the person i am referring to IS GOING TO CRASH HARD!!!! after what he went through in childhood and adulthood...he learned from his parents to self medicate with alcohol if ignoring the problems doesn't work

so i should sit by and not worry about it since there is nothing i can do anyway? this is what i don't get. if I pray and many pray for that person too....nothing will happen because the person doesn't know much about God or where to go for help or wants to handle it the way he has been because the problems of the past are too painful?

Separation from God. Its a scary thing. Jesus spoke more about hell then He did about heaven. Have you talked to him before about Christ. With some, we are to warn, pulling them from the fire as it were.

How to Pray for Believers and Unbelievers

How to Pray for Believers
It is interesting to note that much of the praying that was done in the New Testament was on behalf of believers. Jesus certainly modeled this pattern with His mission-centered prayer in John 17. Paul likewise models and teaches this practice throughout his epistles (see Eph. 1: 15-19; 3:14-19; I Thess. 3:11-13). As Christians we should lift one another to the throne of grace daily. One writer said it well, "More believers on their knees praying will result in more Christians on their feet evangelizing." Prayer for believers that focuses on the fulfillment of the Great Commission should be at the heart of every Christians prayer life. The following prayer suggestions can help believers pray with a view toward the Great Commission.

Using Matthew 9:37-38, John 17:11-24, and Colossians 1:9-11 as a guide, pray for: Christ to send believers into His harvest fields (Matt. 9:38)
Christ to keep Christians in His name and character (John 17:11)
Christians to have Christ’s joy made full in themselves (John 17:13)
Christ to guard and protect believers from the evil one (John 17:15)
Christ to sanctify (set apart) believers in the truth of God (John 17:17)
Christians to be unified in one mission, purpose and spirit even as the Father and Son are one (John 17:21-22)
Christians to be where Christ is and join His work ( John 17:24).
Christians to be filled with spiritual wisdom, pleasing in all ways to Christ, strengthened spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally, and bearing fruit in every good work (Col. 1:10-11).


How to Pray for Unbelievers
Evangelistic praying should include prayer for personal spiritual needs, evangelism events, believers and unbelievers. Prayer on behalf of lost people is clearly mandated by Christ in Matthew 6:9-10. The Apostle Paul models and exhorts believers concerning prayer for the lost (see Rom.10:1-2; I Tim. 2:1-4). Below is an acrostic that can be used to pray biblically and effectively for those that are lost.

Pray for their HEARTS to be changed. Pray for Receptive and Repentant Hearts (Luke 8:5-12)
Pray for their spiritual Eyes and Ears to be opened to the truth of Christ (2 Cor. 4:3-4; Matt. 13:15).
Pray for them to have God’s Attitude toward sin (John 16:8).
Pray for the person to be Released to believe (2 Cor. 10:3-4; 2 Tim 2:25-26)
Pray for a Transforming life (Rom. 12:1-2).
Pray for God to Send them into his harvest field (Matt 9:35-38).


North American Mission Board
http://www.namb.net/evangelism/dev/prayer/PrayerMap/believr.htm