I lost the love of my life ten months ago, I have an eleven yr. old to raise. I am very shy, do I stand a chance?

You are not ready for anything .You still calling her ''love of your life'''Take you time and come back when you are ready .

maybe ready to make new friends. but that is about it. not ready to try to move on just yet

of course you do...

and alot of "no answers" on profile

sorry, I had to step away for a min. O.K. let me clear something.
My wife left our son and I nine yrs ago, she still saw our son every other weekend, we never got divorced. We tried to get back together but she decided that she still couldn't be with me. Last April She was diagnosed with cancer, and everyone either walked away or justt didn't have the time to take care of her. So her being the love of my life, I took her to my house and took care of her for the last 30 days of her life.

im sorry

WOW...that is very noble of you. congrats for being a great man

that was pretty big of you

don't try to rush it when you are mentally ready it'll happen

I have been alone for a while, either cause I was putting all my focus on my son, always praying that she would come back to us & I was just scared, oh yeah and very shy. I don't know what else to do.

After reading your further posts here, in my opinion:

By all means, YES. Send a wink or a nudge. Hopefully a nice lady will respond and you can go from her emails. That's a start.

Can't hit a homer if you don't swing the bat. You may strike out a few times, but odds are you will eventually get a hit.

JMO


Happy Birthday!!

You did a beautiful thing and that should give you some peace. You were with her when no one else would be there and you stayed to the end. "In sickness and in health.... til death do us part."

Let her go and look to your future happiness and your son's. There's much more life for you out there!!

Good luck to you.

It seems she came back, but at a high price (her life)... although the two are not connected. But you did the right thing and I'm sure it gave her something wonderful to take with her (your love and being there for her).

And I'm sure it meant more to your son than you will ever know. He lost his mother, but his parents were together when she died.

Just take it slow and be careful not to fall too quickly... use your head while listening to your heart.

Hang in there... and take it slow.

I'm so sorry.
I lost my wife about 3 1/2 years ago it took me two years before I could even think about dating. For the first two Years I tried but I could not get the feeling of her out of my mind. So I just told myself that I am just going to give my heart to My God. And when he was ready to let me date I would not push finding a woman. Well it was hard and I so much wanted to do it my way. The fact of the matter is every time I did it my way I hurt myself over and over again.

That is when I just let it go and 5 weeks ago a woman that I had dated in Jr. high emailed me out of the blue. I was shocked that this happened. But We have been seeing one another every weekend ever since. And you know I don't feel like I am doing anything wrong for the first time in 3 1/2 years. Grant you I still need time to commit to love but I think that will come in a few more years. They say it takes one year for every 7 years you were together and I was married for 20 years so I am right on the money. So don't rush your grieving. God is with you through it all trust and old married man. "that's is me"

Jimmy

of corse you do ............

I just want to say thanks to everyone out there. I know that I need to keep living, my family keeps telling me that I need to start living again. Even my wife's mother has begged me to go out there and let myself live. My biggest problem is that I am shy, and I lack confidence. things were so much easier when I was in my twenties.

yes, you still do have a chance...you will meet one soon