i have gotten her attention in full we talk and we listen to each other , she has three kids and a 11-7am job , she is always busy very limited time , we are not official yet, how do i get the girl of my dreams? , how do i make it official? , we have only gone on one date how many should we go on before we make it official?
we have known each other for two years, we both like each other, she says she wants to be friends right now and take it slow how should i approach this relationship?

approach just like she told you to

be friends and go slow

I think she just told you - start as friends and take it slow. If you move too fast, she's likely to get scared away

Didn't you post something like this yesterday & if she just wants to be friends you will have to respect that, if it's worth waiting for then that's what you have to do.

ok sounds good, i will try and do the best i can

thanks guys for the honesty, and yes this is what i was talking about yesterday

turns out she had to go to the hospital she got sick , that is why i didnt hear from her

Ok - I want you to listen to me very, very carefully! Follow her directions and take her lead. If you two are going to jump in to the lake of love together, don't push her - it will go nowhere fast! Let her take your hand and pull you in!! You are ready to get wet (so to speak) so just go slow. She has alot on her plate. Children, full time job, odd hours. If you disrupt her life, she will shut you down quick. Just slow down and breathe!!

Trust me, grasshopper, I tell you the truth.

so naturally i panicked like i dont know what, and didnt know what to do

thank you all so much , this is helping me very much

sometimes one friend is hoping for more I'd want to know if I was taking it slow that at some point there was going to be a chance of a relationship

Well, I guess my creedo of "When in doubt. Whip it out" Ain't gonna fly in this case.

My thought...give her the space she needs....yet give her the attention she deserves. I do know for a fact....it would not be a good idea to be needy or appear desperate at this point. Just try to restrain your enthusiazm. (Which is not easy)

Best of luck bro.

If all else fails and you feel this compulsion to get pushy and appear desperate, try a valium or 3.

In case of emergency....

we are both on agreement on this matter, taking things slow, we have set a date for friday , she set it up this is when she has time and we are going to watch movies at her house with the kids , i think it will be great , plus she wants me to call her at 9 pm tonight when she leaves for work, and then she says she wants to call me if she has time at work to call

thats good seems like she is interested

yep now i just need to take it one day at a time and honor her wishes to the letter to be able to hold on to her

How do you know she is the girl of your dreams if you've had one date?

we have liked each other for two years and we flirted for a long time, i have knowm her heart and wishes but she has been hirt by her ex very badly , now i am stepping up to the plate

I double this thought