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have you ever been with a significant other who now you think was cold and heartless and you cant believe that you were with him/her? Was it that they were so heartless that you were attracted to them or you didnt notice it before until the break up................ What you have to realize about this is even i have become "heartless" after a break up. Not because part of me still doesn't love that person but things were done and said that couldn't be taken back. I don't consider what i did "heartless" i consider it putting distance between me and that person. I'm sure to this day people still don't understand my actions but distance keeps me from getting sucked back into a bad situation. What happened that caused you to be so heartless........ |
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have you ever been with a significant other who now you think was cold and heartless and you cant believe that you were with him/her? Was it that they were so heartless that you were attracted to them or you didnt notice it before until the break up................ I was with someone that changed. It started showing around the 10 month. |
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have you ever been with a significant other who now you think was cold and heartless and you cant believe that you were with him/her? Was it that they were so heartless that you were attracted to them or you didnt notice it before until the break up................ What you have to realize about this is even i have become "heartless" after a break up. Not because part of me still doesn't love that person but things were done and said that couldn't be taken back. I don't consider what i did "heartless" i consider it putting distance between me and that person. I'm sure to this day people still don't understand my actions but distance keeps me from getting sucked back into a bad situation. What happened that caused you to be so heartless........ Ouch no beating around the bush with you hmm? Let's just say honesty or lack of honesty pushed me in that direction. 
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have you ever been with a significant other who now you think was cold and heartless and you cant believe that you were with him/her? Was it that they were so heartless that you were attracted to them or you didnt notice it before until the break up................ What you have to realize about this is even i have become "heartless" after a break up. Not because part of me still doesn't love that person but things were done and said that couldn't be taken back. I don't consider what i did "heartless" i consider it putting distance between me and that person. I'm sure to this day people still don't understand my actions but distance keeps me from getting sucked back into a bad situation. This is what I call "detachment" and it is necessary when going through a breakup. If you have any kind of sympathy or guilt about anything involved with the relationship, you are subject to be misunderstood and manipulated just because you are trying to be kind. Sometimes kindness is seen as vulnerability or weakness where a manipulator is concerned. I have seen good friends stay in horrible relationships because they felt sorry for the other one, or because they did not want to be unkind or because they felt guilty. Detachment can be taken as being "heartlessness" when it it just a necessary thing to find your autonomy again and walk away from a relationship. I had a boy friend in high school who threatened to kill himself if I broke up with him. Well, the relationship was killing me, sucking the life out of me, and it was either him or me, so I was at the point I did not care. I told him I don't think he should do that, but regardless, I am still breaking up. You have to be that "cold" sometimes to break free. I know of another severe case (a relative) who threatened suicide and murder. The break up happened, and he came very close to killing an entire family, but he decided to kill himself instead. He was a dysfunctional person and had a obsessive compulsive disorder. So being "heartless" is not always "heartless" it is detachment. |
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have you ever been with a significant other who now you think was cold and heartless and you cant believe that you were with him/her? Was it that they were so heartless that you were attracted to them or you didnt notice it before until the break up................ What you have to realize about this is even i have become "heartless" after a break up. Not because part of me still doesn't love that person but things were done and said that couldn't be taken back. I don't consider what i did "heartless" i consider it putting distance between me and that person. I'm sure to this day people still don't understand my actions but distance keeps me from getting sucked back into a bad situation. What happened that caused you to be so heartless........ Ouch no beating around the bush with you hmm? Let's just say honesty or lack of honesty pushed me in that direction. I dont think honesty is heartless..........being honest states that you have integrity.............i am referring to people who are out there trying to hurt others for the sake of their own insecurities....... |
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I dont think honesty is heartless..........being honest states that you have integrity.............i am referring to people who are out there trying to hurt others for the sake of their own insecurities....... Yes i see where you are coming from, just saying i've been called that before. Generally by the person i'm attempting to distance. |
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I dont think honesty is heartless..........being honest states that you have integrity.............i am referring to people who are out there trying to hurt others for the sake of their own insecurities....... Yes i see where you are coming from, just saying i've been called that before. Generally by the person i'm attempting to distance. That's their hurt talking. The hurt turns into anger. |
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I dont think honesty is heartless..........being honest states that you have integrity.............i am referring to people who are out there trying to hurt others for the sake of their own insecurities....... Yes i see where you are coming from, just saying i've been called that before. Generally by the person i'm attempting to distance. That's their hurt talking. The hurt turns into anger. Your so right Winx and those people dont know how to cope with a break up and they use manipulation to get their way sometimes...... |
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I dont think honesty is heartless..........being honest states that you have integrity.............i am referring to people who are out there trying to hurt others for the sake of their own insecurities....... Yes i see where you are coming from, just saying i've been called that before. Generally by the person i'm attempting to distance. That's their hurt talking. The hurt turns into anger. Your so right Winx and those people dont know how to cope with a break up and they use manipulation to get their way sometimes...... Manipulation is so fun. 
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