Topic: How many others belive that marriage is
Peccy's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:28 PM

I can't wait to find the person I want to marry! I am not embittered or jaded by the idea of commitment.

I realize many people say it's 'only a piece of paper'; however, by not getting married -- to the right person -- it displays a lack of permanence. There is no stability or sanctity. Playing 'house' with someone is about the lamest ritual I can think of .... not really but it serves my purpose for now.

I don't care what soceity says; I am not a breeder so my idea of marriage is not to settle down and become old; I am not a slave to the pressures of religion, and I hope I don't fall for someone who allows those thoughts into his head as a reason NOT to get married. I think it's immature when someone thinks they need to avoid marriage because of societ, et al. That is actually a chicksh*t attitude. If you meet the right person why resist for a flimsy reason?

I am a hopeless and hopeful romantic. I could never be with someone that doesn't feel the same.

Melody :banana:
Hmmmm I thought sacrificing a virgin was a lame ritual

izzie's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:29 PM
im going to bite my tounge (for a change) and simply say that no i dont think it is an out dated pratice, and that i do beleve it is a vital and wonderful pratice that people should hold much higher in regard.
jmo

Peccy's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:30 PM

im going to bite my tounge (for a change) and simply say that no i dont think it is an out dated pratice, and that i do beleve it is a vital and wonderful pratice that people should hold much higher in regard.
jmo

I can respect that. Just agree to disagree is all. But i still wuv you Izze!

MelodyGirl's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:32 PM


I can't wait to find the person I want to marry! I am not embittered or jaded by the idea of commitment.

I realize many people say it's 'only a piece of paper'; however, by not getting married -- to the right person -- it displays a lack of permanence. There is no stability or sanctity. Playing 'house' with someone is about the lamest ritual I can think of .... not really but it serves my purpose for now.

I don't care what soceity says; I am not a breeder so my idea of marriage is not to settle down and raise a family; I am not a slave to the pressures of religion, and I hope I don't fall for someone who allows those thoughts into his head as a reason NOT to get married. I think it's immature when someone thinks they need to avoid marriage because of society, et al. That is actually a chickensh*t attitude. If you meet the right person why resist for a flimsy reason?

I am a hopeless and hopeful romantic. I could never be with someone that doesn't feel the same.

Melody :banana:


Hmmmm I thought sacrificing a virgin was a lame ritual



HEY! I said 'not really'. I was just being dramatic to make my point! You are a silly goose, Peccy! flowerforyou

lcjw's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:33 PM

No I don't. Despite one failed marriage I still believe in that institution. I think that with most other man-made institutions like politics and religion, that the problem is actually with people.

I mean the heart and soul of marriage is two people making a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together come hell or high-water. Yes I totally believe in that.


:heart: :heart:

Peccy's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:36 PM



I can't wait to find the person I want to marry! I am not embittered or jaded by the idea of commitment.

I realize many people say it's 'only a piece of paper'; however, by not getting married -- to the right person -- it displays a lack of permanence. There is no stability or sanctity. Playing 'house' with someone is about the lamest ritual I can think of .... not really but it serves my purpose for now.

I don't care what soceity says; I am not a breeder so my idea of marriage is not to settle down and raise a family; I am not a slave to the pressures of religion, and I hope I don't fall for someone who allows those thoughts into his head as a reason NOT to get married. I think it's immature when someone thinks they need to avoid marriage because of society, et al. That is actually a chickensh*t attitude. If you meet the right person why resist for a flimsy reason?

I am a hopeless and hopeful romantic. I could never be with someone that doesn't feel the same.

Melody :banana:


Hmmmm I thought sacrificing a virgin was a lame ritual



HEY! I said 'not really'. I was just being dramatic to make my point! You are a silly goose, Peccy! flowerforyou
And you are tall, what's your point...lollaugh laugh laugh happy flowerforyou

Jill298's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:36 PM
<---- thinks marriage is the #1 cause of divorce

Peccy's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:37 PM

<---- thinks marriage is the #1 cause of divorce
ya think?

misstina2's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:37 PM
:heart: its the deepest commitment to me:heart: I'm a romantic :heart:

no photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:38 PM

No I don't. Despite one failed marriage I still believe in that institution. I think that with most other man-made institutions like politics and religion, that the problem is actually with people.

