You may be my long lost uptight brother. Wanna move to west virginia?

great question,but you are one of the smartest and sexiest ladies on this site i think there are 2 factors that play a role in what type of person we turn out to be...the first is our individuality (obviously) and the second is karma sadly,some people have good karma while others (myself included) have been screwed by karma side note...there is a great Warren Zevon song called "Bad Karma" which pretty much sums up how some of us take a screwing due to circumstances beyond our control be seeing you

In psychological studies, it shows that even siblings raised in the same home will report different experiences and feelings about there childhood. You each are your own person with probably very different personalities. Upon exploring outside of your family, you all had different experiences that shaped you further and lead to different opportunities. I could go on more, but this is all you get for a sunday morning after only 5 hours of broken sleep.

Tanyaann, get some coffee and feel better. Great response.

First, thank you for the compliment. Second, do you believe that you earned bad karma or is the universe just screwing with you?

Thanks for the compliment and the welcome.
I had an abusive father (physical and verbal) and have a younger sister who went through some of it, but not quite as severe. She turned out to be Miss Goodie Two Shoes, while I was the rebellious drunk, druggie, violent kid with a lot of anger.
I guess shrinks would call me anal expulsive and my sister, anal retentive.
It took me twenty plus years to get myself clean and "collate my fecal matter" so to speak, while sis has always been a productive member of society.
An interesting side note is that we're not natural brother and sisiter, as we're adopted. There's another monkey wrench in the gears to add more confusion.
Psychologists would say I rebelled and was a risk taker because of my role as the older child, while my soister conformed and caved in because orf her role as the "baby".
How about the male/female dynamic as well? Did that have something to do with it? Obviuosly males are more assertive, more aggressive, more prone to experiment and rebel than females, but I surely have known more than my share of angry, rebellious, aggressive women.
Go figure. Maybe it all comes down to WTF?

you may not be who you think you are
and it is possible you never will be...

I am exactly who I think I am. Broken and all.

Thanks for the compliment and the welcome.
I had an abusive father (physical and verbal) and have a younger sister who went through some of it, but not quite as severe. She turned out to be Miss Goodie Two Shoes, while I was the rebellious drunk, druggie, violent kid with a lot of anger.
I guess shrinks would call me anal expulsive and my sister, anal retentive.
It took me twenty plus years to get myself clean and "collate my fecal matter" so to speak, while sis has always been a productive member of society.
An interesting side note is that we're not natural brother and sisiter, as we're adopted. There's another monkey wrench in the gears to add more confusion.
Psychologists would say I rebelled and was a risk taker because of my role as the older child, while my soister conformed and caved in because orf her role as the "baby".
How about the male/female dynamic as well? Did that have something to do with it? Obviuosly males are more assertive, more aggressive, more prone to experiment and rebel than females, but I surely have known more than my share of angry, rebellious, aggressive women.
Go figure. Maybe it all comes down to WTF?

a couple of nights with me could possible fix some of that.

It just means that you expressed yourself outwardly, whereas as your sister internalized. Has nothing to be with not being biological siblings. You each had different coping mechanisms. Also, in abusive alcoholic homes, sometimes the male child maybe exposed to more violence or abuse, I don't know if that was in your case.

I am truly sorry that you had that experience and I am glad that you were able to get your life together.


And I am getting offline.... TOO EARLY for me to be giving Psych 1010 lessons!

Or it could be all that Merv Griffin I was exposed to?!