hi its me again i have another question this other guy that i was talking about yesterday asked me out last night and i am still inlove with the guy im with but alot of people are telling me that he is cheating but i have no prove of him cheating so what should i do should i go out with the other guy or stay with the one im with

question is... will that make you feel better about yourself?... why are you thinking of dating someone else? is it fair to the new guy? and if he was cheating on you does that make it ok for you to do it?

no its not fair and i am still with the guy im seeing now i keep telling thoe other guy that im in a relationship and he still keeps asking me and i would not feel good about my self casue i really love him

You have to ask yourself.....Is my life better without him in it...Or is my life not good without him in it.

ohhh so he knows... well i take it then hes ok with cheating? or being a part of cheating? so what makes you question going out with him then? since your complaint is the guy u are with now maybe cheating... so u already know this new guy is that way...

it seems to me like you are the one who is cheating not the guy, if you are in love with a guy already and you are talking to another guy who is asking you out on a date...hmmmm! I am just being brutally honest here, it is nice to play the victim I supose!

my life would not be so good without him in it i love the guy im with its just that he is always leaving me alone to go out with friends and he would not come back for hours and he would also go out with his family and nit invite me to come he dosent spend holidays with me or ask me to spend them with him

Sorry JMO get out of the relationship your in and deal with it before you drag someone else into a mess.

That is just the way I feel about it. I don't believe in going out with someone else if your in a relationship with another. Just soooooooooo wrong in sooooooooooo many ways to me.

Can you tell the new guy that you are not available at this time and that you will get in touch with him if things do not pan out with your current relationship? And then, tell him you do not want to hear from him unless and until you contact him one way or the other in the near future?
You should take care of old business before new. And you should just get with the current one and find out if he's cheating. ASK HIM and if you don't believe him, you shouldn't be with him because there's obviously no trust. Like my Mom and Dad would say, "Sh!t or get off the pot. Can't close one eye and just fart.".

Which is better for you?

that doesnt show any form of love the way he treats you

im not seeing the other guy

facts are this new guy is disrespectable to you... and by you going out with him he would feel that he could disrespect you, and that you are ok with cheating . sounds like you are unhappy no one likes to be left out!! i say dump them both lol!

Okay...

Two threads in two days. If we help you out here with our opinions, you going to stick around and participate this
time?

Here is my question: Do you love the guy you are with or the man you want him to be? Why do you love him, if he
treats you so poorly?

Sshshsh sorry to say you are being used big time get out of it end it. Your nothing but a toy to play with and you are letting him toy with you. Being keep in the closet is not a relationship at all he only brings you out when he wants too other wise he stuffs you to the back of the closet. Not a way to live at all matter of fact that is not living.

what the heck is going on this morning, I am sorry, but this is a crappy answer IMO, she is gonna string a guy to wait for her to see if her relationship works out or fail??? that's just wrong...but I guess guys are like spare tires to you!

nor would i if i were u.... cause again hes disrespectful twords you for even trying to interupt a relationship that you have already... goes to show how important relationships are to him...

i dont know i mean he does buy me things when i ask him to and sometimes i dont ask him and he buys me stuff anyway and i always pay him back but i have been with him for two years and i am having his baby

I said this yesterday and I'll say it again. It is NEVER ok to cheat. And, you are cheating by talking and considering going out with the other guy. So, that doesn't make you any better than your boyfriend, if he is cheating, which you don't know cause you haven't bothered asking. You are taking the word of your mother who illegally opened his mail and read something personal, and then you didn't even ask him about it. Why is that? Because you KNOW you did something wrong as well.

You have no trust in your relationship, you are allowing others to dictate what your relationship is with your boyfriend and NOW you're asking US to tell you what to do. Well, here it is in a nutshell.

Grow up, accept some responsibility for your own life and your own choices, have a conversation with your boyfriend about the problems in your relationship. Either fix them or move on. Either way, do not drag an innocent victim into the mess you are creating. Yes, YOU are creating this mess by allowing it to go on.

Sorry, I know this is harsh, but damn.

yeah it's always the guy's fault...such crap this morning!