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I will NEVER be convinced that a woman puts on the makeup and the clothes and does the hair just because "she does it for herself and it makes her feel good." She does it because she WANTS to be noticed, but as soon as she is, she's "insulted" that somebody had the nerve to notice her. Let me try it from another angle: When you get up and are leaving the house to go to work, grocery shopping, to town, or wherever, do you shower first? brush your hair? your teeth? shave? I'm guessing that you do (I hope it's okay to assume  ). Do you do all that because you want a lady to notice how attractive you are? Or do you do it out of good grooming habits? Or even to make yourself feel clean (good)? I do agree with you as it being one reason why a woman might gussy herself; I just don't think it is the only one, or even a major one. I make at least a cursory effort at some sort of hygiene  simply because it's not very palatable to others to go out stinking of sweat and such. As far as going to any extreme to "get a lady to notice me", no. I do not concern myself with such matters (I figured you knew that about me by now -- we've known each other for over two years! ) If I'm just going to the store for some milk, or to the gas station, or even to work, there is no need for me to be at my Sunday best, because I am also not attempting to impress anybody. I might drag a brush across my head, but I don't go out of my way to make sure every hair is in place.
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Hell if I know. I'll let you know if and when it happens.
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Edited by
papersmile
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Thu 02/19/09 04:05 PM
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I make at least a cursory effort at some sort of hygiene simply because it's not very palatable to others to go out stinking of sweat and such. As far as going to any extreme to "get a lady to notice me", no. I do not concern myself with such matters (I figured you knew that about me by now -- we've known each other for over two years! ) If I'm just going to the store for some milk, or to the gas station, or even to work, there is no need for me to be at my Sunday best, because I am also not attempting to impress anybody. I might drag a brush across my head, but I don't go out of my way to make sure every hair is in place.Haha and you know me, and have seen me swimming in a lake and not showering for 3 or 4 days, makeupless, and hair definitely uncombed (didn't I look hot? ) Guys' and gals' grooming habits differ greatly though and gussying a bit for women tends to be part of the regular routine, and isn't classified as 'any extreme' at all, at least not to me. Oh, who DO you try to look good for on Sundays? God? (I'm not trying to be a smart aleck, but I AM trying to make a point) |
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Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back?  If the compliment is given to me in a public forum, I'm not very good at accepting it graciously. I think it's mostly because I don't like that sort of attention being drawn to me and I'll avoid it like the plague. Receiving a compliment in private email is another thing entirely; however, most of the compliments I get are from guys that don't know me at all and the words come off as sounding totally insincere and/or rehearsed. I don't respond to them. I've tried the 'Thanks but I'm in a relationship' bit, but then I've been met with either, 'Well don't think you're all that anyway, I was just paying you a passing compliment, I'm not interested either' and/or 'Well what the hell are you doing on a dating site? This is for single people who really are trying for love and romance.' So I just don't bother to respond at all anymore. Best bet is to keep the skin thick and roll with punch or fall. |
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Oh, who DO you try to look good for on Sundays? God? (I'm not trying to be a smart aleck, but I AM trying to make a point) Usually only for AMC or TCM, and they really don't much care if I have bed-head. 
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I'll bite. What do the acronyms stand for?
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American Movie Classics
Turner Classic Movies |
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Thu 02/19/09 04:21 PM
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Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? Many people are like that. They judge quickly by first impression of the main profile picture posted. Perhaps I should switch off mine to a cartoon or a celebrity figure.. |
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true, i cant imagine getting like 50 to 90 emails a day, i guess i guy that plays a guitar and is artistic just isnt in big demand these days lol. but as far as giving compliments? i read the ladies profile, and then i comment on that and sumthing i find attractive about her hair or the way she smiles, sumthing sincere like that, nothing like " i want to get in your pants" or some crap like that, im sure they get enough of that from the males that solely use their lil head to do the thinking for them, how sad.
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true, i cant imagine getting like 50 to 90 emails a day, i guess i guy that plays a guitar and is artistic just isnt in big demand these days lol. but as far as giving compliments? i read the ladies profile, and then i comment on that and sumthing i find attractive about her hair or the way she smiles, sumthing sincere like that, nothing like " i want to get in your pants" or some crap like that, im sure they get enough of that from the males that solely use their lil head to do the thinking for them, how sad. coming from a hot guitar girl.. if someone sends me a note saying Im cute whatever.. I respond... Im not about getting gussied up to impress.. just a country girl... 
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Dating sites online make communication between guys and girls so much easier, especially if u are shy. dont you just hate it when ur browsin profiles and you see someone that u think is very attractive and that u like their profile, but when u send them a compliment on their looks and things you like about their profile and they dont even as much as send a thankyou email back? Personally Maybe I hold back and am not forward enough. I don't know but I don't really compliment someone out of the blue. I somehow just let things work how theyr'e supposed to. I try not to force any thing. If I feel like there is something I want to speak with her about, something in common, something she said in the forum , then I will say something in the forum to her but still not a compliment yet because there is a right time and a right place. Otherwise they kinda guess what your motive might be and I don't think some women think guys motives are pure. Do women compliment guys out of the blue? Not to me. |
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true, i cant imagine getting like 50 to 90 emails a day, i guess i guy that plays a guitar and is artistic just isnt in big demand these days lol. but as far as giving compliments? i read the ladies profile, and then i comment on that and sumthing i find attractive about her hair or the way she smiles, sumthing sincere like that, nothing like " i want to get in your pants" or some crap like that, im sure they get enough of that from the males that solely use their lil head to do the thinking for them, how sad. Why not try commenting on something in her profile, rather than just her picture? |
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true, i cant imagine getting like 50 to 90 emails a day, i guess i guy that plays a guitar and is artistic just isnt in big demand these days lol. but as far as giving compliments? i read the ladies profile, and then i comment on that and sumthing i find attractive about her hair or the way she smiles, sumthing sincere like that, nothing like " i want to get in your pants" or some crap like that, im sure they get enough of that from the males that solely use their lil head to do the thinking for them, how sad. Why not try commenting on something in her profile, rather than just her picture? i do, thats why i said "i read the ladies profile, and comment on that AND sumthing i find attractive about her" just commenting on pics alone can be somewhat lacking and the lady will probably think you didnt even take the time to read her profile, just oogling at her boobs lol
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women are gods gift to men,and should be treated as so.they are special.just ask your mother?who brought you into this world!!!i love my mother,shes a blast still working 79!!! go mom
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women are gods gift to men,and should be treated as so.they are special.just ask your mother?who brought you into this world!!!i love my mother,shes a blast still working 79!!! go mom i totally agree, i think that guys that abuse women should have their marbles ( or watever word u want to use instead of testicle) removed because clearly they do not deserve them, im sure many ladies would agree with me 
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