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Topic: How to Ask a Co-worker for ......
justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Mon 04/06/09 01:35 PM
My parents were co-workers. Still married after 41 years. But the rules of today are different from back then.

Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Mon 04/06/09 01:49 PM
My parents were co-workers. Still married after 41 years. But the rules of today are different from back then. For sure. I love movies from back then. I bet they went to see them all. That was the end of our innocence and the start of our 'realized' freedom. All I can think of is Ann-Margret and Elvis now, what a time!

Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Mon 04/06/09 01:50 PM
How to 'not' ask your co-worker for a date isn't grammatically correct though! I know I am comme il faut! It's a love it or leave it characteristic of mine. Don't change a thing

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Mon 04/06/09 01:53 PM
My parents were co-workers. Still married after 41 years. But the rules of today are different from back then. I think that is awesome!

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Mon 04/06/09 01:54 PM
How to 'not' ask your co-worker for a date isn't grammatically correct though! I know I am comme il faut! It's a love it or leave it characteristic of mine. Don't change a thing Never! Thank you!

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 04/07/09 07:07 AM
My parents were co-workers. Still married after 41 years. But the rules of today are different from back then. Awesome

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Tue 04/07/09 07:56 AM
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm. Most people here are saying no, but a lot of folks do and find 'true love' http://money.cnn.com/2005/02/11/pf/valentines_officeromance/index.htm

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 04/07/09 10:03 AM
yes lot of folks find true love in the office. I think a few precaution should be kept in mind while dating a coworker which can help us to carry on easily.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/07/09 11:21 AM
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm. Most people here are saying no, but a lot of folks do and find 'true love' http://money.cnn.com/2005/02/11/pf/valentines_officeromance/index.htm Eh, it works for some and not others.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Tue 04/07/09 11:27 AM
a date ??? Think carefully about your job. A failed work-place romance can have serious negative effects on your work. Do not enter in to this lightly. I don't.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 04/07/09 11:27 AM
Don't go number two where you work. Simple. The chances of it ending, and ending poorly, well, they are higher than a sappy success story. And don't get me started on the boundaries needing independence part.

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 04/07/09 12:05 PM
I think, it is a good idea to keep work-place romances between the two . Don't show a lot of affection towards each other while at work, as this will make your co-workers uncomfortable.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/07/09 12:45 PM
Don't go number two where you work. Simple. The chances of it ending, and ending poorly, well, they are higher than a sappy success story. And don't get me started on the boundaries needing independence part. Yep, Lilith is correct.

KimmiM Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 1694	Tue 04/07/09 12:48 PM
Simple... 1. Don't date someone you work with. 2. Don't date someone RELATED to someone you work with. (Trust me on this one!)

cgyrocks1 Joined Sun 07/08/07 Posts: 8	Tue 04/07/09 06:00 PM
It is big NO NO for me to date someone at my workplace. But I am a lil flirty, cant help it

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21715	Tue 04/07/09 06:04 PM
Don't even think about it, not in todays economy.

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Tue 04/07/09 06:05 PM
Did it once, learned my lesson.

ladywolf9653 Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 1012	Tue 04/07/09 06:08 PM
I think it all depends on the workplace rules, as well as the maturity (or lack thereof) of the people involved. One company I worked for had a pretty open policy regarding that. They had to - they were the largest company in the area, and it was fairly rural. Lots of spouses worked for them, and I had several co-workers meet and marry. The company only had one rule regarding the situation - you were not allowed to work in the same department as your spouse/SO. So, they would transfer one person to another area, just to keep personal drama as much to a minimum as possible. I have always avoided dating anyone I worked with, but it's my own personal choice. If others find happiness with a co-worker, I say good on 'em :)

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/07/09 06:13 PM
I think it all depends on the workplace rules, as well as the maturity (or lack thereof) of the people involved. One company I worked for had a pretty open policy regarding that. They had to - they were the largest company in the area, and it was fairly rural. Lots of spouses worked for them, and I had several co-workers meet and marry. The company only had one rule regarding the situation - you were not allowed to work in the same department as your spouse/SO. So, they would transfer one person to another area, just to keep personal drama as much to a minimum as possible. I have always avoided dating anyone I worked with, but it's my own personal choice. If others find happiness with a co-worker, I say good on 'em :) For me, it had nothing to do with work place rules, or maturity. But, I'm sure for some, that could be what it depends on.

ladywolf9653 Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 1012	Tue 04/07/09 06:44 PM
For me, it had nothing to do with work place rules, or maturity. But, I'm sure for some, that could be what it depends on. Good point - there could be lots of reasons to not do so :)