Topic: The one that got away...
Rico0304's photo
Wed 01/28/09 12:23 AM
You hear it all the time, "The one that got away.." But what do you do if it happens to you? Do you risk it all to go after the one that truely loved you and you them? Or do you stay where you are, secured and alone. Can one really live their life knowingly letting that one person who closely resembles a "soulmate", if there is such a thing, walk out of their lives. Or does that person leave everythign behind to pursue their one chance in true emotional happiness?


Is it all worth the risk?

MetalShadows's photo
Wed 01/28/09 12:57 AM
I think it would have to be worth the risk cause if you don't take the chance your just going to wonder the rest of your life what could have been. Even if things don't turn out right with this person it's better off knowing that, then not knowing at all.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 01/28/09 01:02 AM
If they are your soul mate they would not have left. You are in love with an idealized love not a real person if you carry the torch for someone who did not love you back. It is a defensive mechanism to carry the torch because letting it go you have to admidt you are alone and work toward correcting the situation.

izzie's photo
Wed 01/28/09 01:11 AM

If they are your soul mate they would not have left. You are in love with an idealized love not a real person if you carry the torch for someone who did not love you back. It is a defensive mechanism to carry the torch because letting it go you have to admidt you are alone and work toward correcting the situation.
even if they say they love you back.. somewhere along the line the love broke down..
"ex's are ex's for a reason"
just keep that in mind.

74Drew's photo
Wed 01/28/09 01:33 AM
Edited by 74Drew on Wed 01/28/09 01:38 AM
if they were really the one for you, they couldn't have gotten away because they would have been drawn to you not away from you. saying that something got away is implying that you had to struggle to hold onto it. anyone that you have to fight to hold onto isn't really yours.

no photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:39 AM
The one who got away for me was the one woman I really think was "IT" for me, but I was married and raising four daughters at the time and took my responsibilities as a husband and father more importantly than going selfishly going after "the ONE". Years later, I still think of her often, but it's too late now, she moved on, and so have I.

Mr_Music's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:42 AM
If you love something, set it free.

If it comes back to you, it's yours.

If it doesn't, hunt it down and kill it.

prisoner's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:44 AM
:smile: i let her go but i'll keep her in my heart forever...be seeing you

oldsage's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:45 AM
I went after "the one". We both got divorced to be together. Our kids are better for it.
Thru the good times & bad, she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Gwen died 12 yrs ago this May, still love & miss her EVERYDAY.

"Nothing risked; Nothing GAINED"

I married once for HONOR

Second was for LOVE & worth ALL the trouble.

SweetnFunny's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:54 AM

If you love something, set it free.

If it comes back to you, it's yours.

If it doesn't, hunt it down and kill it.



laugh

Tj806's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:56 AM
Im a catch and release type of guy ;)

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:59 AM

If they are your soul mate they would not have left. You are in love with an idealized love not a real person if you carry the torch for someone who did not love you back. It is a defensive mechanism to carry the torch because letting it go you have to admidt you are alone and work toward correcting the situation.



Not necessarily true. Just because someone freaks doesn't mean they aren't the "one" .. geesh we have a lot worse case behaviors to worry about than that.

It doesn't mean they don't love you. I have JUST had this happen to me, I know of what I speak. And they are back. Sometimes we don't know what we lost til it's gone.


no photo
Wed 01/28/09 08:00 AM
Not having a soul, I never even think about
"soulmates"

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/28/09 08:01 AM
People get scared at the seriousness sometimes, and in our case, he's been stationed somewhere where we can't be together.

He bolted. Because we WERE serious. But his feelings brought him back. love

prisoner's photo
Wed 01/28/09 08:04 AM

I went after "the one". We both got divorced to be together. Our kids are better for it.
Thru the good times & bad, she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Gwen died 12 yrs ago this May, still love & miss her EVERYDAY.

"Nothing risked; Nothing GAINED"

I married once for HONOR

Second was for LOVE & worth ALL the trouble.
:smile: You are a wise man sir. May Gwen Rest In Peace...be seeing you

Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 01/28/09 08:40 AM
Edited by Riding_Dubz on Wed 01/28/09 08:44 AM

no photo
Wed 01/28/09 06:54 PM

You hear it all the time, "The one that got away.." But what do you do if it happens to you? Do you risk it all to go after the one that truely loved you and you them? Or do you stay where you are, secured and alone. Can one really live their life knowingly letting that one person who closely resembles a "soulmate", if there is such a thing, walk out of their lives. Or does that person leave everythign behind to pursue their one chance in true emotional happiness?


Is it all worth the risk?


I don't personally feel it's worth it. There's too much drama and pain involved.

no photo
Wed 01/28/09 06:57 PM
this post sounds like the beginning of a bad movie

catwoman96's photo
Wed 01/28/09 07:05 PM
i thought i had found my soulmate before...he crushed me...

im giving it a chance againhappy