Guys, do you think a woman is being forward when she sends you a nudge or msg? Do men like this, or is it a turnoff? It's kind of like a phone call in a way...Do men like women to call them, or does it make you think, oh hey, she's desperate and clingy?

What is a good way to let a man know you're interested, but not seem too needy, clingy, desperate? Or should we just sit back and wait for our interest to contact us?

Do men prefer a woman to be dressed nice, full makeup and hair done up, or would you prefer a more relaxed look when you first meet a woman. What usually draws your eyes and interest to a woman guys?
Do you find it sexy for a woman to drive stick, a truck or a car?

Ok, now that I've overloaded your brains with 15 questions........sorry, but we have to find out somehow...LOL

I must ask, does it matter what they prefer what we look like or who makes the first move? If it is there, then it is.

Are you willing to change who you are for a relationship?

Sorry I just think this is all wrong.
Just be yourself and have fun.

A Nudge means nothing to me... like being in a party or bar and giving a gal a look she smiles at you, you smile at her... you keep going never to see her again.

A Nudge+email is different... that same girl that smiled at you might stop and start a conversation, compliment you or whatever, at that point what was nothing, may be something.

Sometimes all it takes is that extra effort. If a girl were to just nudge me... I wouldn't contact her normally... I would feel silly. I have nudged+emailed, that means I have an interest in at least seeing your words...

it doesnt bother me at all if a girl messages me it just means she wants to talk not been neeedy and i would rather have a woman that doesnt were make up or to much because i like the natuarle beauty

as to the truck and stick it dont matter ive dated girls who can do both but then agine its only my oppinion

It's not a turn-off at all. I actually prefer it if the ladies were a little more forth-coming with the nudges and the emails, as long as it was done in a non-creepy, non-perverted kind of way.

Honey, if I were relaxed about men, I would not be here instead of in my own little hometown tryin to chat someone up in person. I want to know what makes them tick before I wind the clock.

Aren't we all a little needy? Sure there are great people on this site... But In one way or another we are all here to meet new friends and maybe spark up something a little more. I don't know, I am in a mood tonight...

It should bother nobody to be contacted, if they are anything but flattered, why are they here?

this is a place where to sit back and wait for atention is to let opertunity pass you up. speek up but dont badger. just a small email with an expression of interest and see what happens. there is no monopoly on who can contact who first.

being who you are is best. all men have there personal preferances and to them it matters. act in a way that makes you feel happy and then you will atract a mate that will keep that alive.

more women need to speak up! nudge away...

He really likes it when you send him the kick in the butt nudges...

Well it is the 21st century, yes I think its fine for a woman to let a man know she is interested with a nudge or e-mail.

I don't see it as "forward" at all -- I just see it as someone wants to communicate something. I don't have any restrictions on my e-mail here, anyone who wants to write is free to do so, and I answer everybody except obvious spammer/scammers.

As to the "turnoff" question -- per se, no, but it could BE a turnoff depending on what's written in the message. I've had that happen, albeit not too often. Desperate and clingy? I don't think you can assume that based on the simple fact that someone contacted you....they may turn out to be that way later, but it's not an inherent inevitable.

I don't contact anybody first, so if they want to talk to me, they're going to have to initiate it.



I'm guessing that you'd get a lot of different answers to this one. If someone wants to communicate with me, just send a message. We'll go from there. I'm a writer, so bad spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc., is not going to help, but if I can understand what you're trying to say, maybe we can work around that.



Dressed-up does nothing for me -- I prefer the jeans and a t-shirt look.

What draws my eyes -- well, there are two distinct physical types I tend to notice immediately.

What she drives makes absolutely no difference to me -- I don't even notice stuff like that.

This man likes a confident woman...

If I'm interested in someone, I let them know.

I know, I know.. my crush on Lexy is so well hidden.

I have no problem being assertive. I once, years ago, found a guy's cell number through work related means and texted him, asking him out for drinks. He was married and politely declined but said he was flattered. I still see him and we're fine, we talk professionally due to our careers. I've no regrets and he isn't uncomfortable because I'm not. Guy is darling, smart and funny, plus ooooowiiie hawt!

I will mail, call, ask out, whatever. But then once I let it known I'm interested, I don't prefer to be a "chaser". It must be mutual after that.

I'm not into shy at all. It is a huge, HUGE turn-off for me. Right next to dumbass ignorant. I actually had a guy tell me the other day my profile made him want to brush up on his vocabulary so he could [conversate] with me.

A nudge or msg is flattering. What is not to like about someone contacting you that thinks you are interesting? Nothing wrong with it, it's not clingy.

I think...for a first date...I'd rather a woman not get dressed up and put on a lot of make-up. It's not who they really are, not the person you could possibly be waking up beside in the mornings. Keep it real at first and if things blossom, then up the ante with dressing up.

On here, if there's someone I want to email, I will. I'm not going to wait around for him to contact me.

I don't dress or wear make-up for a date. I go out of my house looking the way I want to look. If they don't like it, okay. Not everyone is going to like me.

I've never fully understood the whole concept of guys calling first, of the games we seem to play when dating or attracting someone. It's great sometimes to meet a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it, in a playful [as in fun] and assertive manner. It's very sexy, makes me feel very attractive and brings out a very raunchy side of me.

It would be great if there were more women who had your attitude!

Of course, I am a little concerned about what happens when you find out I'm only 5'3"....

I just interviewed a defendant yesterday afternoon who told me he was 5'9". I had on flat shoes and when I stood up to walk him out of my office I looked down at him.