agreed!

Huh; I didn't notice the date of the original post, but didn't think I had seen it before, either. That explains why. This is known as "thread necromancy," and other terms on the Interwebz.

If I read the original question right, I'd say the answer is that men and women may use the same terms when talking to other persons of their gender, but not with members of the opposite gender. Talking about it is a Good Thing, as long as both parties are on the same page.

I recall a brief article in Playboy a number of years ago (okay, maybe I didn't buy it for the articles, but I did read some articles) about how women would go into some vague language about body parts, etc., when talking to their husbands or boyfriends. Some of what I remember from 1990-something (or maybe even 1980-something), quoting it as best I can (paraphrasing where the terms in the article might have been stronger):
Boobs: "these"
Vagina: "here"
Penis: "that"
Colloquialism for sex that begins with 'f': "Dinner and a movie"

In conclusion, I gotta say I was amazed by some of the dialogue on the TV show Better Days. (The episode "Hair of the Dog" in particular. Some of that was mother/daughter--and daughter's friend--conversation, but there was also some dialogue between Sam and some guy--maybe an ex?--that I was surprised to hear on TV.)

Way to come up with a topic that gets everyone talking, anyway.

I dunno
do you guys also get together
say for lunch in the mall
and talk about how romance is dead
how inadequate your member is to do the job
and how you wish your man would go on Viagra too?

Well together as a couple I think men and women... relate about sex in the same way..... and yes men do talk with their men friends about sex and their feelings..and often.. you'd be amazed how often men friends will discuss there relationships with each other...ie.. she's really nice to me she's caring and thoughtful... she's a great and giving lover... if you hang on a minute I have a video I can download to you too...lol..jk..
Most guys would not share intimate pictures with their friends of their girlfriends..sure sure they will show their friends a very nice picture of the girlfriends but nothing risque... we generally talk about or feelings with each other our hopes and dreams aspirations.. and some of our self doubts... ie..am I good enough for her am I in the same league... OMG she's so beautiful I can hardly believe she's with me...

Then as friends we boost each other up ..ie..buddy you're a good guy she'd be happy to have a guy like you... now come on !and hurry up!!.. or we're going to be late for nail and hair appointment..lmao

... really...!! you get men chatting you up about their partner..hmmmm... they feel secure enough to confide in you about what their current partner is or isn't doing...
Hmmmm... when you're giving them advice do you demonstrate sometimes...lol... like for instance.. if you really want to pleasure her..flower do this and then you show them.. maybe a little step by step instructional video.... well if you do that's awfully nice of you Blondie... personally I talk to my partner about such things... or sometimes a co-worker...lol.. or sibling... or my local priest.. okay sometimes I go to the fire department as well with my questions...
Lol...

But quite honestly I really don't have problems in this area.. nothing that I would need to get advice on..nooo.. pretty sure I can figure out how to make it all work..lol

I don't talk about it. I just do it.

I learned so much by hanging around the fire station when I was a kid; some of it stuff my parents would probably have preferred that I didn't know at that age . . . In the substation in my old town, some erotic novels were in a cabinet next to the fire service magazines. I could sometimes look like I was perusing the magazines when I was actually reading something very different. The publications in that cabinet are probably much restricted these days.

Then I became a firefighter, and I can tell you that some of the guys were still willing to offer free advice. (Much of it worth exactly what the recipient paid for it. )
Nowadays there are some women firefighters. I worked with a few (volunteer departments), but we didn't discuss much of anything mentioned in this thread. (Although one time a female paramedic I worked with "shared some information" that I really didn't need to know. )