first impressions count but u gotta know them

more catagories...............................ugh

Just being curious why is it tulip that no matter what I post about you
are the only one that seems to have a problem with them? They are only
questions and only a change of pace from who will sleep with who or will
you give the one above you a blow job? I don't ask anyone or make anyone
answer them. they are merely questions to make one think and actaully
the ones that give there honest answers. You can see a side of them you
don't see in some of the other threads. I have no problem with the other
threads and never have anything to say bad about the one posting or
there question. If I don't agree or agree with them I will give my
opinion on the subject. I have found out that many that answer the
questions have a wide variety of knowledge and I do welcome that. For no
matter what ones opinion is it is not me to judge the way they think or
live there lives each are very unquie in there own. No matter if they
agree with the post or not I do value there honesty and there opinion.
And no I don't put in the post my whole life history. But when I do
answer questions of others I do put in the way I feel about the
situation. My words to some are merely words but to me they are from
within. Just because I don't follow the same flow that you do that does
not make me nor anyone else a bad person we are just ourselves as you
are yourself. If someone post a question and I don't like it or care to
give my opinion then I do not post to it. I'm not here to put anyone in
categories or to label them or make them into something they are not.
These are questions you can find all over the internet. It is only
something differnt for those to answer that chose to in here. Nothing on
my part do I mean anything by them or of others. So now can we at least
call a truce to this little game. You may fly around like a butterfly in
these post and say what you want but at no time will you find in these
post of me making a comment about another member here. The way I feel
about it to each there own.

Txs -- you know, I posted this exact same topic a couple days ago --



But, seriously -- I don't think first impressions are something we could
or should ignore....but I don't think we should base everything 100%
totally on them either.

Last year, I started talking to a girl on another site, and there was a
LOT of compatibility from the beginning there. It was one of those
situations where I found myself asking if it could even happen that I
could meet someone so attuned to myself.

So, that first impression was overwhelmingly positive.

When I met her in person, and discovered what a nutjob she really was, I
had to admit my frist impression had been biased somewhat, because I
really WANTED to like her, and I really WANTED to think that this was a
situation that could develop into something.

But the reality was quite different.

Lesson learned: First impressions can be subject to "outside forces" or
one's own underlying desires or needs.

It made me reevaluate some things, if nothing else.

its not u txs, it is hard to know someone when they just talk out of a
book....


just curious why there are labels period......


we all human beans"

actually there is the same topic in general topic


however it wasnt done til this morn"

For me first impresion is everything.




Izzy

izzy u got your emotes and your devil glows.......



like love..........

iam bad at first impressions

damn gal you want me to think to.......lol

Well I will be the first to admit that alot of the post I do are
standard post. Which can be found on either other sites or sure even out
of some books. But for me they are found on the internet for I do look
and read and surf about differnt subjects. I will also agree that we can
not live our lives from what a book tells us the way things are. I
myself have had my own share of heartaches from love an life itself.
Those are things that each and everyone of us here have dealt with at
one time or the other. At times we have even let those issues take us
down to the point of hitting rock bottom. We then must make the choice
of pulling ourselves together and learn from it or let it overcome us. I
have in noway had a perfect life from childhood and up. Nor has my love
life been anything to write a book about for if it was I would not be
alone myself. Humm well maybe about what not to do. lol But I don't
dwell on those issues. I have learned that regardless what happen in
past relationships they are in the past. I am on talking terms with my
ex and can actually sit in a room with him and joke around with him took
me many years in order to do that. There are guys that I dated in the
past that we still talk either on the phone or in person. For what every
reasons we broke up we were able to settle our differnces with each
other in order to move on with our lives. But I'm not new to the
heartaches others in here have also shared I have raised my 2 kids for
the last 15 years by myself and made the choice not to live with anyone
in that time instead I took that time to raise my kids. In no way was I
a saint I even dated one guy for 12 years in that time. It was not
always an easy road I don't call getting $150.00 a month for 2 kids much
help to top it off there Dad chose women and to party instead of spend
time with his kids. He very seldom picked them up or had anything to do
with them. But that is part of life we have that choice to either go
forward or let it get us down. Instead I chose to make the best of
things for me and my kids.


Now as far as you question to why people end up being labeled or put
into categories. I have no answer as to why. Like you said we are all
human beings. We are all differnt in our own ways for that is what makes
each of us who we are. Even if we were to all read the same book about
how to live our lives. Each of us would have differnt opinions of what
we read and how we would or would not apply what we read into our own
lives. Just like when someone ask why do all women only date men that
have money? Yes that is grouping all into one catagory which is about
as wrong as it can be for not all women think that way. But within
society it does happen. And I do try to change the words on the post
that I find in order not to group all together but as far as the
categories like this post list them it is just a way that someone has in
expressing there opinion of how they see it. In no way is ones words
wrote in stone and all will see it the same way. ^The reasons for the
post is for others to give there opinion of what they see that should be
added or that they feel is wrong with the way it is stated.

As far as getting to know a person themselves how they think and what
they are about. All one has to do is talk to them. There are quite a few
of the members I talk to here either by IM while also posting or through
e-mail or even on the phone. They have come to know the way I'm as a
person. And what I'm really like in everyday life. One must be willing
and want to get to know others in order for it to happen. If someone was
to ask me a question on the threads that I don't feel a need to post for
all to see then they could expect an e-mail with my answer for I'm very
honest and will say the way I feel. But I do feel that my whole life and
my deepest thoughts are not for the post. As far as what anyone else
says or does on the post that is there lives and if they want everyone
to know hey I don't have a probelem with it nor do I judge them on it. A
friend to me does not judge nor tell there friends how to think or live
there lives they are there for then in good or bad times. Okay off of my
soap box now.