It’s been my experience that men are generally much more capable of resentment, possessiveness and jealousy

Of course, after what she did today, I don't think I could really ever see her again without getting too mad and for that reason, I will never agree to see her again.

If this woman is going into your dorm room when you are not there and basiclly "laying in wait" to disrupt your life you need to get serious and fast.

I would take this situation as serious. Since you live in a dorm you may have to deal with the schools system of "manageing" things rather than the standard legal system but most schools do not want the bad plubicity of letting a situation like this "blow up" so they are going to do something to correct the situation. Probably kick you out of the dorm.

I would get a lawyer and immediately have a conference with the dorm managers and make it clear that this relationship is over and you want no contact. He is probably not going to let you say a lot and that is just fine.

You are not going to make sense out of her acting like a lunatic. She doesn't care about school at this point and all she is focused on is harrassing you. Since she evidently has friends, to get into your room, it is highly likely she will not be easily deterred.

Stay away from her. Don't speak to her, don't talk to others about her, don't stay in common areas where she is at. Don't take classes with her. Change the locks on your door and give No One access to your room. If a room mate will not co-operate with a no access policy to her then you may have to chuck the expense and find alternative houseing.

What I would NOT do is go to on campus resources for counseling because even though they are suppose to have confidentiality because they are going to look out for the school first and their jobs. Go to the county mental health; they will treat you on sliding scale or a private professional outside of their relm of influence. Before you say you are not crazy accept that this woman is declareing war on you and sounds like she is "crazy" and you are going to need help copeing with it.

Sorry to say this kind of "internal" dramas are not new to schools where often there is little influence for people to act normally and plenty of stress, drugs, and alcohol and so called friends to help them come apart at the seems.

There are however oversight programs that I would recommend you find through the states education boards. They don't look kindly on students bringing drama into the academic situation.

I don't know where your parents are but you need to tell them what is going on, all of it, and do it now.