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Topic: Defense Mechanisms...
Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:23 AM


Do you have any?? What do you like/dislike about the ones you maintain??


I start laughing or giggling.

Good thing - it sometimes lightens the mood. bigsmile

Bad thing - people think I'm more insane than I really am. slaphead

laugh

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:24 AM

I drink beer and throw empties......it works in most cases!!!

:smile:

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:24 AM



yeah I use the threat of physical violence to keep people away

:smile: somehow I didn't figure for the angry typehappy


no anger at all

I just calmly say "if you don't go away I'll break your nose"

it always works

:smile:

PATSFAN's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:26 AM

I drink beer and throw empties......it works in most cases!!!



I've taught you well grasshopperdrinker

RKISIT's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:29 AM
:smile: i use a judo chop or just kick their dog ....if they have no pets i throw dung at their windows:smile:

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:31 AM
sand bags, barbed wire, and clymores. The good, they work very well at keeping people from sneaking up on me. The bad, not many people come to visit.

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Sun 02/22/09 09:31 AM
I pee in their wheaties.surprised

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:21 AM
You guys are too funny laugh Thanks for posting.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:23 AM

Do you have any?? What do you like/dislike about the ones you maintain??
flowerforyou my love turns to hatredflowerforyou

7z3r05's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:25 AM
i usually just make fun of the person and use big words. if it escalates i will use threats of bodily harm. it usually ends there.

rickfw's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:27 AM
laughing at something thats not very funny if im nervous or acting like an ass when someone is to close to quick dont like to let my armor down that quick

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:33 AM
wow nice self observations :smile:

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Sun 02/22/09 11:36 AM
I work all the time...keeps em at bay....
And they can't catch me....

Works for me....laugh

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Sun 02/22/09 11:42 AM

Do you have any?? What do you like/dislike about the ones you maintain??


I keep a certain amount of distance (emotionally) with the people I deal with, even with some of my relationships. I do it because I simply don't trust the person I'm seeing as I (quite accurately) assume they'll pull a 180 on me and flake out or something.


Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:46 AM

I work all the time...keeps em at bay....
And they can't catch me....

Works for me....laugh

So you use a workaholic type method to keep your time occupied from allowing your self to date. Avoidance of the situation altogether? How does that work for you? Any regrets?

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 11:48 AM


Do you have any?? What do you like/dislike about the ones you maintain??


I keep a certain amount of distance (emotionally) with the people I deal with, even with some of my relationships. I do it because I simply don't trust the person I'm seeing as I (quite accurately) assume they'll pull a 180 on me and flake out or something.




Cautious is good, how do you know when to let yourself trust in that person? Whats the longest it took for you? The shortest?

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Sun 02/22/09 11:59 AM



Do you have any?? What do you like/dislike about the ones you maintain??


I keep a certain amount of distance (emotionally) with the people I deal with, even with some of my relationships. I do it because I simply don't trust the person I'm seeing as I (quite accurately) assume they'll pull a 180 on me and flake out or something.




Cautious is good, how do you know when to let yourself trust in that person? Whats the longest it took for you? The shortest?


My trust in a relationship will depend on what the person I'm seeing shows me. There'll often be little cues I'll notice that will show me whether or not she's gonna be a flake or something worse. It can take anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of weeks, if not more.

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 12:25 PM




Do you have any?? What do you like/dislike about the ones you maintain??


I keep a certain amount of distance (emotionally) with the people I deal with, even with some of my relationships. I do it because I simply don't trust the person I'm seeing as I (quite accurately) assume they'll pull a 180 on me and flake out or something.




Cautious is good, how do you know when to let yourself trust in that person? Whats the longest it took for you? The shortest?


My trust in a relationship will depend on what the person I'm seeing shows me. There'll often be little cues I'll notice that will show me whether or not she's gonna be a flake or something worse. It can take anywhere from a couple of days to a couple of weeks, if not more.

great self observation moofooga

Jess642's photo
Sun 02/22/09 12:47 PM
Edited by Jess642 on Sun 02/22/09 12:47 PM
Walking through the bushland if I come across a grumpy King Brown, (snake) my defense mechanisms are alive and well...noway

Up at the pub, if faced by a drunken agressive person, who is threatening, my defense mechanisms are alive and well...

If there is a fire close to home, my defense mechanisms are alive and well..

If in a romantic relationship and things are not what they are supposed to be........my INSTINCTS are alive and well..

I have a strong sense of survival.bigsmile

Seakolony's photo
Sun 02/22/09 01:11 PM

Walking through the bushland if I come across a grumpy King Brown, (snake) my defense mechanisms are alive and well...noway

Up at the pub, if faced by a drunken agressive person, who is threatening, my defense mechanisms are alive and well...

If there is a fire close to home, my defense mechanisms are alive and well..

If in a romantic relationship and things are not what they are supposed to be........my INSTINCTS are alive and well..

I have a strong sense of survival.bigsmile

Awesome :smile:

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