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Topic: Help
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Sat 03/07/09 11:46 AM
I just found out that my son who is 18 and has 3 felonies as a minor, broke into someone's house and stole things and sold them.
They suspect him, but I just found the evidence. Do I turn it in? Do I incriminate my own kid. I did when he was a minor thinking it would help him to pay the consequences. I still think he needs to pay for what he has done, but now he is an adult and will go to prison, especially with his criminal record.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:47 AM
I wouldnt turn him in, i dont think, but i would seriously consider kicking him out of home.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:48 AM
tough call.....moral obligations over parenting


oooh wait.....moral obligation is parenting too!!!

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Sat 03/07/09 11:48 AM

I wouldnt turn him in, i dont think, but i would seriously consider kicking him out of home.


He doesn't live with me. He hasn't in a year.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:49 AM
Anything that he has done as a minor should be stricken from his records...as for your question...depends upon how guilty you will feel if you don't turn him in. Maybe you should sit and talk with him, tell him you know, and see if he will turn himself in and that way, you aren't involved...good luck

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Sat 03/07/09 11:50 AM

Anything that he has done as a minor should be stricken from his records...as for your question...depends upon how guilty you will feel if you don't turn him in. Maybe you should sit and talk with him, tell him you know, and see if he will turn himself in and that way, you aren't involved...good luck


No because of the extent of his felonies they are not off of his record. I have talked to him and he continues to lie about it.
He says he didn't do it, but I have the evidence. Damn this sux

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Sat 03/07/09 11:50 AM


I wouldnt turn him in, i dont think, but i would seriously consider kicking him out of home.


He doesn't live with me. He hasn't in a year.


Maybe tell him that next time you will definately turn him in.

And then make sure you stick to that.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:51 AM
how do you have the evidence if he doesnt live with you?

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Sat 03/07/09 11:51 AM
yep

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Sat 03/07/09 11:52 AM

how do you have the evidence if he doesnt live with you?


He came over yesterday for dinner and I guess it fell out of his pocket.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:53 AM
what was it?

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Sat 03/07/09 11:53 AM
A criminal charge of aiding and abetting or accessory can usually be brought against anyone who helps in the commission of a crime,
though legal distinctions vary by state.

A person charged with aiding and abetting or accessory is usually not present when the crime itself is committed,

but he or she has knowledge of the crime before or after the fact,
and may assist in its commission through advice, actions, or financial support.
Depending on the degree of involvement,

the offender's participation in the crime may rise to the level of conspiracy.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:53 AM


Anything that he has done as a minor should be stricken from his records...as for your question...depends upon how guilty you will feel if you don't turn him in. Maybe you should sit and talk with him, tell him you know, and see if he will turn himself in and that way, you aren't involved...good luck


No because of the extent of his felonies they are not off of his record. I have talked to him and he continues to lie about it.
He says he didn't do it, but I have the evidence. Damn this sux
Well, if it has been that bad in the past, I would say he needs help. And turning him in may be the only way he can get that

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Sat 03/07/09 11:54 AM
and he says if I don't turn him in, he will leave and go back to Dallas.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:55 AM
Being as ive seen myself in your son's position once, I can say theirs going to be a haterid towards you if you turn him in. I was turned in by my father, i forgave him and came to realization with my issues, not to say your son will do the same. Knowing what you know makes you an accessory to his bad doing so you put yourself at risk by not doing the right thing. This comes back on what you can live with. I can say, if it were my kid, "il see you when you get out of prison son". No one can make that decision for you, but if he gets caught and it comes back to you some how, you go with him.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:55 AM

what was it?


He stole a PS game system and some games and sold them at a local game store. I have the receipt where they paid him cash

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Sat 03/07/09 11:55 AM
so im assuming hes into drugs too?

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Sat 03/07/09 11:57 AM

Being as ive seen myself in your son's position once, I can say theirs going to be a haterid towards you if you turn him in. I was turned in by my father, i forgave him and came to realization with my issues, not to say your son will do the same. Knowing what you know makes you an accessory to his bad doing so you put yourself at risk by not doing the right thing. This comes back on what you can live with. I can say, if it were my kid, "il see you when you get out of prison son". No one can make that decision for you, but if he gets caught and it comes back to you some how, you go with him.



Thanks. I know what I have to do, I have done it before, I was just hoping he would change.

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Sat 03/07/09 11:57 AM

so im assuming hes into drugs too?


Yes

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Sat 03/07/09 11:58 AM
If you knowingly withhold evidence of a crime, if he is caught, then you could be charged also as aiding and abetting, or receiving stolen property(in found in your house). If you own your house...and stolen property is found in your possession...your stand a chance of also loosing your home. These are just some possibilities you could be faced with. Something to think about...hope all works out in your favor.think

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