are monogamous by nature?

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Humans in general, no. But some personalities are more comfortable having only one partner, either at at time or for life.

No. I think by nature, we are driven to propagate the species. Males feel the drive to impregnate (or at least pretend to try) as many women as possible, and I think women are constantly driven to find the best possible mate.

I know I'll probably get fried for saying that, but I do believe that by nature, we are not. We make a choice to do so, however.

most are not but I am

I think that by nature we tried at one time to widen the gene pool as much as possible. This means having more than ons sex partner. However, organized religion got in the way (and not just the Judeo-Christian faiths. There have been a few others who thought that monogamy was the only moral option.) and now it is hugely frowned upon to have too many sex partners, and certainly to have too many in a short period of time.

OMG yes More than one mate at a time is just too much to deal with.

I'm not monogamous by nature, but I am monogamous by choice.

I think that a person has to be very careful adn responsible about sex. Wrap that rascal, get checked regularly, especially if you aren't monogamous, be honest with your partners, and respect the fact that they may not want to name names, or have their names mentioned.

there are no guarantees

All on account of the guys who came back from Africa and brought us back the Black Plague of the friggin' '80's. Thanks a lot, guys!

human children need nurturing by two committed parents to fulfill their fullest potential. and that potential is pretty great. the human child needs an intensive and extended period of time to be taught and to learn in order to perform on the intellectual level that our species requires to survive. during that period of time there needs to be a division of labour between parents, i.e one who nurtures and one who provides. the best way to provide this environment to fulfill the high demands of the human child is to create a bond between those 2 parents that will last for throughout the child's long period of rearing. that bond is damaged when there is jealousy and non-commitment.

it is for this reason, in terms of evolution, that is imperative that human beings are monogmaous creatures for the best propagation of the species. monogamy produces children that are fitter. hence survival of the fittest.

So, children of single parents just aren't going to make it very far in your world?

yes

You are very wise.

"It takes an entire village to raise a child." This is an African saying, but there have been various versions of it down through the ages from many different groups. It isn't just the parents who raise the children, but every adult with whom the children come in contact regularly. Yes, in a nuclear family situation, both parents arae the primary teachers/mentors to the children. but what about children who were brought up in other types of families and settings and still grew up to be happy, healthy, well-adjusted, productive adults? While I agree that it is the responsibility of the custodial caregivers to do their best to allow only positive influences around the children, by saying that a traditional nuclear family with Mom, Dad adn kids is the only effective way to rear children, we are getting into some potentially religion-based semantics and debates that would start a fire-storm more appropriate to the religious general chat section.

2 parents homes are supposed to be the best, ideally speaking. any single parent will tell you that it is difficult raising children alone.

however, there are extraordinary single parents who manage to raise well-adjusted children, and there are 2 parent households that raise children who are not much better off. but these are exceptions in the grand scheme of things.

in my humble opinion i think a loving two parent home is ideal for the rearing of "fitter" children.

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It does take a whole village to raise a child, and my four kids are a shining example of that. Raised as children of a single parent family, with a completely absent Dad, these two boys, now 24 and 14, and two girls,now 20 and 12...have sought out healthy male mentors, 'dads', to advise them, share skills, escort them to different functions that require a male...my boys have learnt how to be HEALTHY men, through healthy male examples...my daughters have learnt their value and worth, as women through their choices of adult males in their lives... they have felt treasured, honoured and respected, and are confident young women in their own rights, through their choices in male mentors.

My kids have a vast array of 'aunts' 'uncles' 'grandparents' 'mothers' 'fathers' and 'siblings' through living the whole village lifestyle, and not one of them is genetically related....the 'relations' they have allowed into their lives.

They are treasured and respected, and have learnt how to treasure and respect others, and are now in roles themselves as mentors for others.

I am almost redundant, as a parent, they parent each other, and me...a wonderful reflection on all that has been offered them, by their choices in seeking mentors.

A family is more than a bunch of genetically encrypted dna....it's one heart, in many chests.

As to monogomous.... no, humans are not monogomous by nature.

it's by choice.