like she said has anyone priced the cost of a nanny/housekeeper lately they make damn good money.. Anyone that stays at home taking care of the family is working their asses off just as hard or sometimes harder than the one out in the world. JMO. Great topic BTW |
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how many men feel truly comfortable being "taken care of" by their wife and girlfriend? and how many women feel truly comfortable over a long period of time doing so? Well, here's the rub on that one. I'm not comfortable being "taken care of" by a guy. For one thing, I love my job, and would go crazy not being able to do it. And, if a woman is seeking to be taken care of by "her" man, wouldn't that drop her into the category of "gold digger" that I see so many posts complaining about? |
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The same 'role' as the woman's. This is modern day and not 1950 and back 200 years -- and more. The man can be the bread winner or stay home and be the parent that is primamry homemaker. The woman can be the primamry homemaker or the break winner. Or, both can work. If they are breeders than family or childcare can take care of the litter! Equality, especially in this economy, is a must! I don't buy into the gender roles. in one of my classes at school i was told that in theory its all well and good... and progressive...for a man to be the caretaker and the woman to be the breadwinner in theory... but in practice those marriages have a greater failure rate than when the inverse is true. soo... there just might be something to this gender role thing. I don't believe everything that I read or hear at the university. Critical Thinking is a great class. If you haven't taken it yet -- I suggest doing so. It will teach you the skills to sort through 'studies' and baseless data. |
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To love me!
To worship me! To cater to me! To please me! |
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how many men feel truly comfortable being "taken care of" by their wife and girlfriend? and how many women feel truly comfortable over a long period of time doing so? There are so many ways to be "taken care of".. Financially which alot of times is the easiest. Emotionally which can be draining Sexually hope you are compatible. I think that no one should be taken care of on a long term basis without giving back. Everything is a balance nothing should be expected of another person because of their sex. For Example My sister has been the breadwinner in her family for over 10 years my brother in law couldn't return to the job he was trained to do, my sister always wanted to be a special Ed teacher. The slowly slipped into evolving the roles. My brother in law and Sister would be highly offended if someone ever told them that He was a kept man because she was the bread winner. Like she said has anyone priced the cost of a nanny/housekeeper lately they make damn good money.. Anyone that stays at home taking care of the family is working their asses off just as hard or sometimes harder than the one out in the world. JMO. Great topic BTW Eggggzzzzeleeeeent point! If I was in a successful 'role' reversal marriage, I would be highly offended that statics said we should fail. I think the same is true for casual observers that aren't actually involved. Do what works for the marriage and don't let outside influences dictate our lives. 
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I don't believe everything that I read or hear at the university. Critical Thinking is a great class. If you haven't taken it yet -- I suggest doing so. It will teach you the skills to sort through 'studies' and baseless data. there's a difference between not believing everything you read at university, and not believing anything you read at university. i never said i believed without a shadow of doubt what was being said. i think i put forward my alternate point of view with a "might" in there somewhere if you care to read it again. just trying to engage a conversation here and my critical thinking is fine thanks for wondering 
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I don't believe everything that I read or hear at the university. Critical Thinking is a great class. If you haven't taken it yet -- I suggest doing so. It will teach you the skills to sort through 'studies' and baseless data. there's a difference between not believing everything you read at university, and not believing anything you read at university. i never said i believed without a shadow of doubt what was being said. i think i put forward my alternate point of view with a "might" in there somewhere if you care to read it again. just trying to engage a conversation here and my critical thinking is fine thanks for wondering Ok 
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Hell, when you think about it...marriage fails enough on its own, it really doesn't need any help by gender. The lesson in this all? Don't get married, don't suffer an aneurysm (marriage is the leading cause of aneurysms).
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what do you think the man's role in a relationship is supposed to be? To hold the couch down and guard the house while you're working 2 jobs.To give you someone to fetch slippers and beer for. Someone who gives you the reason to look for the remote, my pants, car keys, etc. Give you someone, with a hearing aide so it can be turned down, to tell all about how rough a day you had and all the stuff you found at the yard sales. To give you those satisfying nods even though he's not really paying attention. Did I miss anything? Ready ta' git hitched yet? 
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Edited by
Meg8771
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Tue 04/07/09 06:11 PM
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Alright everyone, please do not throw things at me too hard!
It is my OWN personal belief that a man should be honored as the head of the household: loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. As a woman who is in love with that man - I want him to make decisions, with my input, on what is best for US. I want him to know that I am his partner, will support him, love him and do whatever I can for him so that in 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we can stand side by side, look back at the path we have traveled together, and smile as we see wht we have accomplished, through the good and the bad. I have been in a relationship where I have been the decsion maker, the one who has been the primary person in charge of everything, and I didn't like it. As the song goes: I want a man to stand beside me, not in front of or behind me, give me two arms that want to hold me, not own me, and I'll give all the love in my heart, stand beside me.... Just my very humble opinion..... 
