i was refering to the response of one of the responders

Yep. I'm working towards a stint in the Time Out Room.

No sex for one year? Pfft! I haven't had any in around FIVE! And I've only had one short-lived relationship in that five years! So beat that!

. A lot of us folks have been single, and sexless. It doesn't make us anything but single and perhaps horney. Get yourself out there and go after what you want!

When you've gone 5 or 6 years with neither, then you can cry.

Yes... As long as we can put lots and lots of butter on it.


OP I have no idea if you are ugly or not. Since beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Don't measure your worth based on another person (or the ability of "being" with another). What matters, what counts, is YOURSELF.

Not being within a Relationship has nothing to do with being ugly or stupid. For there is no one within this world that someone don't find them as attractive or as a potential partner.

And well going without sex is merely a choice we make due to most do not want the one night stand or FWB.

But now if one puts themselves out there bringing attention to themselves or what some prefer to as pity patty stories the ohhh me ohh my why me issues. Well this type of attitude actually makes others shake their heads as they are do you actually not see that there are others with issues a far lot worse.


I mean if a person found out they were dying and all they did each day is complain about the raw deal they were dealt with and all they did was complain about dying each day. Even though we felt for that person would they not indeed take away from what time they did have left? And would it not in fact lead some to think they were so wrapped up within the issue that in fact they failed to see and appreciate the time they have lived and to enjoy the life they had left. For it is those that stand up against the odds and go at it head strong that are in fact the ones we remember in the end.

My point is a person must be happy with themselves and portray that before others will take notice. If a person tends to only bring out the negative about themselves then that is what others will see as well. Those that learn to love themselves and appreciate what they have are the ones that most people prefer to be around.

Relationships should be there to enhance ones life and never be looked at as a way to solve a problem within ones life. Those type of problems are only solved temporally by becoming involved. For once the new has worn off the problem of thinking one is not worthy will resurface. JMO

Pretty solid advice from the two ladies above me. Happiness is a state of mind, and that is the persona you will need to emit. Love yourself first. It will happen sooner or later...most likely when you're busy as hell...

from what I used to know about you...there is nothing pathetic about you

May I have some Parmesan Cheese on mine? Got plenty of ice for the drinks.