OK, here's my story.

I have been friends with this girl for the past three years. We haven't had many opportunities to see each other to our lack of a car "very soon to change on my end." She lives about an hour south of me. My thing is that I like a girl who is motivated in life, like not sitting around the house. This girl is not working or going to school. I don't want it to be to the point that im the soul provider in the house. Maybe i'm over thinking things. Do you think its worth perusing with the 1 hour drive to go on a date and the motivation issue?

No motivation

No relationship

Lazy is as lazy does

Follow your instincts handsome, they are normally right.

Well if there is no motivation for her own life, then where there be for a life with you?

but do what you think is best for you.

The thing is that this girl and i get along famously, no drama, and we connect on just about everything. We have some differences, but thats natural. Maybe im just over reacting.

Just my 2 cents, but if she's not going to school, and she's not working, she's not going to put effort into much else, either.

Think/feel with your heart the right thing to do for you, and not your head(s)...

My heart has mislead me in the past, multiple times. Logic is all i have left.

I'm shocked anyone would question this situation.

Seems obvious to me -- Run, Forest, Run!

Why be with someone who is not motivated? She doesn't work, go to school, volunteer or do anything to improve herself? Do you think that changes or gets better?

Being the sole provider is the least of your concerns. Someone who doesn't set goals within their life -- self improvement -- will be a vampire. They will not contribute; they will become a burden; they probably have a sense of entitlement; they will take but not give, and not contribute to a household or society in general; there is no soul.

You're settling before you even begin. Don't -- you are worth more -- raise your bar!

You might be 43 and single -- like me -- but I'm a happy me! I don't have divorces, crazy ex's or insanity to deal with because of bad decisions.

I'm waiting for someone who compliments me but doesn't complicate me.

You will never know if you do not try.

Seems like you need a life with her like a hole in the head. Keep it as friends, possibly even on the "low"

Being 20 at the time, im sure things will look up soon, when i turn 21 "july 20th" Bars and clubs will be at my disposal

Now to work on not being so D@#n shy!

Try not to wory about it, work on self improvement, bigger, better things will come along. Good luck, oh and listen to the advise the women on here will tell ya-

Damn my hormones!

Is there a REASON she's not/can't working or going to school? How does she support herself?

She lives at home, as do I. That may change on my end if i can land a good internship for mechanical design.

She is just waiting till you can buy her a car too.

Lol, that aint gonna happen. Its hard enough for mine at min. wage at the moment.

Well how is she going to get to work with no car.

Ok fine, a segway or a vespa. thats all she is getting