This is a game I have never been really comfortable doing. However, I try my best. Question is: How far do you take playing hard to get? Do you make no effort to contact them for a weeks time? When you do get ahold of them, do you keep the conversation super brief? Do you act like you completely indifferent to going on another date? Do you make believe you have plans when she sets something up, but you really don't?

Why bother " playing " at all???

Be who you are. If you aren't the hard to get type, then don't try to be.

I don't know...you tell me, cuz I can't figure out the male mind AT ALL!

I play easy to get & it doesn't work, maybe the women I try to contact are playing " unobtainable"

do something you're comfortable with. why be something you're not? when you finally land that babe you're trying to be indifferent, you'll be miserable with yourself, and miss the honest, good caring girl that doesn't want an impossible challenge, and wants real love from YOU. the games are for jet-setters. let em have it, for they grow old and drug-worn. seen way too much of it in fla. the game's never good enough, it always has to get out of line.

a friend of mine had a four day rule for exotic dancers that he dated, for they won't date desparate guys, so four days is when to call them, and damn if it didn't work, everytime, but it won't work in main-stream. too long, and you'll get hung up on. good luck though.

I'm not hard to get......for the right person.

I am incredibly difficult to keep.


there's a huge difference.

Being myself does not work that great. Actually, I have not heard of one sucess story from simply being yourself. I find it works temporarily, but they get sick of all the attention real quick, hence the reason for playing hard to get.

Hard to get is hardly got.

Just be yourself anyway...SOMEBODY is going to be the perfect match sooner or later. Besides, you'd hate it if the woman was playing games. Just don't go there!

Most will take that as 'not interested'. Playing hard to get can just be a personality trait, but playful if you're spending time with them.

I disagree....I have a number of success stories...every relationship of a romantic nature has been a success.

By being myself.

Why they ended? Many different reasons.... but mostly because the myth of forever and ever in harmonious perfection invaded the relationship.

All anyone has is right now....nothing more nothing less... if you stick with that, every relationship is a success.

I should have said this different: it usually does no good for a guy to show a bunch of interest too soon. Women on the other hand (especially attractive ones) can be however they want, and still have men chasing them without end.

If you have to play GAMES with someone then they're most likley NOT worth a DAMN anyway...............some things NEVER change

well, have your own life, goals, and keep busy. don't be there for her every whim. they will get bored, and don't get all mushy with puppy-dog eyes, they truly hate that. start being stronger and more silent. they like someone who listens to them, and pays attention to them. look at people you admire with girl power, (clint eastwood, john wayne, brad pitt) they don't get by on looks alone.... and learn from their traits. you're still yourself, but newer, better, and wiser. study people with women in public places too, that you like, but leave the asshole part of this gaming at home, it'll get you no-where.

ditto...but i would love to find a guy i want to be kept by...sigh...
i still assume he's just around the next corner and i'll bump into him when i round the right corner

i prefer to play it straight and have people do the same for me, then you can play games later lol

Why play hard to get if its someone you're interested in.. Just be yourself and enjoy each others company.. myself, I hate playing games!

two audio books that will change the way you think forever, and get you on the road to what you want, no sh!t. anthony robbins "awaken the giant from within" and "unlimmited power" it will change you. promise. and you can listen to them in your car.

Hmmmmm..........interesting mindset.

Allegedly, I am an attractive woman....outside of just the physical...personality/nature is apparently attractive also.

I don't have men chasing me...ever.

It's the opposite... the assumption you have made is far from the truth, as I have many beautiful incredibly gorgeous women friends.

Men don't come near any of us.


I have had to initiate an opening, to show I am interested...men won't!

It's a bit hard to play hard to get, when no one is playing their part....think about it.

As I said before I am not hard to get... I am difficult to keep....unless with the right man.