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Topic: If you were.....
Redshirt's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:29 PM
Building a relationship with someone here. Would you want others to know or keep it quiet? How come - either way.


MelodyGirl's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:33 PM
Anyone who has read anything about me or what I post knows I put myself out there.

That being said, I would still keep the person's name private until a solid relationship has been established. I think privacy is a good thing in the early stages of a relationship.

If we weather the storm, and he feels OK with sharing our 'coupledom' then I would be proud to rock a pic of us on my profile, etc. I wouldn't make a headline announcement though. :wink:

JasmineInglewood's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:33 PM
i wouldn't. because who i date is none of anyone's business.

Redshirt's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:35 PM

Anyone who has read anything about me or what I post knows I put myself out there.

That being said, I would still keep the person's name private until a solid relationship has been established. I think privacy is a good thing in the early stages of a relationship.

If we weather the storm, and he feels OK with sharing our 'coupledom' then I would be proud to rock a pic of us on my profile, etc. I wouldn't make a headline announcement though. :wink:


Think it will be interesting to see if there is a difference between men and women on this subject.

Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:37 PM
yeah I'd keep it on the down low so my other chiks wouldnt find out.....



WOAHHHHH!!! kidding ladies.

Winx's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:37 PM

Building a relationship with someone here. Would you want others to know or keep it quiet? How come - either way.




It's private to me. I would only tell a select few that I trusted.

no photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:38 PM
And then if it all falls apart..............................

Keep it quiet.laugh laugh laugh

no photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:39 PM
Keep it quiet until it was a lil more solid...I've seen it a million times..."gushing" about it is the kiss of death...

Peccy's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:40 PM


Anyone who has read anything about me or what I post knows I put myself out there.

That being said, I would still keep the person's name private until a solid relationship has been established. I think privacy is a good thing in the early stages of a relationship.

If we weather the storm, and he feels OK with sharing our 'coupledom' then I would be proud to rock a pic of us on my profile, etc. I wouldn't make a headline announcement though. :wink:


Think it will be interesting to see if there is a difference between men and women on this subject.
Keep it on the down low, I made the mistake of not doing it. Luckily we had a strong enough relationship to survive the onslaught of negative comments she received about me and our relationship. Thankfully it is still going on today stronger than ever. But I know the names of some who did it and I never forget.....lol

no photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:43 PM

Building a relationship with someone here. Would you want others to know or keep it quiet? How come - either way.




It really wouldn't matter- a relationship is a relationship, whether it's broadcasted out there for all the hear, or it's some sort of secretive, clandestine tryst that NOBODY knows about.

However, I usually get suspicious when the other party wants to keep things on the hush-hush, as there might be something afoot... which can only mean bad things will happen.

Redshirt's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:44 PM



Anyone who has read anything about me or what I post knows I put myself out there.

That being said, I would still keep the person's name private until a solid relationship has been established. I think privacy is a good thing in the early stages of a relationship.

If we weather the storm, and he feels OK with sharing our 'coupledom' then I would be proud to rock a pic of us on my profile, etc. I wouldn't make a headline announcement though. :wink:


Think it will be interesting to see if there is a difference between men and women on this subject.
Keep it on the down low, I made the mistake of not doing it. Luckily we had a strong enough relationship to survive the onslaught of negative comments she received about me and our relationship. Thankfully it is still going on today stronger than ever. But I know the names of some who did it and I never forget.....lol


Thanks for sharing. For one believe in both or you. flowerforyou

Amberdee29045's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:44 PM

Keep it quiet until it was a lil more solid...I've seen it a million times..."gushing" about it is the kiss of death...


I couldn't agree more

Monier's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:45 PM

Building a relationship with someone here. Would you want others to know or keep it quiet? How come - either way.




No, I would not want to broadcast it. That's too personal and really now, it deflates the value of one's words by sharing details.

writer_gurl's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:51 PM
I would tell all the nosy people...then tell them what I was going to do to him that nightdevil

...That would make people noway want to know:tongue:

Redshirt's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:51 PM

Keep it quiet until it was a lil more solid...I've seen it a million times..."gushing" about it is the kiss of death...


What causes this kiss of death? The jealousy of others? Or is it doubting the truth of the relationship? Just asking.

MelodyGirl's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:55 PM

yeah I'd keep it on the down low so my other chiks wouldnt find out.....



WOAHHHHH!!! kidding ladies.


Playa! drinker *jk*

You are rocking that ink, Mayhem! drool smitten

I_am_will's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:56 PM
it wouldn't matter to me either way, it's nothing to hide at least on my part

MelodyGirl's photo
Sun 03/15/09 09:57 PM


Building a relationship with someone here. Would you want others to know or keep it quiet? How come - either way.




It really wouldn't matter- a relationship is a relationship, whether it's broadcasted out there for all the hear, or it's some sort of secretive, clandestine tryst that NOBODY knows about.

However, I usually get suspicious when the other party wants to keep things on the hush-hush, as there might be something afoot... which can only mean bad things will happen.


You are the voice of reason, Moofie! flowerforyou

You are right on target! :banana:

PATSFAN's photo
Sun 03/15/09 10:31 PM

Keep it quiet until it was a lil more solid...I've seen it a million times..."gushing" about it is the kiss of death...



I agree 100%

scoundrel's photo
Mon 03/16/09 12:08 AM

Building a relationship with someone here. Would you want others to know or keep it quiet? How come - either way.




I am. Others know. That's just how it is.

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