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Topic: Help
Junkmanjim10 Joined Mon 11/03/08 Posts: 154	Sat 03/07/09 11:58 AM
If it's to support drugs, He needs help!!!!!!

browns8127 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 62	Sat 03/07/09 11:59 AM
have you gone the rehab route yet?

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 12:01 PM
have you gone the rehab route yet? since he was 13. rehabs, mental hospitals, juvenile detention. Boot camps

browns8127 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 62	Sat 03/07/09 12:03 PM
sorry to hear that. sounds like it really doesnt matter if you turn him in or not. He's gonna commit more crimes and will learn the hard way. sorry to say that

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Sat 03/07/09 12:06 PM
tough call.....moral obligations over parenting oooh wait.....moral obligation is parenting too!!! AGREED!!! At what point will his stupid stuff stop? How far will he go if he's not stopped now? You can love him, but not his actions. If you don't do something, you will be complicite. And, eventually, someone's going to get hurt or killed here with this bad behaviour.

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 12:07 PM Edited by trsmith22 on Sat 03/07/09 12:07 PM
Thanks everyone. I know what I have to do. As much as it hurts. But I always told my kids I wouldn't cover for them if they got into trouble. Now that I have the answer and I know he is guilty I can't keep making excuses for him. He needs to grow up.

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Sat 03/07/09 12:17 PM
My heart aches for you and the decision you have to make.

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 02:50 PM
Ok, it's done. He now a nationwide warrant out for Burglary of a Habitat. I feel like such a horrible person, yet I know I did the right thing.

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 02:51 PM
My heart aches for you and the decision you have to make.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 03/07/09 04:11 PM
so im assuming hes into drugs too? Yes That means consequences to his actions!

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 03/07/09 04:13 PM
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trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 04:15 PM
so im assuming hes into drugs too? Yes That means consequences to his actions! YES which is what he needs! I found out while at the police station, he is involved deep into drugs. Though they haven't arrested him, he has been watched for suspicious activity. One of his friends, is about to go to jail for a long time once he goes to court. Wow..how do they(the police) know more than me?? I feel like I don't even know who my son is

LadyHawkeByDay Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 54	Sat 03/07/09 05:26 PM
If you knowingly withhold evidence of a crime, if he is caught, then you could be charged also as aiding and abetting, or receiving stolen property(in found in your house). If you own your house...and stolen property is found in your possession...your stand a chance of also loosing your home. These are just some possibilities you could be faced with. Something to think about...hope all works out in your favor. I was just going to say the same thing...sorry to be another voice added to the dilemma.

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 05:34 PM
No, its ok. I need it or I wouldn't have asked. Tough love just sux.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 03/07/09 08:17 PM
I just found out that my son who is 18 and has 3 felonies as a minor, broke into someone's house and stole things and sold them. They suspect him, but I just found the evidence. Do I turn it in? Do I incriminate my own kid. I did when he was a minor thinking it would help him to pay the consequences. I still think he needs to pay for what he has done, but now he is an adult and will go to prison, especially with his criminal record. thats tough

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 08:21 PM
I just found out that my son who is 18 and has 3 felonies as a minor, broke into someone's house and stole things and sold them. They suspect him, but I just found the evidence. Do I turn it in? Do I incriminate my own kid. I did when he was a minor thinking it would help him to pay the consequences. I still think he needs to pay for what he has done, but now he is an adult and will go to prison, especially with his criminal record. thats tough it was. BUT i did what i had to. he knows i can't help him any longer. and he is NOT angry. I am so happy about that. I couldn't have my kid HATE ME, but it's his choice if he does.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 03/07/09 08:24 PM
so im assuming hes into drugs too? Yes That means consequences to his actions! YES which is what he needs! I found out while at the police station, he is involved deep into drugs. Though they haven't arrested him, he has been watched for suspicious activity. One of his friends, is about to go to jail for a long time once he goes to court. Wow..how do they(the police) know more than me?? I feel like I don't even know who my son is Have you tried Nar-Anon?

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 08:26 PM
so im assuming hes into drugs too? Yes That means consequences to his actions! YES which is what he needs! I found out while at the police station, he is involved deep into drugs. Though they haven't arrested him, he has been watched for suspicious activity. One of his friends, is about to go to jail for a long time once he goes to court. Wow..how do they(the police) know more than me?? I feel like I don't even know who my son is Have you tried Nar-Anon? What is that?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 03/07/09 08:54 PM
so im assuming hes into drugs too? Yes That means consequences to his actions! YES which is what he needs! I found out while at the police station, he is involved deep into drugs. Though they haven't arrested him, he has been watched for suspicious activity. One of his friends, is about to go to jail for a long time once he goes to court. Wow..how do they(the police) know more than me?? I feel like I don't even know who my son is Have you tried Nar-Anon? What is that? It's similar to Alanon but it's for the friends and families of addicts. I put a post earlier on the thread for the on-line Nar-Anon.

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 03/07/09 09:01 PM
so im assuming hes into drugs too? Yes That means consequences to his actions! YES which is what he needs! I found out while at the police station, he is involved deep into drugs. Though they haven't arrested him, he has been watched for suspicious activity. One of his friends, is about to go to jail for a long time once he goes to court. Wow..how do they(the police) know more than me?? I feel like I don't even know who my son is Have you tried Nar-Anon? What is that? It's similar to Alanon but it's for the friends and families of addicts. I put a post earlier on the thread for the on-line Nar-Anon. Thanks. I will check that out.