"...They take EVERYTHING too seriously..."


Is that why you come here?

To get away from the seriousness of life? Or the seriousness of other people's lives?

I know many do... their jobs are sometimes gut wrenchingly serious, and to just shoot the sh*t for a while and blow off steam eases the day...they can get away from work for a while....hence the one liner threads, or posts.

I also know these same posters will get down and dirty in an intelligent thread, and show the 'meat' on the bones of their personality.

My life has aspects of seriousness... however if I believe my own propaganda, (take myself too seriously) I am a waste of oxygen...

Coping skills are humour. They are the sometimes biting wit, the blunt rebuttal, or the coy innuendo...

To laugh at oneself is the most attractive attribute in today's society, and those that I know, here, and in my own world, are millionaires...their worth is immeasurable.

So, what brand of refrigerator does everyone own?

So, what brand of refrigerator does everyone own???


I am not sure that it matters what topic you choose. Just make it interesting. I would recommend you just be yourself. lol. If you like talking about your appliances, there are other geeks out there. jmho.

I think a post that says nothing but 'hi whoever' should be banned! Some threads seem to consist of nothing but that. The number of threads where there are pages and pages of nothingness must be off putting to would-be posters willing to talk seriously. You have to filter through too many threads to find a good one worth any serious thought.

But then this is a dating site. The main reason for the forums is for people to meet and have fun. In my opinion anyway. I rarely give a great deal of thought to my posts just because i am usually posting from work and i have other things to think about. So i am often guilty of going off topic or making a joke in the middle of a serious discussion. We all use the forums for different things, you cant get away from the silliness unless you get strict with moderating. But getting too strict would of course kill the community spirit.

Thankyou.....what topics would you like to read, and interact on?

Where do you find yourself most, ie: General, Curent events, which section?

Dan...it is a dating site.

Where do you go, in your personal world to meet interesting women?

Surely there is more to life than 'Hooters' type parley....I am not expecting anyone to really crave continual Mensa type threads...but to find someone that interests you within these forums, that you would like to further get to know, in the harsh light of the Real World...is it the 'Hooters' chick?

I am so curious.... the common denominator in the threads on 'describe someone you would be attracted to', as in qualities, character traits...is rarely the 'Hooter' chick, and usually someone, intelligent, communicative, trustworthy, reliable, interesting....(with 36DD's) ...no seriously, most of the guys who post here, in Mingle, all suggest they are more interested in a woman with a capacity for reasonably intelligent conversation....then most run to the monosyllabic drivel threads.

What's with that?

I have to agree with a previous post here, the art of conversation is dieing. People spend so much time running around, their lives full of hurry up, from here to there, gotta go gotta go that they either won't or don't take the time to sit down and put pen to paper (so to speak) to put themselves out there.
Some come here, as you've stated, to let off steam, to unwind, while others are seriously searching for that connection. Some can't handle serious conversations and avoid them at all costs with the whole "What size are your tits" threads and the like. Not that there's anything wrong with cracking up on occassion.
I've trolled the boards for awhile now and have noticed the most popular threads are those type, the banal mean nothing ones. I'm guilty of posting there too.
It's funny, I "met" my guy here on one of those idiocy threads, he made me laugh and it just went WHOOM from there, his flirty, dance on the razors edge between naughty and OHMYGOD indecent cracked me up.
It would be nice to have a thread where there is deep, meaningful conversation, but this is the interenet, what are the odds of that one making it?

Hello! Thankyou for your input.

Deep and meaningful threads? Once upon a time in a cyber land far, far away, formerly known as CS, I met a group of incredibly nimble, articulate, witty, creative people...the superless structure of the management preferred the banal, and banned 45 of the top posters from the site, we arrived enmasse to JSH, and scared the heck out of the locals.

Once we learnt the basic niceties of the site, we intergrated and conversations flowed...into pages and pages of insightful, sometimes fascinating, snapshots of the different posters there... we merged with mingle, became mingle2, and it seems to have become an ever spiralling south format of communication...

The odds of deep and meaningfully interesting threads are high, with enough posters wanting that, contributing, joking about a little, then flowing back on topic...

It's human nature to crave connection... and most really want someone to 'see' them for all of them.