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Alright everyone, please do not throw things at me too hard! It is my OWN personal belief that a man should be honored as the head of the household: loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. As a woman who is in love with that man - I want him to make decisions, with my input, on what is best for US. I want him to know that I am his partner, will support him, love him and do whatever I can for him so that in 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we can stand side by side, look back at the path we have traveled together, and smile as we see wht we have accomplished, through the good and the bad. I have been in a relationship where I have been the decsion maker, the one who has been the primary person in charge of everything, and I didn't like it. As the song goes: I want a man to stand beside me, not in front of or behind me, give me two arms that want to hold me, not own me, and I'll give all the love in the world, stand beside me.... Just my very humble opinion..... What a beautiful young Woman!
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Alright everyone, please do not throw things at me too hard! It is my OWN personal belief that a man should be honored as the head of the household: loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. As a woman who is in love with that man - I want him to make decisions, with my input, on what is best for US. I want him to know that I am his partner, will support him, love him and do whatever I can for him so that in 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we can stand side by side, look back at the path we have traveled together, and smile as we see wht we have accomplished, through the good and the bad. I have been in a relationship where I have been the decsion maker, the one who has been the primary person in charge of everything, and I didn't like it. As the song goes: I want a man to stand beside me, not in front of or behind me, give me two arms that want to hold me, not own me, and I'll give all the love in the world, stand beside me.... Just my very humble opinion..... Don't know why anyone would throw anything at you, lol. It's your opinion, and you have a right to it. Also, if that's what works for you and your SO, and makes you both happy, then who else has a right to an opinion about it? |
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Thank you.
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Alright everyone, please do not throw things at me too hard! It is my OWN personal belief that a man should be honored as the head of the household: loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. As a woman who is in love with that man - I want him to make decisions, with my input, on what is best for US. I want him to know that I am his partner, will support him, love him and do whatever I can for him so that in 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we can stand side by side, look back at the path we have traveled together, and smile as we see wht we have accomplished, through the good and the bad. I have been in a relationship where I have been the decsion maker, the one who has been the primary person in charge of everything, and I didn't like it. As the song goes: I want a man to stand beside me, not in front of or behind me, give me two arms that want to hold me, not own me, and I'll give all the love in my heart, stand beside me.... Just my very humble opinion..... Thank god I'm not the only one who still carries this opinion. I hope you find him!
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Alright everyone, please do not throw things at me too hard! It is my OWN personal belief that a man should be honored as the head of the household: loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. As a woman who is in love with that man - I want him to make decisions, with my input, on what is best for US. I want him to know that I am his partner, will support him, love him and do whatever I can for him so that in 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we can stand side by side, look back at the path we have traveled together, and smile as we see wht we have accomplished, through the good and the bad. I have been in a relationship where I have been the decsion maker, the one who has been the primary person in charge of everything, and I didn't like it. As the song goes: I want a man to stand beside me, not in front of or behind me, give me two arms that want to hold me, not own me, and I'll give all the love in my heart, stand beside me.... Just my very humble opinion.....  thanks for your opinion |
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Edited by
JasmineInglewood
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Tue 04/07/09 06:19 PM
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what do you think the man's role in a relationship is supposed to be? To hold the couch down and guard the house while you're working 2 jobs.To give you someone to fetch slippers and beer for. Someone who gives you the reason to look for the remote, my pants, car keys, etc. Give you someone, with a hearing aide so it can be turned down, to tell all about how rough a day you had and all the stuff you found at the yard sales. To give you those satisfying nods even though he's not really paying attention. Did I miss anything? Ready ta' git hitched yet? you forgot being someone to kill the "meeces" and cockroaches
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Edited by
Meg8771
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Tue 04/07/09 06:24 PM
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Alright everyone, please do not throw things at me too hard! It is my OWN personal belief that a man should be honored as the head of the household: loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. As a woman who is in love with that man - I want him to make decisions, with my input, on what is best for US. I want him to know that I am his partner, will support him, love him and do whatever I can for him so that in 5, 10 or 20 years down the line we can stand side by side, look back at the path we have traveled together, and smile as we see wht we have accomplished, through the good and the bad. I have been in a relationship where I have been the decsion maker, the one who has been the primary person in charge of everything, and I didn't like it. As the song goes: I want a man to stand beside me, not in front of or behind me, give me two arms that want to hold me, not own me, and I'll give all the love in my heart, stand beside me.... Just my very humble opinion..... Thank god I'm not the only one who still carries this opinion. I hope you find him! Every day is one step closer.....and you, as well
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what do you think the man's role in a relationship is supposed to be? To hold the couch down and guard the house while you're working 2 jobs.To give you someone to fetch slippers and beer for. Someone who gives you the reason to look for the remote, my pants, car keys, etc. Give you someone, with a hearing aide so it can be turned down, to tell all about how rough a day you had and all the stuff you found at the yard sales. To give you those satisfying nods even though he's not really paying attention. Did I miss anything? Ready ta' git hitched yet? you forgot being someone to kill the "meeces" and cockroaches That's my hobby. I'll sit on the couch with the bb gun and shoot 'em. |
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take it we're talking heterosexual here?
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whatever the role is, nobody told me of the auditions nor did they provide me a script.
guess i'll have to wait for the next theatrical production. . . . |
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