GUY GAMES

1) What's a "game" without a "player" Now, what a "player" is, exactly,
is a whole new topic, thereby adding complexity to this entire thing.
Whoever he is, some women are "sick" of him. For the record, other women
are inexplicably drawn to "player" types.

2) The dating "rules" of engagement -- This involves doing things or
acting in a certain way based on unwritten protocol'. For example, when
a guy gets your phone number takes you out on a date etc. Should he wait
three days to call you afterwards? Humm

3) Lying about intentions -- He "loves you" and wants a relationship. Or
vice-versa.

4) Overpromising, underdelivering -- He says he has a "wonderful
evening" planned for you. You are all excited, and you end up doing
absolutely nothing again. Another version of this is right after dinner
, while it's still early, he says he's really just ready to go home and
"chill". This is categorized as a guy "game" because in my opinion the
guy should have dates planned for the couple to enjoy, largely based on
(hopefully) her favorite things to do places to go.




GAL GAMES

1) Playing "hard to get" -- She leaves him hanging. A lot.

2) Marking territory -- This is all about getting involved in a guy's
life in such a way that before he knows it, you are most certainly not
going away anytime soon. (e.g. making friends with his friends,
introducing his and her kids to one another, etc.)

3) Meal ticket -- She keeps him around because he'll buy her dinner, and
stuff and that's really all. My personal opinion on this, BTW, is that
if it's going on, it's the guy's fault. He has failed to create
attraction on her part and besides, who can blame her?

4) Sexual control -- Anything under the general heading of "manipulation
by sex" is a "game".




EQUAL OPPORTUNITY GAMES

1) Flakiness -- Generally described as saying something will get done
and not delivering. Some people are legitimate all-around
flakes,deadbeats, and that's no game. The game here generally involved
flaking out on someone after committing to a date, etc. because a
"better option" came along.

2) Mind games -- Either hinting or outright saying something is so, and
then pretending it was never said later. Acting in approval of some
activity at one time, disapproving of the same thing another time.
Carrots and Sticks. Carts and Horses. You get the idea, and this can
take any form whatsoever. Everything from where the relationship stands
to what size boxers the dude wears is fair "game" for this type of
thing. This gig is all about controlling someone by weakness-usually in
a passive aggressive manner (Which is, ahem, another topic for another
day).

3) Presumptuous assumptions, what's your function? -- Whenever someone
imposes on another person and says, "Oh, I just assumed" you have this
going on. Example here would be A invites B (note careful avoidance of X
and Y variables here) to drinks. A automatically expected B to pay the
bill, and doesn't have money. Someone has been "played" here. Anything
involving presumed use of the other's time, resources or talents is this
sort of game. Ladies, if you automatically assume your guy is going to
help you move (unless maybe if it's in with him) you are looking at a
problem waiting to happen.

4) Guilt trips -- A major tactic of manipulation, often characterized by
projecting blame upon someone else rather than accepting any
responsibility for one's actions. (In fact, run away from anyone who
runs this brand of smack on a regular basis.)



These really can't be considered as part of the game!


1) Not knowing what one wants -- If someone wants a relationship and the
other isn't quite there yet, for whatever reason, the one driving the
relationship often thinks the other is "playing games". Assuming
everyone has been honest about intentions here, this frustration is
merely to be called "not getting what one wants immediately". It's not a
"game".

2) Details surrounding non-exclusivity -- If you are not in an exclusive
relationship with someone, it is not a "game" when the other person is
dating other people. Further, it's not a "game" when you are not being
given details. In fact, if one person is asking the other for said
details (for which there is no answer that will make said person happy,
of course) that might in fact fall under the "game" category. Assuming
exclusivity, by the way, is not a good strategy. People in exclusive
relationships should have a common understanding that it's the case.



So the summary here could be that being honest and up front from the
beginning would save alot of heart ache.

I'm sure there are more that can be added to these that we would could
consider as part of the game some chose to play. So what other ways do
some seem to string the other sex on with.

