to get involved with a person who took my soul away (those of you who thought it was about sobriety its not). I woke up today like I do everyday with alittle sleep thinking today is the day I will: change my number, and don't answer his calls and make him pay. well, I can't do that, WHAT I can do is change my attitude towards this relationship I can be civil I have babies with this man. But I choose him, and though I care I love myself for fightin this long. And the AA meetings I go to are helpful right now its about finding me all over again and its damn hard trying to do that.Thanks I just wanted to "vent" alittle.......

Good Luck!!

Just a little encouragment:

My x is a friend of Bill W., he put me through alot over 16 years. It took us from 2003 til 2008 to have a decent friendship. He is now getting married and I love her to death, but he needed someone that doesn't have all the memories I have and I needed someone who wouldnt create those bad memories. Basically, I moved on and forced him to as well. Hopefully, you two will bw able to find the samething in the future!!

Did you try CODA (Co-dependents); ACOA (adult children) or even SLA (Sex and love addicts) they would seem more relevant than AA for you.

SLA is probably not such a good idea, as once in a while, "predators" will cruise the rooms, from what I have heard.

Alanon is good, too.

best wishes to you.