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Do you know that you've got hypnotic eyes? "Don't stop" right now...or in general, unleashing the expressiveness that is coming out? You are getting veeeeeery sleeeeeeepy........... I mean......open the floodgates.....you know....in general. Cuz right now I gotta go to bed! |
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***sigh*** And that's how things are growing. I saw your response and I thought about what I had written. It was almost eerie. I read it three or four times, trying to understand and sense the link to the world of women. How did I know those things? What is happening? How did it effect readers? It almost was like a Thread Killer, a hot potato, but it was just as easy as breathing...and nowhere to breathe! So, now...now I am going to keep writing poems, because that used to shape and release and train these things to do what needed doing. Please remember to email every single one of them to me... 
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I don't know if egotistical is the word. It just strikes me as inconsiderate. I can't think of any other group that I would go into then turn around and say to a select group please go to another location because I don't want to talk to you in front of the rest of them. Especially since it is hardly necessary. If you participate in a few forums then write a simple discreet email to those people you find more interesting you can invite them anywhere you think is suitable. If you want to start threads that direct a question to a certain age frame or gender you are welcome to try that. I seriously doubt you will avoid comments outside your intended group but you don't have to acknowledge them. Fair warning when people take that tact it usually isn't well accepted by the dominant group in the forums. You can pretty well expect to be eaten alive and for some this is far from the first time they have snacked on someone who made themselves a target. That was what I was feeling, too, about it being a bit inconsiderate. But I question my feelings, and I have doubts that I understand what is going on sometimes. When I look back at my own posts, sometimes I have to cringe and ask myself, "What in Sam Hill gives me the right to come off like that?" So, on this subject of newcomers, I had to ask if I am seeing things through tinted glasses. I don't want to tread on newcomers, blasting them as a "Welcome To Mingle" bullying tactic. I'm just asking if it is reasonable for new peeps to ask interested people to contact them. And is it really egotistical? |
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***sigh*** And that's how things are growing. I saw your response and I thought about what I had written. It was almost eerie. I read it three or four times, trying to understand and sense the link to the world of women. How did I know those things? What is happening? How did it effect readers? It almost was like a Thread Killer, a hot potato, but it was just as easy as breathing...and nowhere to breathe! So, now...now I am going to keep writing poems, because that used to shape and release and train these things to do what needed doing. Please remember to email every single one of them to me...
 Will do. Sweet dreams.
And thanks for talking with me. It was good. |
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***sigh*** And that's how things are growing. I saw your response and I thought about what I had written. It was almost eerie. I read it three or four times, trying to understand and sense the link to the world of women. How did I know those things? What is happening? How did it effect readers? It almost was like a Thread Killer, a hot potato, but it was just as easy as breathing...and nowhere to breathe! So, now...now I am going to keep writing poems, because that used to shape and release and train these things to do what needed doing. Please remember to email every single one of them to me...
Will do. Sweet dreams.