I mean the heart and soul of marriage is two people making a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together come hell or high-water. Yes I totally believe in that.



Why do you need a contract to make a commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone?

I've never heard a satisfactory explanation for that.

Jill298's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:39 PM


No I don't. Despite one failed marriage I still believe in that institution. I think that with most other man-made institutions like politics and religion, that the problem is actually with people.

I mean the heart and soul of marriage is two people making a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together come hell or high-water. Yes I totally believe in that.



Why do you need a contract to make a commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone?

I've never heard a satisfactory explanation for that.
especially since it obviously doesn't keep people together. You can still get divorced. It's just harder.
I've been hurt and disappointed to many times to have it done to me legally as well.

RKISIT's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:42 PM
Edited by RKISIT on Mon 02/16/09 12:44 PM
most of the people who don't want to get married are ones who have done it and experienced it,i have ,its stupid.why the hell would i want to take a chance on something i tried and didn't like.i could care less about religion or other peoples values thats their thing not mine.its called preference.and to be honest the marriage thing is more of a tradition than anything...so get rid of it before more attorneys get rich off of it:smile:meaning divorce of course

Peccy's photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:45 PM
Edited by Peccy on Mon 02/16/09 12:47 PM


No I don't. Despite one failed marriage I still believe in that institution. I think that with most other man-made institutions like politics and religion, that the problem is actually with people.

I mean the heart and soul of marriage is two people making a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together come hell or high-water. Yes I totally believe in that.



Why do you need a contract to make a commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone?

I've never heard a satisfactory explanation for that.
I guess it's something that people feel needs to be done in front of this imaginary dude in the clouds to appease him. Makes almost as much sense as tithing. JMO

no photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:46 PM

I guess it's something that need to be done in front of this imaginary dude in the clouds to appease him. JMO


You will, of course, note that HE never got married....

no photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:46 PM


No I don't. Despite one failed marriage I still believe in that institution. I think that with most other man-made institutions like politics and religion, that the problem is actually with people.

I mean the heart and soul of marriage is two people making a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together come hell or high-water. Yes I totally believe in that.



Why do you need a contract to make a commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone?

I've never heard a satisfactory explanation for that.


For what it's worth, Mitch, I think people can make a lifelong commitment without getting married, my grandparents did. They didn't get married until I was almost an adult.

But, to answer your question with my opinion, I think that if you're simply living together, it's much simpler to give up and move on, without giving it your all first, in many cases, that permanent, legal and emotional level of commitment is simply not there. Marriage does make splitting up harder, no doubt, if things don't work out, but in cases of married couples, I think they are much more apt to really try to make a go of the relationship before making the choice to get a divorce.

no photo
Mon 02/16/09 12:48 PM

most of the people who don't want to get married are ones who have done it and experienced it,i have ,its stupid.why the hell would i want to take a chance on something i tried and didn't like.i could care less about religion or other peoples values thats their thing not mine.its called preference.and to be honest the marriage thing is more of a tradition than anything...so get rid of it before more attorneys get rich off of it:smile:meaning divorce of course


I liked being married, just in the end, I didn't like the person I was married to nor the person I had to become in order to keep the relationship going. And no lawyer got richer off my divorce, did it myself flowerforyou It's not that difficult.

no photo
Mon 02/16/09 01:02 PM
Marriage itself is not the problem. It's the two people involved, one or both of them, who lack the ability or desire to make it work.

MelodyGirl's photo
Mon 02/16/09 01:04 PM

Marriage itself is not the problem. It's the two people involved, one or both of them, who lack the ability or desire to make it work.


Finally! You hit the nail on the head, lilbug. :thumbsup:

Melody tongue2

Peccy's photo
Mon 02/16/09 01:08 PM
But, if marriage wasn't an option then they wouldn't get so comfortable or take stuff for granted.........again jmo

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Mon 02/16/09 01:09 PM

But, if marriage wasn't an option then they wouldn't get so comfortable or take stuff for granted.........again jmo


With or without marriage, folks get lazy in their relationships.