Thanks everyone, I feel better!!

I don't know about that part -- I know, for some of us, we've developed a sort of ever-increasing reluctance to take people at their word -- the bad experiences pile up, and then it gets to the point where we have a hard time seeing "honesty" even when it's right in front of us --

So I think there's a sort of negative attitude, a "leave the back door open just in case I need a quick escape" mindset -- which is in no way conducive to a good relationship, but who wants to get burned over and over....??

Sad, but true, doesn't help the honest people on here tho does it.

Honesty is part of a good relationship. If you are not honest with each other it's not a very good way to start off, have, or continue with a relationship is it?

I think that's the point -- when there's no way to determine who's honest and who's not, everyone gets tarred with the same broad brush.

does anyone believe we are "really" honest?

No and I've had this happen too many times and I still don't get it, feels like I have a sign on my forehead telling anyone that comes along ~ go ahead abuse me ~ geez

I don't know but it's nice to meet all of you that are!!!!

Deceivers are people who feel totally inadequate and have to lie to get ahead. They play on what you want and expect and you get exactly what you are looking for, what you see is what you want.

I am in the truth telling set. Some of us do not feel the inadequate feelings other guys have. We get ahead on our skills and heads. We do not use image but actions and inner strength to forge ahead.

Deceivers also use the easiest road to self gratification. At least if a guy who is in it for himself is up front about it he is not lying! Ya got more than five senses and sometimes we don't use them or common sense interacting with others.


And no, I do not own shining metal armor and I ain't no prince!

Party on ladies!!!!

lol well said

That is so true. Have had more then one "budding" relationship end because of a lack of honesty on their part. An aspect of honesty has to be integrity. If both are not there any relationship is doomed to fail.

Perhaps they just lost interest

Nice thing about truth .. you never have to remember what you said

Women want explanations. We want reasons. We want the "WHYS" ..

Men (not ALL so please no guys ranting here ) find it easier to slip away in the darkness ..

Go read "He's Just NOT That Into You" ... we women make a 100 excuses of WHY .. when there really isn't any more than .. (((( NEXT ))))


Honestly I don't find it that hard to comprehend.

Maybe they were all the same guy, but in disguise pretending to be different people ?

It seems to be something people think they can...'get away with' online. NO explanation other than that. The truth always comes simmering to the surface, regardless of whether the teller wants it to or not. That's just the way fate sets things in line.

I thought I was the only one that wanted 'WHY'S' glad to know I am not alone

Well I don't know that wanting to know "why" is so bad, maybe it's ourself just wanting to know if it was something about you or something you said wrong. Sorry this is still bothering me!

Males also want to know "why". Reality is that there will be times we either won't find out, they don't know the"why" themselves or don't want to own up to it.

Kinda sucks about internet "dating" doesn't it? Was hard enough without the ability to just pop out when ever you wanted, being added to the great dating game! Darn it anyway!