And thanks for talking with me. It was good. I concur. Goodnight!! |
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I do. I just figure they're looking for an intimate intimate encounter. You know. The kind that usually take place in shady bars with ludicrous names like the Blue Oyster Club. blue oyster cult? good music.. except that Godzilla song.... No. It was a vague police academy reference (I think). I'm pretty sure that was the gay bar that Mahoney always wound up tricking the suckup and his buddy into going into. |
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That was what I was feeling, too, about it being a bit inconsiderate. But I question my feelings, and I have doubts that I understand what is going on sometimes. When I look back at my own posts, sometimes I have to cringe and ask myself, "What in Sam Hill gives me the right to come off like that?" So, on this subject of newcomers, I had to ask if I am seeing things through tinted glasses. I don't want to tread on newcomers, blasting them as a "Welcome To Mingle" bullying tactic. I'm just asking if it is reasonable for new peeps to ask interested people to contact them. And is it really egotistical? Sadly you have answered your own question. Yes you are looking at it through tinted glasses. You have decided ( as most of us) to post/read the forums in an "attempt" to get to know people and let them get to know us. Most of us find this the correct way of socializing. That being said, it is not the only way. Just because we have decided to invest time that way... a new person to the site is not subject to the same rules we subject ourselves to. Do you have a right to call him egotistical? sure. I however don't find it egotistical, or worry about it really. The type of people that will respond to him are probley no where close to the type of people i would like to get to know. If anything he is thinning out the low brow, hump a leg in a mintue, omg Fu<k me now cause i can't get it anywhere else type of people i don't really care about. |
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That was what I was feeling, too, about it being a bit inconsiderate. But I question my feelings, and I have doubts that I understand what is going on sometimes. When I look back at my own posts, sometimes I have to cringe and ask myself, "What in Sam Hill gives me the right to come off like that?" So, on this subject of newcomers, I had to ask if I am seeing things through tinted glasses. I don't want to tread on newcomers, blasting them as a "Welcome To Mingle" bullying tactic. I'm just asking if it is reasonable for new peeps to ask interested people to contact them. And is it really egotistical? Sadly you have answered your own question. Yes you are looking at it through tinted glasses. You have decided ( as most of us) to post/read the forums in an "attempt" to get to know people and let them get to know us. Most of us find this the correct way of socializing. That being said, it is not the only way. Just because we have decided to invest time that way... a new person to the site is not subject to the same rules we subject ourselves to. Do you have a right to call him egotistical? sure. I however don't find it egotistical, or worry about it really. The type of people that will respond to him are probley no where close to the type of people i would like to get to know. If anything he is thinning out the low brow, hump a leg in a mintue, omg Fu<k me now cause i can't get it anywhere else type of people i don't really care about. Good series of points, Joe. Waking myself up to what I'm doing is hard to do, but it's spooky to realize that I had trained me to do what is common..without it being really me. Like sleepwalking, and knowing it, and thinking, "This might be really messed up. And that peeps will think that this is really me." Now, I've got to think 3 times before I post, instead of just twice, unless the people already know that I do oddball stuff. thanks for your viewpoints and feedback.
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I don't know if egotistical is the word. It just strikes me as inconsiderate. I can't think of any other group that I would go into then turn around and say to a select group please go to another location because I don't want to talk to you in front of the rest of them. Especially since it is hardly necessary. If you participate in a few forums then write a simple discreet email to those people you find more interesting you can invite them anywhere you think is suitable. If you want to start threads that direct a question to a certain age frame or gender you are welcome to try that. I seriously doubt you will avoid comments outside your intended group but you don't have to acknowledge them. Fair warning when people take that tact it usually isn't well accepted by the dominant group in the forums. You can pretty well expect to be eaten alive and for some this is far from the first time they have snacked on someone who made themselves a target. That was what I was feeling, too, about it being a bit inconsiderate. But I question my feelings, and I have doubts that I understand what is going on sometimes. When I look back at my own posts, sometimes I have to cringe and ask myself, "What in Sam Hill gives me the right to come off like that?" So, on this subject of newcomers, I had to ask if I am seeing things through tinted glasses. I don't want to tread on newcomers, blasting them as a "Welcome To Mingle" bullying tactic. I'm just asking if it is reasonable for new peeps to ask interested people to contact them. And is it really egotistical? I think if you are "new", or just inexperienced in life in general, to ask people who are interested in you, or a subject you are talking about, or would like to talk about is not really egotistical. The whole gist of forums is to communicate and meet people sometimes with interesting ideas. For some it is one of the few places they can get feed back without ongoing fallout in there personal life. I tend to agree with you on the "Who the Sam Hill am I" feeling and wondering if my view might be through "tinted glasses" but people who come into an anonomous dateing site community and ask for response are adults and responsible for accepting and rejecting whatever they are told. Do I personally find it important to be fair and maybe even allow a little grace to newbee's? Yea I do. Do I like the bullying tactics? Not only No but He-l No!; actually I think it is killing the site. That said if someone comes in and asks a question I am going to give them an honest answer and let them be adult enough to decide if it has merit in there lives. I try not to attack anyone. I am not here to be popular or punish anyone I just don't see that throwing people under the bus by getting personal. I am not sure that is always the case with some members. It is sad that some people are stuck in defensiveness and insulting people. I always wonder who did hachet-job's on people like that. People don't start out like that. It is very clear that there are people who hate the opposite sex and or themselves and it is getting in the way of there happiness. Wheather it is being single or becoming a couple. |
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Not egotistical. Just desperate.
