be carefull everybody and keep this one going ,,, you dont want to put yourself in danger....

thank you

if there was no danger where would the excitement be?

If everytime you started a relationship you knew everything there was to know wouldn't that be hum~drum and boring

republicans! Ha

I'm an MMORPG player. You're right, there are people that get really into it and shut out the real world. It can be unhealthy as an addiction, but that is true for all addictions. If everything is done in moderation while taking care of your responsibilities, life is good. I've vacationed with people I've met in MMORPGs. I have contacts all over the world, Bankers, Engineers, Teachers that I know from games, it goes on and on. The important thing to remember is that these are all real people and a very small percentage of them are actually screwed up. OMG just like in real life.

Not as small as percentage as you'd think. Remember, you meet the "healthy" ones, I meet the FUBAR'd ones (both throgh work and in my personal life). But then again, there are people like me who believe that MMORPG players are on a dealbreaker list anyhow. As are gamblers. Some believe these activities to be okay in moderation, I just disagree totally and completely. JMO

That reminds me of an important lesson I learned last year. Never use an MMORPG for dating!!

It's for fun and a few laughs but generally it is a timesink. If you know somebody who plays and has trouble walking away from the screen, they definitely have a problem.

Hon, these games are involved and go for hours. No one walks away in the middle of a mission and that's why there is no such thing as a healthy player. Sorry.

Again, JMO

I mainly play for a few hours early morning on the weekends with some asian and euro friends. I just don't see it as unhealthy. Considering the volume of work I do and still spend oodles of time with loved ones and also get out to explore my surroundings it's just hard to believe it's a bad thing just to log in. Maybe your experience was differnt, but mine has been relaxing and fun.

Oh, I just watch bad TV. I DESPISE all RPG's in any form. Always have. I read if I want to escape.

Red flags are red flags

When they start an email with

I have read through the 3pages here and I have to ask ( as I duck for cover) isn't this all true for both sexes? And you have not even scratched the surface.. I love the one "get to know the inner me". Or the ones that get you involved yet act like you don't even exist after a few dates. strange world out there.

DD, I didn't see anywhere that people had been gender specific about these red flags. I thought they were, at least to me, all pretty "people" oriented.

Hey now! I indicator that this applies to females too! I think that people were just posting from there experiences.

Indeed. A red flag for me is if someone has been affected negatively but can't/won't do what it akes to make sure your not going to pay for someone else's mistake/poor judgement.

I dunno if this has already been said, so forgive me if im repeating!


Suspicious Paranoia - usually reflecting their own guilt

He never takes u to HIS - usually meaning he has summit to hide.

Over enthusiasm - can reflect a dependent nature.

Aggressive reactions - If this happens early on, it will only get worse.

Those are great points!

Women don't need grand gestures or big promises. If you plan to do something, just do it. Not following up on your word is a huge red flag in my book. Once in awhile is not a big deal because we all have things that come up, but showing a pattern of all talk and no action on any level, is a deal breaker for me.

I've known many women suckered into relationships with guys only to feel the big let down when they don't back them up with actions.

In fact right now one of my good friends is finally seeing the light. The guy is good looking, has alot going for him, everything planned out except for his trophy wife. He promised her everything he thought she wanted to hear to get into her life.

The guy is actually a big baby, get past the looks and possesions and he has no real personality. She thought she found something really great and so did I. Now he's mentally unstable and can't handle being with her and her individuality.

So sad

If the chick you're dating suddenly goes "in-communicado" for a week or more (and you KNOW there's no foul play involved", then chances are that you're gonna be in for a red-flag.