Txs some people don't realize they play any games?


We are all human experiencing , our " experiences the best we know how!


You can not clump people into catagories..In my opinion.


Love is pure.

And we get walls, from sometimes bumping into walls!



Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze

Another nice piece of read though Txs,

and very nice to meet you.........xxx Kim.

Thank you Kim nice to meet you as well. By the way my name is Kristi.

But your so right I do think at times we get so wrapped up in our own
little worlds. We do not realize that we oursleves have fell into
playing one of these games. Not all do it for spite or to hurt anyone.
At times in the beginning we get lost in the whirlwind. The excitement
of having someone at the moment to share things with. But... as we get
to know each other we find out that what we have in common is not enough
to build a relatioship on.

It does happen some do it for the thrill and only out for a good time
some good sex and to move on there way. But that is women and men both
that are guilty of it. I'm sure at one time or other we all have been
in a relationship that we really liked the person but was not in-love
with them.

This is depressing, we all these people exist.

rough no all these people don't exist it is called
labeling .....


and that sucks to do that......

Regardless what one wants to call it. Are they not games that people
tend to play at times in a relationship? Each and everyone of these
that are listed I have known someone along my life time that either did
them or had them done to them. Yes we are all differnt and some might
not have ever done any of these to someone or fell into the catagory of
being in one of these situations. But this is the real world and yes we
do have people that has been in one of these type of situations. Not
saying anyone here did any of one of these things. But it is truly a
part of life that happens.

As far as Love being pure I will not doubt you on that one for that is
true. But it is the way one uses that love in order to manipulate
another for there own benifiet.

All these are, are merely situations of what could happen to some one if
we are not carefuly. It would be great if we lived in a perfect world
and there was nothing but pure love for all and never any tears had to
be shed. But this is the real world and no one is PERFECT and at one
time or antother in our lives we will all be hurt by someone we loved.

I don't play games and that's why I have a hard time keeping men. Men
LIKE women who play games, they LIKE women who play coy and who play
hard to get. They LIKE women who are pretentious and shallow,
apparently.

Honesty and forthrightness, for reasons unbeknownst to me, scare the
ever-loving piss out of most people. I think a part of this might be
because they're afraid to face their own truths about themselves. When
someone is bare-bones honest, it forces someone to take a good hard look
back at themselves, and oftentimes they don't like what they see. They
are scared of seeing it themselves, so they're certainly scared to
reveal that reality to anyone else.

PARDON!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Disclaimer:

When I say "men," it should be reasonably construed that that doesn't
necessarily mean "all" mean. Not having known or met "all" men, that
would be an impossibility. When I use the term "men," it *should* be
automatically assumed I mean that in general terms.

If I meant "all" men, I'd have said "all" men. But I wouldn't say "all"
men, because that would just be a stupid assumption on my part.

Carry on.

OK SHALL I PUT THE SPANKIN ON HOLD THEN JEANC LMAO

ROFLMAO!!!@jean

That is very true shellia, for a lot of men do want a woman that is coy
and play the hard to get at times. And some men just have no ideal how
to deal with a women that speaks her mind and knows what she wants. They
at times seem to shy away from the ones that are indepentdent. I don't
know just my thoughts maybe they like the ideal of a woman having to
lean on them. Instead of one that can take care of herself. I know I
don't have the answers for sure.

"SOME MEN" THATS BETTER JUST LIKE TO PROOF READ. LOL

COME ON GUYS THEY GOT ME BACKED IN A CORNER AND THERE HISSSIN.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

Awwww ya poor baby, now if we had you backed up in a corner you would
not be hollowing for help. Hell ya would not be able to I have Duct Tape
will travel lmao

I myself do not like labeling anyone. But I have been out there in the
cold, gruel world. And there are those that I can see in TXGAL's game
thing. I can sit in a bar and point to the ones who are playing hard to
get, coy, and the men who are just out there to get in the panties of
that cute lady in the corner.

Sad.... but its true....