I feel like most women that I meet I fall in love with them...

that's why i have been married and divorced 3 times

i think ur mistaking love for limerence

i doubt you're really in love with them, but instead you really really enjoy the attention that you get. it's a common mistake that we make and i also do this. but i have learned to recognize it and control my perceived feelings.

It's not love. It's called "infatuation". It's similar that feeling you get when you ride around in that new Mustang you just bought.

The difference between love and infatuation is that love is "never-ending" while infatuation goes away after a couple of days or weeks.

Tread carefully, as some will take an opportunity to use that against you.

It is not that uncommon...just not admitted.

Not downplaying what it is at all. Just that it is a fact that some men "key in" on that mystique or magnetism or "pheromone essence" of certain women. It is irressistable to you. That's just a fact, and it won't play well with the rules of social games.

You can be gaga for them. Tolerate people saying that you're just infatuated (because that IS part of it) but just realize that this is you. It is not those women, and it isn't imaginary.

What to do?
Point out that you've got endless boners for those women. Settle for the fact that you will be no more than a handy stud service for about twenty years. Deal with it.

Umm... limerence? Am I being dense? I've never heard that word before.



Like ol' Will Shakespeare wrote: "This world is not for aye, nor is it strange that even our loves should, with our fortunes, change".

If only love were never-ending! But yer on the right track. The true test of love is in its longevity and its reciprocity- basically, you'll never know for sure you're in it until the knowing is a moot point.

Sooner think you are just having culture shock after a huge move where you havn't found a real anchor for your life and in love with the idea that love would give you a feeling of stability and belonging. Many people feel that way after big moves.

Especially your age where settleing down sounds like a good idea because so many of your peers are hooking up at one level or another.

That you seem to be aware of it is a hopeful note. Least you know to be careful.

P.S. Hang with your current employer for a couple of years and you will see you have a lot of opportunities with in the company both career wise and economically.

Some ppl r just in love with the idea of being in love, and wear their heart on their sleeve, I think this may be wat ur like.