Though I may find a younger man attractive

1. They usually have younger children; I am done and have no desire to raise someone elses.

2. I want a serious, long term relationship. Let's say I am dating someone that is 30; when they are my age, I will be 74. Do I really think they will stay with me????? I think not.

My son used to get so upset when his friends would say stuff about me .. it's a complement no matter what you think ..

For the OP ..

Here's that thread ..

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/194895

I prefer men my age or older (seems to be running low on them though! )

Even though...there have been some younger guys that....

You're probably better off dating someone with no baggage and drama free!

well to be honest I have thought about someone younger...just not young enough to be my child...I think it would be hard to you know get undressed in front of one sooooo fit...

Actually that's EXACTLY why I date younger. And guys who date older women ALWAYS say it's BECAUSE we DON'T have drama nor do we play games like the younger women do. Just sayin


Oh and to the OP .. here's an article, just hot off AOL a few days ago .. like I said, you're not alone.

"WHAT'S BEHIND THE TREND OF OLDER WOMEN DATING YOUNGER MEN"

There appears to be a trend of older women dating younger men, notably illustrated by celebrity couples including Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, and the most recent fling between 48-year-old Linda Hogan and 19-year-old Charlie Hill. According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves. This trend appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual.
Socially, there's a role reversal of sorts going on, women are more powerful now than ever before and may want men who are younger, and perhaps, more flexible; men who can handle it if the woman's career and lifestyle takes priority over their own. Media portrayals in "Sex and the City" (like movie characters Smith Jerrod and Samantha Jones) and "Desperate Housewives" are also showing women that dates don't have to be older. Women who have high-powered careers -- or a well-developed self-image -- are exercising more choice. Women who have been divorced and are established single moms may enjoy having a playmate, someone to have fun with; who doesn't try to control her.
Can these older woman/younger man relationships last?
In my counseling office, I have seen many relationships succeed with this kind of older woman/younger man scenario.
The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works
The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works.
Age difference is an adolescent worry: When you're a teenager, an age difference of even two or three years makes a vast difference in your experience and your outlook on life. Such a difference can interfere with communication, life goals, outlook, and relationship experience. In addition, for the young, the social reaction to such a relationship is often negative. If one partner is underage, a sexual relationship is even against the law.
But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A 10-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship.
Don't focus on an arbitrary numbers difference in your ages. If you are getting along, you have good communication and problem solving, and you love each other, that's a precious thing, and far more important than any age difference could be. If other people have a problem with it, let it be their problem.
Whether or not a relationship is healthy is not determined by age differences, but by the interaction between the partners. A 10-year difference is not too difficult to bridge, but a 20-year differences or more in age can lead to some difficulties as the partners get older. For example, the younger partner may mature and reconsider his or her choices, or an older partner may confront aging problems much sooner. But, as long as both parties are adult, and the couple has talked about their age difference and the future possibilities, I don't make judgments about their respective ages.
Dealing with the generation gap
There are healthy and unhealthy reasons to date someone of a different generation.
One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part.
One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part. A younger partner isn't going to reverse the aging process or protect you from old age. Obviously, a man or woman who dates someone as young as his or her children is going to run into some social opposition, but the differences that can cause the biggest problems within the couple's relationship are differing maturity levels.
As more and more women choose younger partners for relationships, the question arises: Are women in their late 30s and early 40s likely to be successful with partners who are 10 to 15 years younger than themselves?
Success in these relationships depends on what the motivations of both people are. Some older people feel younger at heart than their contemporaries and like to date people who are as active as they are. Chronological age doesn't always reflect either physical capability or emotional maturity. Sometimes an age difference creates a mentoring relationship the older person advises the younger one on life or career. This can backfire if and when the younger person decides he or she has learned enough, and wants to move on.
If you're asking: "Is it OK for me to have a partner who is much older or younger than I am?" You'll do better off if you forget about your ages and concentrate on whether the relationship works for both of you, or not. What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection.

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., of www.tinatessina.com is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Long Beach, Calif. since 1978 and author of 13 books in 14 languages, including "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again." She has two new books from Adams Press in 2008: "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage" and "The Commuter Marriage". She publishes the "Happiness Tips from Tina" e-mail newsletter, and the "Dr. Romance" Blog. She has written and been interviewed for many national publications, including Cosmopolitan, Maxim, and TimeOnline.com. Online, she's known as "The Dating Doctor" and "Doctor Romance" and is a Redbook Love Network expert as well as for Yahoo! Personals.

I'm not OUT of my 40s yet so I guess I still qualify to answer

I did date someone 14 years younger a few times and it was just awkward for us both to realize I was the same age as his best friend's dad ( who I have meetings within professional situations. Being in a small town also amplified that oddity.)

I guess my bottom line is that if you could be my child, you are too young for me to comfortably date.

OH OK darn it I want one...now where do I buy him.... I am ready...

You ladies are missing a gold mine. Seriously. You don't realize what an incredible treasure you are to younger guys.

It's not just about sex with a lot of them. They look for relationships too.
And they LIKE the older woman's body. We are more sensual and sexy, have curves from childbirthing and are just what they are looking for. ie .. we are WOMEN not GIRLS.

Believe me .. I'd never go back to dating my age. I have nothing in common with them. And I've never ever dated older. A lot of older women think so much younger, and for me it's all about what I can relate to.

Younger guys are fun. They aren't boring. And it's NOT like dating my sons at all. Well one of my sons is only 15 so definitely not. LOL

But a 15-25 year difference. ANYDAY!!

That age difference is a little too much for me, personally...but I TOTALLY agree with the fact that most 'same age' men are not a lot of fun. They have gotten OLD in spirit and that is boring to me... Or the other side of that is that they tend to fall into the protector/daddy role and I am not looking for a parent (eeewww....creepy! LOL!)

You are a wise woman. (((((fade)))))

you don't have a problem with getting naked in front of someone 15 years younger than you...oh wow...I not know if I could do that...

I just read about Tina Turner returning to the stage .. she's 69!! And looks fantastic.

And she's been seeing a guy 17 years younger than her .. they've been together for 22 years!

Now THAT'S what I'M talkin bout.

Thanks kitten .. how you doin girlfriend?

I haven't met any other women of quality that wants a guy the age of their sons. If a guy wants to date a woman over five years their senior, a therapist visit should be considered, why they choose this way, the family history. I'm not trying to be sarcastic or mean at all. I apologize for that understanding but am being direct in my approach.
With that said, you want a nice, good female. Those that gravitate to a significant age difference I have found is often unstable. There are nice people in your age range. Try it out more than once unless you find a great gal! Good luck!

ewwwwwwwww is right

Where did that flower comment come from, I wasn't supposed to bring that up...not now, these people are not ready!

I like dating older women because they are more grounded in general, I date anyone between 18 and not dead yet...would date Judy, but I have to wait 2 more years.

A woman of quality? Unstable? Would ya please. I have a fantastic reputation, am a corporate career businesswoman, and just because I may have had some of my kids when I was young, doesn't disqualify me from dating younger guys. Ridiculous.

Read the article.

I mean, the women are unstable i.e., addictions, need for mental health. Be careful with that. I have already heard from nice guys who have gravitated towards a significant older person from themselves, friend.