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Topic: Case of the Mystifying Woman
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Thu 01/29/09 09:50 AM
its been 5 weeks
this screams 'KISS ME!'

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Thu 01/29/09 09:51 AM
be prepared for this face ----->surprised

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Thu 01/29/09 10:00 AM
If you have the opportunity to hold her hand..flippin go for it.

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Thu 01/29/09 10:38 AM

dude you gotta make the move

women like men who take risks. i don't mean base jumping from buildings. you have to risk the consequences and make a move. whether it be holding her hand or going in for the good night kiss. if you keep waiting, you are definitely going to end up in the friend zone. and we all know what happens then.
she's probably waiting for you to do something.

don't just stand there, busta move.



This, coming from a guy who constantly complains that he can't get a date? huh

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Thu 01/29/09 10:43 AM

Reaching out to strangers via cyberspace for advice isn't typically step one in my problem solving process, but in this case I'm completely stumped.

I recently met a girl through a mutual friend who I've been spending time with for just over a month. And when I say spending time I mean the occasional happy hour, dinner, movies, college basketball games, etc. Casual, of course, but some of those activities seem fairly date specific to me. But we do something usually 3 or 4 nights a week, it's just the two of us probably 70% of the time, and I pick her up, hold the door, etc. Conversation never lags, there's always a lot of laughs, and some VERY mild flirtation.

The problem is this: While the girl gives me butterflies every time I see her and she so distractingly occupies my thoughts all day every day, I just can't get a read on her. Sure, part of what makes women beautiful is their mysterious complexity, but when an unsuspecting boy gets tangled in such a web it can be a bit frustrating for the boy.

She's the one to call me at least half the time, but this is the fifth week and I haven't so much as held her hand. She's perfectly ok with going out to dinner and a movie one-on-one, but there hasn't been a good night kiss.

Please don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that I expect her to lay down and let me ravage her. In fact, for the first time as a 20-something that's not my goal. For the first time in a LONG time I genuinely like someone. But holding hands or a kiss on the cheek would signify to me that she's at least interested in being more than pals. If I'm headed in the right direction I don't mind waiting... I just hate to travel any further down the wrong path than I have to.

Is she oblivious to my feelings? Is she so bored that she's just using me for an excuse to get out once in a while? Am I a total wimp for not kissing her already? Is this situation as messed up as I think it is or am I just overly anxious?

Penny for your thoughts...
uuummmmm....DAM.noway

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Thu 01/29/09 10:44 AM

Is she oblivious to my feelings? Is she so bored that she's just using me for an excuse to get out once in a while? Am I a total wimp for not kissing her already? Is this situation as messed up as I think it is or am I just overly anxious?


Have you missed the step in dating where you tell her how you feel about her? It's sorta required.

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Thu 01/29/09 10:46 AM
Seriously.....if I were dating someone for 5 weeks, 4-5 times a week and he hasnt kissed me yet, I'd be asking him wtf?????


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I would think he was a gay friend...noway laugh

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Thu 01/29/09 09:34 PM


dude you gotta make the move

women like men who take risks. i don't mean base jumping from buildings. you have to risk the consequences and make a move. whether it be holding her hand or going in for the good night kiss. if you keep waiting, you are definitely going to end up in the friend zone. and we all know what happens then.
she's probably waiting for you to do something.

don't just stand there, busta move.



This, coming from a guy who constantly complains that he can't get a date? huh

yeah, it's complicated
ever hear "those who can't, teach"

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Thu 01/29/09 09:51 PM
Some good advice here on this board but personally I would like it if a man gets more touchy feely first before going in for the kiss cold. Touch her and gauge her reaction. Brush her hair out of her face or rub her arm and comment on her skin. Start doing stuff like that and see how she reacts to the touching first and if she responds positively and starts touching you more too then hold hands with her and then go for the good night kiss.

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Thu 01/29/09 10:24 PM
wow... 5 weeks of dating with 3-4 dates per week... we are talking 15-20 dates now. That is a lot with no progress from your end. especially since you are saying u like her. make a simple move for the lips, see how she reacts. Do not french her or anything like that. Just make sure the kiss says “we are more then friends”

good luck!

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Sun 02/01/09 11:32 PM
against the advice of the majority here..i wouldn't recommend going in for a kiss...unless your willing to risk the current arrangement...

roco

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Mon 02/02/09 12:07 AM
Edited by euphoriaholic on Mon 02/02/09 12:08 AM
You're Just Not Into Her...............

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