I think that the people who ask you to 'tell me about yourself' are those who cannot carry on a general conversation about much, and are just looking for something - anything - to say.

I think most folks are just grappling with something to say that will draw you in and not scare the crap outta ya. I know I always struggle with this. I usually try to take something from their profile and expand on that, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Yeah me too lilbug. I just have a hard time with the online part of this. I used to work in sales so im used to the face to face stuff and reading body language...

Usually the ones who just want you to tell you more about yourself, without offering the same don't really want to know... because if you take the time to write more than 3 sentences, they freak out and think you either think too much, talk too much, or are just way too smart for them since you actually know how to put together sentences and ACTUALLY describe yourself in a paragraph or two.

I have even gone as far as to be a li'l bi**hy and say something like - "Well.. isn't that what my profile does - tell you a bit about myself? What is it that you NOW want to know? Maybe asking a direct question and not so vague of one might get you a better reply... but then again, you probably didn't even READ my profile, you just strolled through the pictures...right?"

Yeah - this online dating thing is turning me int a bit of a bi**h. I didn't used to be.

People really ask stuff like that straight away? I think I'm living in the wrong century.

I try to be funny rather than probing especially at the outset. First, it is the way I normally converse. Second, I figure if they do not respond to or get my sense of humor then NEXT!

Yeah, it's different on-line. In the RW you usually meet someone somewhere in a situation where you can at least talk about the situation, place, event...whatever...that you obviously have in common. Here, it's more like being put on the spot.

Welcome to Mingle2, BTW!

go ahead and probe me
i have nothing to hide!

Thanks darlin. Havin a ball so far!

Uh thats to lilbug not you dude

Exactly.

When they start asking questions that have already been fully answered in the profile, I figure there's no point in pursuing it any further....

Uh...good thing you pointed that out! You seem to be catching on to the internet thing pretty quickly...BTW...what size bra do you wear?

I find this also to be the case for people whose profiles say nothing beyond "Anything you want to know you'll have to ask."

When there is not even anything there to ask ABOUT, it makes dialogue a bit difficult.

Loo, you probed me the first time the Mothership landed...

some days I would welcome those stupid e mails . Some days I would rather just hit delete.. It is funny you know. I have to wonder about some of the people who are out here looking to meet someone. Maybe and I have found this to be the case also


Is that they ask the same question twice to see if they get the same response each time? or ask a question just worded diferently?

Those emails are a cover up I do belive you can tell in general on my profile if you would like to talk to me or not... I had a weird one lastnight but I won't get into that one .. He didn't have much on his profile for me to go off of so to throw him off from asking my life history I typed him 20 questions to answer and logged off.. Haven't herd from him yet

I've started keeping a little "clip it" list of some of the real winning lines I get.

I think this is my favorite... " so now that we have the the pleasantries out of the way when do you wanna f*ck? "

When i meet someone. I don't like the 20 questions some women give off the bate. Usually that means there not really interested in you, I'm like thinking. So, these first 20 questions is going to tell you everything about me I'm the type that gives a little at a time. I like to share with somonen and in the conversations ill let somone know a little more about me.

I have to admit, I enjoy written conversation. The purpose of meeting here, for me, is to get to know someone and see if we have anything in common. I'm not giving up my email address, phone number or address until I feel some sort of connection here first.

If you'll notice, my profile is kinda wordy. A few folks have commented on it, and I don't think they were pleased. But several others have said that they really enjoyed it in comparison to the brief profiles they usually encounter. My emails are also conversational. After all, that IS why I came here--to communicate.

I find brief profiles and one-line emails to be annoying. It's like pulling teeth trying to find out if there is any connection with the other person. I don't need to know intimate details and secrets. But the general Q & A (what do you do for a living, how many kids, what do you like to do, etc) can be revealing. How someone communicates here determines whether or not they get my phone number.

it weirds me out when they don't even try to get to know me in any way shape or form but say things like

"I want to meet you. tomorrow. now." I'm like WHHOOOAAA RED FLAGS ARE A' FLYIN!!! i guess its just my sudden discomfort.