How do I handle all the anger my son has built up for 13 years knowing his bio has denied him. We have to get an DNA test done this morning so we can set child support in april. My son has so much anger he wants to tell his bio dad off today...i know the cops and Dept. of Family and Children won't let him so how do i stop him? My ex is in jail right now that's why they want the test done now. He's in jail because of unpaid support for my oldest son. please help.....

if i were you, and if you haven't done so already, I would explain to your son the entirety of the situation. as in, why his father hasn't been in contact with him for his entire life. if the reasoning is because the father is a deadbeat who only cares about himself, I'd let your son go through with telling him off. it isn't good for your son to bottle up his emotions, and would probably be a kick in the ass for his dad to realize how badly he has hurt his son. maybe if the father realized exactly how bad his son felt, he would do something to change and try to form a relationship.

talk to your son and ask what he truely wants to do... listen to him and be ther for him...thats what we do as parents.... guide listen and comfort...

I agree, my sweet ((SisterKate)))

I don't think the cops or DFC will stop him, as long as he's reasonably under control. And it's far better for him to get it out than to bottle it up, if at all possible. Carrying that kind of pain for that many years can do an unbelievable amount of damage to his psyche! Love him, let him do what he feels he needs to do and just be there for him at the end

Thank you for your replies but the agony of waiting is over.. We didn't have to see my ex after all. They went to him to take his dna.