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Topic: If you had the opportunity
special_guy Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 6513	Sun 01/11/09 05:56 PM
yes

niko1 Joined Sat 09/02/06 Posts: 44	Sun 01/11/09 06:00 PM
sure why not.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Sun 01/11/09 06:06 PM
Shamefully, I have had the opportunity to do this twice and I did listen. People thought the phone was hung up and it was not. Needless to say, I got my feelings hurt each time. I don't know why people feel more comfortable saying what they want to say about someone to someone else.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 03/21/09 03:47 PM
Shamefully, I have had the opportunity to do this twice and I did listen. People thought the phone was hung up and it was not. Needless to say, I got my feelings hurt each time. I don't know why people feel more comfortable saying what they want to say about someone to someone else.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 03/21/09 03:49 PM
Years ago yes, now I have learned my lesson, the less you know the better off you are!!

ArtGurl Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 17722	Sat 03/21/09 04:02 PM
I saw a book title once that kind of sums it up nicely ... "What you think of me is none of my business"

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Sat 03/21/09 04:14 PM
I prefer to stay in my lil bubble of illusion. Much less painful that way

Twitch Joined Thu 09/27/07 Posts: 6199	Sat 03/21/09 04:32 PM
No I wouldn't listen; I've learned in recovery that it's none of my business what others think of me.

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Sat 03/21/09 04:34 PM
Wouldn't have to true friends are honest about it.

Loyaldad08 Joined Sun 01/11/09 Posts: 1131	Sat 03/21/09 07:12 PM
Nope - you are sure to misinterpret something

Meg8771 Joined Fri 01/16/09 Posts: 5662	Sat 03/21/09 07:15 PM
No - it usually leads to a misintrepretation of something that they would tell you if they wanted you to know.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Sat 03/21/09 07:29 PM
If you had the opportunity to listen in on a friend's conversation regarding yourself, would you take it? What other people think about me is none of my business...

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 03/21/09 07:31 PM
If you had the opportunity to listen in on a friend's conversation regarding yourself, would you take it? No, my "friends" are not that important to me, besides I mind my own business.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/23/09 08:33 AM


misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Mon 03/23/09 09:00 AM
when a person is lying and you have a chance to find out the truth why not take the opportunity to once and for all get the truth out in the open

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/24/09 05:28 AM


Adamal29 Joined Sat 09/27/08 Posts: 485	Wed 03/25/09 10:47 PM
no way! I allready know whats wrong with me, I don't have to hear it from a friend.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Thu 03/26/09 08:42 AM


Roweanne Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 437	Thu 03/26/09 08:56 AM
I recently read a series of books inwhich there was a magical object that, when used, showed only the truth. About everything, including the user. It could drive a person insane if they had so many delusions about themselves and the world around them that they couldn't handle the truth. I think that friends, both real and fake, can be like that object. Sometimes the truth hurts. I don't think I would want to know what they think. If they are real friends, they will last. If they are fake friends, you will find out without listening in on their back-stabbing.

feistybaby Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 2422	Thu 03/26/09 09:01 AM
No I wouldn't. My friends are all very straight forward about what they think of my actions. And if I have aggravated them and they need to vent to someone else then they deserve their privacy, they will eventually tell me themselves just as I would them. When something bothers you it is often good to get someones take on the situation before talking to the person involved. To me this isn't backstabbing or being disloyal it is gathering an objective opinion from an outside source.