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Topic: Transitional Relationships
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Sun 01/25/09 06:29 PM

The transitional relationship is the one you have when you really haven't gotten over the last one. In those relationships, you are trying to repair your own ego and feelings. Once you are healed (that can take a long time) you will find that you would rather have no relationship than one you know probably won't last.


Excellent post.

MNmermaid's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:31 PM
....back when he was temporarily forever mine

Tanzkity's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:32 PM
I thought this was my last one but now im starting to wonder............but transitioning is good especially when you learn from the mistakes made in the past......

scoundrel's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:34 PM


So I guess the real question is: do you want to be in that relationship? I still think it's a little dangerous to already strike down a potential happy ending because your are hurting...of course, what do I know? I just holed up and built a wall around my heart for many years, so it's probably no more self-defeating than my own behavior was. Just saying...

Whatever works for each person is the right choice at the time.


I understand. With these words from you I would know the choice would be that we agree to trust each other, to lift each other up in this fog of uncertainty. Commitment is its own certainty, if we are capable to fulfill our vows. The happiness along the way is not to be discarded, nor the need the ending be at all unhappy, if just the foresight of this kind is at the beginning.

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Sun 01/25/09 06:34 PM


The transitional relationship is the one you have when you really haven't gotten over the last one. In those relationships, you are trying to repair your own ego and feelings. Once you are healed (that can take a long time) you will find that you would rather have no relationship than one you know probably won't last.


Excellent post.



Thank you, with age comes, if not wisdom, at least a wealth of experience to draw on.:thumbsup:

scoundrel's photo
Sun 01/25/09 06:41 PM
Edited by scoundrel on Sun 01/25/09 06:44 PM

I thought this was my last one but now im starting to wonder............but transitioning is good especially when you learn from the mistakes made in the past......


Very true.
I believe that women have a good learning curve and are unlikely to repeat unfulfilling efforts, yet the opportunity to choose more wisely might not come very often. If that is true, then it is supportive of the threads wherein women ask quite clearly, "Where are the good men?"

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Sun 01/25/09 06:45 PM

I thought this was my last one but now im starting to wonder............but transitioning is good especially when you learn from the mistakes made in the past......



You can learn from the past. Make sure you notice any tendencies you might have. The definition of insanity is that you keep doing the same thing while expecting different results.:wink:

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Sun 01/25/09 08:18 PM
Maybe this thread barfed on the pretenstions of the wannabees.

I'm in a Transitional Relationship!!! Whoopee!!!

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