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I think if you are "new", or just inexperienced in life in general, to ask people who are interested in you, or a subject you are talking about, or would like to talk about is not really egotistical. The whole gist of forums is to communicate and meet people sometimes with interesting ideas. For some it is one of the few places they can get feed back without ongoing fallout in there personal life. I tend to agree with you on the "Who the Sam Hill am I" feeling and wondering if my view might be through "tinted glasses" but people who come into an anonomous dateing site community and ask for response are adults and responsible for accepting and rejecting whatever they are told. Do I personally find it important to be fair and maybe even allow a little grace to newbee's? Yea I do. Do I like the bullying tactics? Not only No but He-l No!; actually I think it is killing the site. That said if someone comes in and asks a question I am going to give them an honest answer and let them be adult enough to decide if it has merit in there lives. I try not to attack anyone. I am not here to be popular or punish anyone I just don't see that throwing people under the bus by getting personal. I am not sure that is always the case with some members. It is sad that some people are stuck in defensiveness and insulting people. I always wonder who did hachet-job's on people like that. People don't start out like that. It is very clear that there are people who hate the opposite sex and or themselves and it is getting in the way of there happiness. Wheather it is being single or becoming a couple. I know that today, this opportunity presented to me the option to ask for advice, and my choice was to either let it slide past or to take hold of it and deal with the issue. Perhaps it is only an issue to me, for it is my feelings and distrust of my habits/tendencies that is my responsibility to resolve. I know that if I become dissatisfied with my behavior--even if I do not understand why I am off base--I will become weaker and irritated with myself until I do what is acceptable/right in my eyes. It is my knowledge of my reputation to myself that must be honest. If I sidestep it, then either I must avoid participating or else be pretentious. One is cowardice, the other is false bravado. But this is all for me. It is not an indictment of anyone else. I need only know myself and hopefully set an example that is honest. Thank you for all your consideration and help.
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Yo Babies, Juz hit me up wid dat.
or I prefer Yahoo or MSN Both get ignored by me. I suspect the women are paid professionals. 
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I want to know if it works!!
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only one way to know winxie....test it out yourself..
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Edited by
Winx
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Thu 01/29/09 11:38 PM
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only one way to know winxie....test it out yourself..  
You do it and tell me about it, okay? |
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only one way to know winxie....test it out yourself..
You do it and tell me about it, okay? Yeah Winxie, try it. 
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Edited by
Winx
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Thu 01/29/09 11:51 PM
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only one way to know winxie....test it out yourself..
You do it and tell me about it, okay? Yeah Winxie, try it.
No, M.Michiganman, you try it first. 
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something else that is creative, sharp, witty, and probably more to your liking. 
Are you trying to break up with me? 
The reverse. Just trying to show that I am learning a tiny bit about you.
Listen and learn, boys. This is what scores you points....
Rock proof attire helps too. |
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only one way to know winxie....test it out yourself..
You do it and tell me about it, okay? Yeah Winxie, try it.
No, M.Michiganman, you try it first.
I don't have a Yahoo acct anymore. Darn it!
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only one way to know winxie....test it out yourself..
You do it and tell me about it, okay? Yeah Winxie, try it.
No, M.Michiganman, you try it first.
I don't have a Yahoo acct anymore. Darn it!
Ahhh..that's too bad.
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