i am not sure how to go about this. i looked it up online and didnt get much help. i know in order to get a restraining order you must provide an address where the person can be found so they can get served with the papers to show up for the hearing in court. but what do you do if the person you are trying to keep away from you doesnt have a permanent address or a place he can be found? does this mean you cannot get the order? i need help here and didnt know where else to turn...

Buy a gun...

Ask the police or the courts

naw the sob is lucky i dont have one.... i aint trying to end up in jail...he's not worth all that

Call your local battered women's shelter. They will do it all for you and w/ you. Call the police if you don't know of it, or how to locate it. They might have you go to another location, depending on situation. You can't start court process until at least Monday.

Will be problematic if you cannot locate the person, but doable.

Then, if violated, it becomes a felony criminal matter and gives you much more maneuverability...

Good luck ...

Exactly...There are many organizations to help.
Just don't wait too long.

actually when you put a restraining order on someone. they dont show up in court... but yea you do need a address or there work place

yeah I guess you should go to the Women's Refuge first...
then buy a gun

does he have family? do you know where he works?

This is The Correct Advice.

But Remember, A Restraining Order IS NOT A SHIELD! It is only a piece of paper!

IF you feel that the person could/would harm you in any way, you might need to go to a Shelter, and/or change jobs;
Not go out anywhere alone... In other words, AVOID that Person.

you are right. a restraining order will help if he violates it....but better safe than sorry. i would also let neighbors and cops know what is going on....to help keep an eye out

Exactly Right!!

As A Fire Department Chaplain I had to attend Police classes on Domestic Violence... Taught by The PD Chaplain... There's some real "Eye-openers" out there!

hun i wish you the best....circuit is right...a restraining order isn't a shield...it will help you if you need to call the cops or take him to court or something....but he can violate the order. let as many people know as possible. if you can take to people at your work....let them know what is going on. have details of what you can....like his name, age, description, car, etc

Ashley - as the previous posters said, you need to get help and I highly reccomend the victim's advocate office at your local courthouse (they work with the state attorney's office and sheriff's department). Once the order is granted, he will need to be served. It might be difficult, but in the meantime, stay safe. Vary your routine, have a safety word for friends and family who can call and check on you or you can call if you need help. Document and PHOTOGRAPH all abuse/threats/etc. for evidence. Make sure that you have a safety kit - cash, copies of important legal documents, anything you have jointly, especially if there are children involved. Also, make sure that you hide this and the photographic evidence where he can't find it.
Once he is served, it is binding. The state I worked in as a police officer required a court date to make the restraining order (or domestic violence injunction) more permament - 1 year (renewable). All of this should be at no charge to you. Remember, restraining orders, domestic violence injuctions and dv orders are just paper. You have to be safe. Do not be predictable - vary your routine, as I said.

I hope this helps. If I can do anything, please let me know.

very good advice meg. it won't be an easy road....but the more people know and with help for herself...it will make it easier

Thank you and I agree. I unfortunately had to learn it the hard way myself before becomming a police officer. It is a scary situation to be in.

Good night everyone. Ashley - be safe.

i have alot of respect for cops. my son wants to be one...he graduates from high school this year. many friends and family are cops.

i guess i should differ the legalities to you though lol

i have been there myself a long time ago....luckily now people know who my family is and my friends....and they are too scared. i was stalked by a registered sex offender once and then he realized who i knew (not that i would ask for special treatment) but it was enough for him to back off

I wish him the best of luck. Tell him to study for the exams, practice the agility tests, do some ride alongs with the local department so he will get a sense of what it is all about.

And as his mother, have faith. It is tough to be the parent of a police officer - to have any family member a police officer. Just stand behind him and have faith.

I looked into getting one against a cyberstalker