JB, I am not looking for a knight in shining armor to save me... that is not my way. I always have and still will stand on my own and don't need a man to validate me. I am diligently searching for new opportunities in the job market... daily... and it IS my main focus. But I would also like to meet someone with whom I can build a relationship and I fail to see why my current slump should have any bearing on that.

If a man can't accept me when the chips are down, then what confidence would I have in him (our relationship) if the chips are down again sometime in the future? I never have and do not ever intend to take money or financial assistance from a man in my life. But some warmth and affection and compassion would be a nice and welcome change. I would be there for my man if he were in that slump, so it's not too much to ask that a man overlook my temporary situation and see the beauty beyond that.

And as far as my saying I was a victim of circumstance, that is exactly what it is. That is not to say that I feel downtrodden or victimized... but it was not my choice to endure this fate. I will persevere. I would just like to meet someone who can recognize that and not judge me based on my current predicament. I've been single for a while now, and always focused on my career. Now that I have been forced to take a break from that career, I have much time on my hands and I feel the impact of what is missing in my life a little more.

THANK YOU to all those who have offered words of hope and encouragement. I truly appreciate it. I always have been and will continue to be strong, resourceful and a true survivor. It would just be nice to meet someone along the way.

Okay, just for fun, here are three cards I drew for the energy of the moment for you:

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The Dark Priestess
The Three of Swords
The Queen of Cups

Tell the story. The Dark priestess represents a person who you were involved with who was in it for their (his or her) own agenda. I think this was the person you are talking about. He seems so very nice but he was in it for himself... his loyalty is his own agenda. You are lucky to have escaped this person. Count your blessings.

Here is what the Dark Priestess say for Romance:

Dark Priestess Take care not to become intimate with this person who pretends romantic interest but uses it and your weakness to break down your defenses and gain your trust in order to extract information from you or enlist your support. This person is loyal to himself only and could have an alliance with your enemy. You may get the feeling that he is not telling you everything. That should be your first warning. To open your door and your heart to this person is like inviting the vampire into your home. You cannot trust this person with your secrets.

Three of swords: Heartbreak, loss, disappointment: The news hurts. You have experienced enough heartbreak. Face facts and end the connection that has brought you so much anguish. The pain you feel at parting is nothing compared to the ongoing unhappiness of a miserable relationship. This could be the result of a crisis stemming from a romantic triangle.

Queen of Cups This is you and you are the prototypical nurturer. This queen's nature is spiritual and loving. A new opportunity comes your way. This is work that satisfies or fulfills you emotionally....or it could be a new very intense relationship.

In this reading your significator card is:

---- > QUEEN OF CUPS

Wow JB,

You just scared the hell out of me.

You've looked into that window to my soul.

I'm not sure I understand all of that, but it sure has validity.

Thanks for the insight. Let me think on this a bit.





BTW, those are some of the most beautiful graphics I've seen!!

Cheers to us unemployed folk

Cheers... MORE WINE!!!

it seems ironic that he would bail just days before meeting,..like was he hiding something,..was he scared,..I don`t think it was about you,..

I'm thinking he found someone a little closer to home and rescinded the invitation to me to accomodate her. My best to them, if that's the case.

Tweren't meant to be.

Don't forget those of use unemployed by choice

It was just a bad turn of events you finding people who were more interested in your resume' than your mind and heart.But like re-applying for a job, just need to be patient,after all this is a site of applications to a certain degree.Just impress the right person and instead of medical and dental benefits,you get the benefit of a good time and a sharing affection.Just keep "job" hunting and quit applying yourself to the mcdonalds men,try an applebees instead hehe..gl

I have found in my experience as a human and as a therapist, that most people are selfish a$$holes. Don't let the bastards burn ya! Beausant!

I am fortunate for having the uncanny ability to rejuvenate after 24-48 hours. I don't usually stay down for long... But man, when it rains, it pours.

I've spent all evening so far, deleting and blocking whatever contact outlet these guys have to me. I swear there must be something in my profile that resembles a target.

Apparently your true beauty comes from your inner strength. Stay Strong and Shine, this too will pass.

I have to agree with JB on this one.
Hugs to you!

It only took me two weeks to get over my divorce from a man I had been with for over 15 years. My main adjustment was learning to make my own decisions. he he he hehe.

I used to think I had a lot of faults. After I divorced my husband I discovered I was perfect.

I used to have low self esteem. After I divorced my husband, I can't find a man good enough for me.

Anyway, you get the point.

well i have to say i dissagree with you... call it baggage if you like.. im in the same boat with the part tine job.. but i dont consider it baggage... but i am the type that wants to give it all to a realationship, for relationships take work.. and giving... and right now i dont have that to give and its not fair for both partys.. for i need to take care of myself before i bring someone else into a relationship.. as i wish they would do for me...until i feel good about myself its not fair to bring someone else into it.. JMO

ps just cause you lost your job doesnt mean thats drama either..... **** happens! and sorry for your loss

Thanks, Buttons... for all the encouragement. And the point here is a good one. But it seems that now, more than ever, I just need someone to hold me... someone to lean on. Is that so bad?

I know I will get out of this slump, but it would be nice to have someone around to keep me company. I would never place my burdens on someone else, but it is true that when two people care for one another, they share troubles and woes. You are right on that one.

Anyway you look at that, you may come off as being too "needy" and that is something that a lot of men avoid as many men are pretty "needy" themselves.

It may be hard to believe this, but men are also looking for security and stability.

As men, they are expected (by society) to bare a lot of responsibility and many men just can't live up to that so they seek at the very least, a woman who is capable of standing on her own and many times even a woman who could actually help them out and cater to his needs, both emotional and financial.

If a woman has too many of her own problems the man will think that his needs would be neglected or ignored. He will run away from a woman who has more problems and needs than him because he wants his needs to take priority above hers. If her problems are larger than his, he will definitely run like a rabbit.

So in finding a partner or mate, in order for the relationship to be balanced and equal, you need to find someone in the same position you are with similar problems to work out. Then you are on an even start and you can work together on your problems instead of one partner having more to deal with than another.

best time to have friends... that dont have expectations other than just friendship. for when we are down on ourselves we tend to try to comfort ourselves and when we start to feel better all things may change. kinda like the rebound relationships... sometimes a pet helps.. im glad i have a dog