Nothing sucks more then realizing too late that four years ago you fell for the guy who was only supposed to be your best friend...except the fact that he plans to marry a girl that's a lot younger, treats him like crap and is a whiner and to top it all off you have to find a way to tell him that you just cannot go to the wedding (nothing is in the way of it it would just hurt more than the slowest most painful death) UGH!! not the greatest situation =( he deserves to be happy and that's what i keep telling myself but it's never long before she's screaming at him for one thing or another she can't see how much she really has and what a lucky girl she is but...it's not so hard for me to see =( He's always been my everything because for the longest time I really had no one and I can't manage to drag myself to his wedding This has got to be the biggest example of letting your very best friend down but at the same time i don't want to watch...knowing what he's getting into because that would hurt terribly for a long time UGH dang =(

breathe in, breathe out

there, now it's off your chest.

People get mad at me because I'm in-your-face honest, but this is a perfect example of needing to do exactly that, especially if you're a good friend. I would expect nothing less than the honest truth. If that person is a true friend, they will appreciate the honesty instead of chastising you for it. If the latter happens, well, then you know the answer to that, too.

I've TOLD him the honest truth he wasn't angry or anything he informed me that he loved me (which is something he tells me every day) but he's marrying her no matter what i think or feel

She does not sound like the type of girl who is going to allow that best friend situation to continue after they are married. After she gets that ring she most likely is going to insist that he not see you anymore, so your time with him is probably coming to an end anyway. I wouldn't attend the wedding either and given the way you feel about them both, I would start backing away from the situation, 'cause I don't see it ending well if you attempt to remain 'best friends'

Well, then he's on his own. You've done your part. If he does, indeed, get hurt, he can never say he wasn't warned.

he wouldnt allow that hes already made that clear to her

I hope that's true, but I've seen it go the opposite way too many times....he has to live with her, not you.

Good point Robin. And to the OP, hey you said your piece. There's no way I'd attend a wedding with those feelings. You don't need to be there for him. He has her, remember? The only ones that really matter at a wedding are the B&G. so ya...it's hard to accept but you probably won't be missed.

Be there for him after when the "I told you so's" start flyin in ..

You have told him how you feel about him.... and yet he insists that he will marry this other woman? Personally I wouldn't go to the wedding. He isn't really concerned about your feelings apparently..And if it's going to cause you pain? Its time to cut your losses. You know it will never be, so its time to let go and move on.. And if the marriage fails in a year,so be it.. you tried to warn him. Maybe then he will realize what a friend he had in you and that it could of been more.Then he will look you up if he wants his friend back...

Im allergic to weddings........they depress me!!

have you ever watch Made of Honour ?