Alright guys.....I have a little, tiny problem. I won't mention any
names......But, I was talking to someone on here and things were great.
He was decent and very sweet and I enjoyed talking to him. Right now,
he's no longer on this site (that I'm aware of) unless he signed up
under a different name.......But here's the story in short. After a week
of knowing me, he was telling me that he loved me. I got a little
cautious. He still says he loves me and it's now been 2 weeks that we've
known each other. We have never met in person, only chatted on the phone
and through messengers, web cams and microphones. I called him a few
nights ago to explain that things were getting rushed and that I was
getting scared. At first, he didn't understand. Then it finally sunk in
and he told me he understood.......Now, he's acting completely
different, saying that he doesn't know what he's supposed to
do..........I'm not ready to jump into anything. I feel that if you meet
someone and you both are interested in each other, getting to know each
other comes first.......Before love, before meeting, etc.......So that's
my story right now. I feel bad, because I think I hurt him. But I have
to look out for myself too, right?

Oh and yes I forgot to mention.......He wanted me to move to where he
lives.......Which is quite a ways away.

right

Don't do anything you are not 100% sure

P.S. If any of my friends are on right now, emailing me would be a great
idea, as I could use all the advice I can get.

he is probubly acting weird becase he already droped the love bomb you
essentualy rejected it and he cant take it back and he knows that so he
is trying to figure out how to move backwords in the relationship but
dosent know how

dose that make any sense

Yes it makes sense, but the thing is, we were not in a relationship. We
started off as friends. I told him right off the bat that I didn't want
to rush anything, being that we just met and all.........But his
response was that he wasn't looking for a date, he was looking for a
wife and someone to share his life with.

i fully understand where your coming from. that happened to me recently
and that is moving kinda fast. i'd say your right for telling him. it
may hurt him a little but you wouldnt want to get in a bad situation.

Sounds like you're being influenced by him a little too much. Think
about your decisions and don't rush anything.

well i dident mean relationship as in bf gf type thing i ment it as a
genoral term for youre freindship

If a guy is willing to say that he loves you after only knowing you for
such a short time then he is willing to do the same to some else. I
think you are right to be cautious and I hope you aren't seriously
considering relocating for a STRANGER. Cause thats exactly what he is
until you have met him. People can be misleading online and they tend to
get attracted to the mysterious and no so much the person at times.

Over the internet things could be amazing, even over the phone but
ultimately its all about how you click in person that really matters.

If he's acting funny then thats another confirmation that his feelings
weren't genuine. Love is no game and if he's playing that card so soon
thats a sure sign that he's probably someone that plays games.

WAY too fast -- rushing only leads to problems and disappointment (since
you can't learn even the basics of what you need to know about someone
that quickly, and especially not when there's a distance factor
involved).

Someone who tells you "I love you" after a week -- and having never even
met in person -- is either naive or delusional or extremely insecure.
Some people feel they "have to be" in a relationship, otherwise life is
empty and meaningless, and they are often the ones who are the first to
rush into a poorly-understood and completely unprepared-for situation.

Yes, you have to look out for yourself. You gain nothing by going along
with a situation where you are only going to end up being uncomfortable
and uncertain.

And -- anyone who truly cares for you will RESPECT your desire not to
jump into anything too quckly. If he cares, he will try to see things
from your standpoint. He will realize that not everyone is comfortable
with the idea of "love" in a week.

I mean, hey, it's a beautiful thought, and wouldn't we all like to find
that situation, assuming it could be for real?

But it just isn't realistic, and it holds a whole lot of downsides. Be
smart, take your time.

I agree that it is rushing a little too fast. I think that your friends
before you are lovers and if you haven't meet the guy in person yet and
he is telling you he loves you I would be a little caucious. How do you
know he really does if you haven't met in person. If he truley loves you
he would respect you and not take it personally. Sometimes its hard even
to tell in a longer relationship sometimes whether the person your with
really loves you or not. I was in over 2 year relationship with someone
and I got out of it because it wasn't a two way street. And if he is
asking you to move to where he lives, that would also be a red flag,
that he may be init for himself and not you.

POP,LOCK AND DROP IT.

girl...

No moving...

NO rushing...

take your time...

and he should do that too...

if you don't feel the same

about him then you need to tell

him...

he needs to understand...and he will

if he cares about you...

you can stay friends...

but don't do anything you don't

want to do...

PUT SOME "D" ON IT.

PUT SOME "D" ON IT.

Be extremely cautious.......The cloak of security that the computer
provides is misleading at best.......I suggest y'all meet, at
least.......

You were absolutly right, if he really does care, he will take his time,
if not, you beter off without him ( by the way, will you
marryme?)

Love is a very powerful word. One must change through time in order to
fall in love. The act of love is not by saying "I love you" without
meeting that individual in person. Sorry to say this but he sounds like
a nut case if he disabled his account on JSH if you say that you don't
love him. If he really like you, he should wait for you and be
reasonable towards your situation about him. Beside, he should attend to
your needs not his. Take care!