I been staying in Raleigh for a year and 3 months and it is not easy meeting new people period. When I stayed in Durham, I did not have any problems meeting guys and they was nice guys. They was not bums. Some of the guys that I meet,to me are bums. Like someone post before, why everytime I meet someone and I am interested in them, but they are not interested in me. When someone are interest in you, you are not interested in them. When you do meet someone and they act like they are interested in you, but they take too long to say anything to you. I am not the type of person to come to a guy and hold a conversation and let them know that I am interested in them. I was always told don't go running behind a man, let him come to you, but this day and time it seen like the guys are taking too long. I just feel out of place making the first move. One thing about some men, they are always looking how a woman is build and her looks then they always wonder why they are catching hell(some men). Beauty is skin deep. Also, if I did get up the courage to say something to the guy then I am afraid of rejection. Have any of you women ever made the first move and how? I am open to anyone advices. How do you men look at women that made the first move?

To be honest...there are a lot of guys out there who wouldn't mind it at all.

Some of us are so tired of being the ones who have to face being rejected, that we would actually appreciate a woman coming up to us for a change.

Couldn't tell you, never tried to meet a guy in Raleigh. Or anywhere else for that matter.

I love wen women makes the moves.it releases me from the stress and tells mE more of the kinda person she is

Well, how do you feel when a woman make the first move? Do that sound better.

Maybe a lot of the guys in Raleigh NC like each other more than women

You met me

I appreciate it when a woman makes the first move-- it clears up any doubts about whether or not there's at least some smidgen of interest there.

But, apparently, the societal expectations/stereotypes dissuade a lot of women from making the first move. Even in our forums here, someone will occasionally make a post asking women if they ever do make the first move -- and a significant number will reply, "No, I'm old-fashioned, I like the guy to initiate things" or "I'm not comfortable making the first move."

But it's not 1860 anymore, I hope, so it's nice when a woman can feel OK about being the one to start things off....

I guess it depend on how the woman make the first move, But I never did it before unless I had a couple of drinks. I don't want to go up to a guy with some corny line. When I do have conversation with the guy and it seen like both of us want to say something, but we don't.Then you be like I wish I had said something.

I generally don't make the first move.

Don't I know it, I've been waiting forever.

I also believe it is about having confident in yourself. I would love to make the first move. Let me clear something up, I don't believe every guy in Raleigh are bums, but that was the kind of guys that try to talk to me. Some of the guys I was interested in think they are all that and you are not on their level. I'm like your lost. Down the road I will be thinking God they did not want me, because they are probably full of **** anyway. The bums probably know how to treat a woman better then them, but I just like a man that have something going for hisself.

Hmmm ... word on the street says otherwise

I don't want your number
no I don't wanna give you mine
and no I don't wanna meet you nowhere
no I don't want none of your time and no
I don't want no scrub
a scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
hanging out the passenger side
of his best friend's ride
trying to holler at me
I don't want no scrub
a scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
hanging out the passenger side
of his best friend's ride
trying to holler at me
But a scrub's checkin' me
but his game is kinda weak
and i know that he cannot approach me
cuz I'm lookin' like class and he's looking like trash
can't get wit' a deadbeat ass



Sorry, I was reading your post and this song popped up and now I can't get it out of my head. It seems that men (or women for that matter) will act the way they think they should, and do what they think they can get away with. It seems unfortunate that you've encountered so many scrubs. Just don't give'm none of your time....

I used to love that song .. lmao

It is hard meeting anyone when you are in a new place, especially if you aren't into the bar/club scene. Have you thought of checking the local paper for group activities sponsored? Usually a good way to meet and greet with no pressure. Church is a good way as well. Depending on the type guy you want to meet. Otherwise do a night on the town with your "girls" get out there and shake your money maker....someone will notice.

I hear that In North Carolina the sheep are very attractive, maybe that may be an issue?

Shhhhhh. That is on the DL and the QT..... shhhh!

I hope i'm not being too picky, but some of the guys I have met are bums. To be honest with sometime I miss having someone in my life, but what I see what other people are going through in their relationship then I'm like I am happy I am single. I am happy right now being single until the right person comes along. I won't mind just having an good friend to chill with from time to time, but I don't want any and everybody in my house and around my kids.