what's a knob.......is that a nubbin?

how ya doin' oldsage?

lol tant. knob...can mean a goof, a jerk, an idiot.

Jane I have been in the same situation also. I liked them both and
talked to both but one friend got mad because I talked to the other one
even tho the others name was never mentioned when I was with each of
them. I believe it is my choice who I chose as a friend I will not let
one dictate to me whom I talk to. Yeah I lost them as a friend. But...
to me if they had truly been a friend they would not have tried to
control my choice of friends. We had been friends for several years. I
also lost a friend of 12 years cause the guy she started dating at the
time was friends witht he guy I had been dating and he did not want her
talking to me afraid of what she might tell me. Hummm seems at the time
her b/f and mine was in a business together and did not want his
business partner/ friend know how bad he was really screwing him. I
really missed the one of 12 years for we talked all the time never had a
cross word with each other it came down to she had to chose between me
or her b/f that was a control freak as far as her friends. It's sad
that others make you chose like that. Myself I refuse to make that
choice if I lose them then they were not what I want as a true friend.
Good luck on your choices you make either way you end up loosing a
friend sometimes both.

I hear you sage. It happens in real life and online. I never looked at
it as a control issue. But I guess when someone interferes in your
friendships with other's it could very well be true.

my best friend of 15 yrs, started dating this guy, named John. she told
me all about him over the phone, was completely thrilled about this guy,
then i went over to her house to meet him, and couldn't stand him..

we ran to the store and when i got in the car, i asked her "you're proud
of THAT???"


her guy and i never liked eachother, she and he dated for a lil over a
yr. and then she realized what an idiot he was, and broke it off with
him.

never once did i ask her to not talk about him, or not have him
over..hell ..i invited her, him, AND her kids over for dinner more than
once..

the point is..she can BE, DATE, or be friends with whoever she
wants..that's her choice..i respect her individualism.

same goes with her...i can do what i want ..she respects MY
individualism..



we say, after 15 yrs of friendship, you're not friends cuz ya wanna
be...you're friends cuz ya HAVE to be..there's just entirely tooooo much
blackmail :P lmao

Nope I won't do it and yes I have taken flack for it. I don't get run
off that easy and I don't expect my friends to either. I love my friends
and can't part with any of them even if they don't get along.

I have deleted a few invites but but but ........some are folks I've
never spoken with

and someone made me feel guilty so ya he" is trying to control me I
think

I just try to go with the flow. If someone gets upset I think that it's
important that they are able to do what is right for them. How ever they
need to find peace in their life is what I wish for them.

If I become friends with someone I love them regardless, even if they
need space. Sometimes space is the best way to stay friends.

michael

When I am a friend; I am a friend in front of you and I am a friend
behind you. I am a friend above all things. No ONE has the power to take
my friendship away except, that friend. There is never a consideration
of my friendship where others are in play.

So, no. Other friends will not, and cannot determine my friendship to
another.

Kat