Ok lets say you are 37 yrs old no savings, no home, disabled, and
you're filing bankruptcy and the only money you got is all in
retirement. do you consider that being a failure? and would you still
date someone knowing that?

that's what i'm looking for !!!!!!

You're not a failure until you give up on life...Keep moving
forward

Why would that be a failure? It is just hardtimes Good
luck finding your special someone!

Money doesnt matter. And my fiancee is disabled very badly but its ok

NO, your not a failure in any way.
And there is always someone worse off then you, not everyone can be a
failure.
Let's see. I am 43, no savings, no home, disabled, not filing
bankruptcy, but no savings at all, of any kind. Does that make me a
failure, and would you date me?
I do not date men for their money. I'm more interested in what's in
their heart then what's in their wallets.
PMS

depends on how they look

Failure is determined afterlife.

therefore you have plenty of time to live life.

I don't know what to say....

NO, looks are only skin deep. She can look like a true Goddess, and be
the biggest B*%$# around.
I really hate it when men only go for looks. There is so much more to a
woman then just that.

PMS

From a medically discharged vet 1982 . If you can ask that question ,
you already know ! Life is not fun all the time . Sometimes the pain
makes you regret waking up . But you have to keep on . If you can ask
the question , you can move on . You might look and see what you would
like to change in your life . Don't go major , small steps man . One day
at a time . Life is life , don't give up . Been there done that and have
the scars to prove it . Drop me a line if you need someone to talk to .

You have money in retirement??? I wish I had money in retirement.

I was once in a far worse financial situation. One positive thing was
that I knew, with certainty, that any woman interested in me was
really interested in *me*.

And no, its absolutely NOT a failure. Failure is a state of mind, not a
set of external circumstances. The woman who would *view* that as
failure are not the women I'd want to be with, anyway. You can find
someone who will appreciate you for who you are. I don't have any advice
in that area, I just know that you can.

Op you didn't fail, just a speed bump on the road we travel


Best wishes.

In response to your subject...
You didnt lose everything,you still have you...
My son is 30 and disabled,never been married either.
Broke as broke can be...
Someday you and him will both find a speical someone...

You are not a failure! Just having hard times...

The answer to your question is yes, I would still date someone in that
position. I would do so, because I was not interested in what that
person had to offer me materialistically (is that a word and did i spell
it right?)
I am seeing them because I am interested in HIM and what he can offer me
as the person he is.

You are not a failure until you give up. And let me tell you.. Life it
definitely tough...but... the hole you are in now will seem like a
puddle you jumped over when you get back on your feet again. Keep the
positive attitude and you will get there faster.

If the person you are dating really cares about you... They will be the
shoulder you need to lean on.
And remember that when you need to vent... come on here and vent..... we
will understand and stand up and shout at the top of our fingertips with
you.

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Anytime you need a friend... You have one

~Shelly

At 55, I made a major change in my life. sold my truck repair shop, quit
working there, put the tools in the garage & started over. Found
something to do that's fun & enjoying life more.
You can start over & if you want help, HOLLER.

o k on a serious note :i was riding my bicycle some years ago and a mac
truck ran me over and dragged me for a good distance i woke up in the
hospital it had been a couple days as they kept me medicated,,nothing
was broken but i looked like ROCKY from the 1st movie and i was pretty
well skinned when i opened the eye that would open a little,, i saw my
mom my brother and my sister i asked my mom what day it was and she said
don't worry about that your lucky to be alive, then my brother said it
was 2 days later and i said did anybody call my work?answer was no,,so i
ended up jobless ,,couldn't move well for 2 months had huge medical
bills and wintered over living at my mom's she started a daycare in the
spring so i moved out[didn't want to live there anyway]stayed in a
shelter looked for work {30 days is the shelter limit around here}o k
well some odd job stuff had gotten me a few dollars but still no real
work and no more shelter so ,,,,,,,,,i bought a tent and other stuff i
would need and spent the summer sleeping near the rail road tracks and
near the beach at the time i met a lot of homeless down in the dumps
people some were kinda scary some had amazing life stories to tell some
were druggys or drunks some were ill ,i found work saved my money and
got an apt.with 3 other guys[it was $65 a month]things got better my
brother asked me sometime later "how'd you do that??!!! my answer was
well i knew the whole time there were people somewhere a whole lot worse
off than i was and i said o my brother "i even met a few"
anyway better now

been there..done that..believe me..it's only a bump in the road...
keep in mind that only 1% hold the wealth in the US..the rest hold
the debts...we are heading down the same road...it's what is in your
head that matters..not the pocketbook..

All I can say Jp if she is going for the material things you have, nd
not with you for who you are they are not worth being with. Money would
be nice to have but it can not buy true love and can not be as priceless
as the feeling of having the one you love, love you back in the same
way. I have been a single mom for 15 years I have a house but is is not
a fancy house and not brick but it is mine I've worked hard for what I
have and to raise my kids. If someone can not take me as I'm beieve me.
Would rather be alone then to be with someone that only wanted to be
with me for the things that I have.

NO, it's only considered failure if YOU belive that. If I were you live
it up, we only have one life... might as well make the best of it. So
go out there and find you a fine woman, she's waiting for you!!!