When is it time to say forget it.



Scenario:


You have a friend that you have talked to pretty much every day for almost 2 years. You in that two years have been through a lot together. One of the people cares and assumes so does the other one. Because why else would you be friends if their wasn't some level of caring there. But then he says basically no caring, would not care if ever talked to you again.

You have a disagreement because you realize how one sided the friendship is...And basically call him on it. Where then all kinds of nasty happens. So do you just let go and say to yourself que sera sera, and how do you get over such hurt?

sigh
take a deeep breath
move on. life is now.

You don't get over it as much as learn from it...if you truely love someone...I don't think you ever get over it though

saying that and doing are two different things. You invest two years and what you think is a friendship forever, to only learn that you really don't know what the hell it really was. You don't get over that just poof done. And maybe because of the not knowing what the hell it was to him, is what makes it so hard.



Thanks people for all your comments...I really do appreciate it.

(((Deb))) I don't think you do get over it for a bit... It's not so much different than dating.. When you care you just care male of female friend, it hurts to lose them.. But with most things, time heals and you will not be so hurt after a time....

Oh have I learned from it. But this is what scares me so much from what I have learned. Anyone who truly knows the feral I am a great friend and I would literally die or do anything for my friends. It makes an otherwise very open loving woman want to not ever go through that kind of hurt again. So I can either withdrawl and never let anyone in. (WHICH I COULD NEVER) So I am stuck with the hurt of knowing that this supposed friendship was a big fat lie. I have never in my life on line or in real life ever been treated like this. I honestly for the first time in my life can't deal or handle.

been there, done that. one can learn to let go. it doesn't matter what it was to "him" - what matters is what it was to "you". even in a mutual relationship of any kind two will not have/keep the exact impression of what it is/was.

Debbie, If this idiot does not know by now what a jewel you are then "See Ya".... You have gone out on a limb and for what..."NOTHING"

You are so much better then that..You have alot of friends that you dont need to bother with the phony ones

I hope so...because right now my lil heart is breaking. Thanks doll

This is true...and thank you......this is helping a lot people......so even though still crying it is helping.

Thank you Michelle....and blessed enough to know this one in life also....thanks doll...you always have my back chica.

Chalk it up to experience & move on.
maybe they have some very personal thing, that they need to work thru. Don't burn a bridge, leave it for them to come back across, someday.
It frequently happens that way for me.

Lean on me

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
Till I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Lean on me...

Thank you e-train I so so know that our friendship is a lifer....cuz I won't let you out of it....I You

Thanks for putting up with all my insanity

people as generous as you are often taken for granted, unfortunately ...

Let it go BFF I love you more than you know .. just LET IT GO

How true Eric. How true.

I am trying.....and you are the bestest gal pal ever...and sorry for calling you the B today...lol But then again who was right......me lol

As I was also educated some time back about the situation, from some fine people I now will call minglers. They helped.........